Le nkulumo, ngokucacile nangokuzwakalayo, uzwa kabi ngabesifazane. Iningi lezintombi esikoleni, eyunivesithi kanye nozakwabo emsebenzini babheke kulo nyaka sekuvele bathathwa ngumndeni, izingane. Izithombe zephathi yomshado, unkosikazi osemusha ojabulayo, izinyathelo zokuqala zezingane azizange zibe namanethiwekhi omphakathi zivila kuphela noma owesifazane oxoshwe kakhulu.
Futhi makube nezinkambiso zemfashini ezintsha eziqala ngo-30, zithi lesi sikhathi ukwakha umsebenzi, ukuzijabulisa ngokwazo, ukuzijabulisa futhi ziphile ngekhoyili ephelele, konke kusemphefumulweni ogcwele. Abesifazane abazelwe ngawo-1980s baboshwe ngesiko elihluke ngokuphelele. Kusukela ebuntwaneni, lapho bekungakabi khona abezindaba abasebenzayo, bekukhona imidlalo endodakazini kamama, kanye nemicabango eminingana ngesihloko esithi "Santa Barbara". Amantombazane alezo zikhathi azi kahle ukuthi kufanele azazise amanani omndeni ngaphezulu kwabanye.
Njengoba sesifinyelele eminyakeni engama-30 kuphela, i-alamu yabesifazane abanjalo ifinyelela phezulu kakhulu. I-Psychology ibiza lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kwe- "Social Neurosis." Lokho wukuthi, umfazi osakwazi ukulungela ukudala ubudlelwano, umndeni kanye nokuzalwa kwezingane, kepha uhlaka lomphakathi esigxile kulo ngokuzenzakalelayo, bamtshela ukuthi esizungu sakhe kukhona into engajwayelekile.
Ukwesaba kokuba hlobo oluthile "olunephutha" kunendaba ukuxazulula le nkinga nganoma yiziphi izindleko. Imvamisa isebenza njengensizakalo embi. Nge-alamu eyandayo, owesifazane ungena ebudlelwaneni ngoba nje kunesidingo sokuthi "faka umkhaza" ukuthi uyaphila. Umzamo ngamunye ongaphumelelanga uba yi-fiasco ebuhlungu, yingakho ukuqiniseka kuya ngokuya kukhula ukuthi "kukhona okungahambi kahle kimi", futhi konke kusha. Ngakho-ke isiyingi siyavalwa.
Esikhundleni sokuvuthwa ngokweqiniso futhi ulungiselele impilo yomndeni, abesifazane baphambukiswa ukuthi bafakazele ukuthi bajwayelekile. Ubufakazi Lokhu kuvame ukubhekiswa komama noma obaba, kwesinye isikhathi - ozakwethu bangaphambili, imindeni ehlulekile kuyo. Kodwa-ke, le mizamo ayithwali ukuthula nokulungela impilo yomndeni. Kule mizamo, owesifazane uba namandla ngokwengeziwe, uyawazisa, ecindezelekile. Akunabuhlobo obunempilo lapha.
Imvamisa ukungabikho kwesemuva okuqinile ngesimo sokubambisana komndeni kulungisiswa yikhono eliphumelelayo kanye namakhono ezezimali. Ngemuva kwakho konke, akunakwenzeka ukuzwa ukulahlekelwa yonke indawo. Ngakho-ke, kaningi ungahlangana nowesifazane osemusha onomsebenzi omuhle kakhulu, ongokwezithombe nowokuvelela, kepha ngokuhluleka ngokuphelele ukwakha ubuhlobo bomuntu siqu.
Ungayibona kanjani "i-neurosis yezenhlalo" kulesi sihloko? Yebo, kulula kakhulu:
- Uma uthumela kabusha ngomcabango wokuthi usuvele unayo iminyaka eminingi, futhi ayikho imindeni nezingane;
- Uma uxosha umsebenzi ophumelelayo emaphathini futhi uthweswe iziqu futhi uhlangane futhi uthandazele impilo yomuntu siqu okufanele ibuzwe;
- Uma ufunda ngasese amasayithi ekuvundisweni kokufakelwa;
- Uma ukudelela, ukulalela abangane bakho Xoxa ngamadoda noma izingane zakho, bese sekwenzekile kuwe (uma nje usuwufezile ubudala ... ngo-25, ake sithi);
- Uma ukhohliswa ngokuqinile ngokukhathazeka nokuphelelwa yithemba ukuthi inkosana yakho ayisaphakanyiswa futhi ayifiki, ungakubeka ngokuphephile lokhu kuxilongwa okulula.
Kepha iphuzu akuyona ukunaka izingxoxo nokuhleba kwemvelo. Noma uzifundisa ukunganaki amahlaya emshadweni, khona-ke kwabesifazane abagxile kakhulu kumanani omndeni, ukucasulwa nokukhathazeka ngeke kuhambe noma kuphi. Ngamanye amagama, ngifuna ukudala umndeni, kepha kulesi sihloko kunobunzima obuningi kakhulu, ubuhlungu kanye nokuphelelwa yithemba, okulula ukukunaka futhi ukungaphinde kuthinte inxeba futhi.
Iningi labesifazane abaningi abanxusa kulesi sihloko kuzakwabo bama-Psychologists nakwabashokobezi, litholwe ngenxa yomsebenzi lapho isihloko somndeni nobudlelwano "abagcwele khona". Kwaqongelela ubuhlungu obuningi, ukwesaba, intukuthelo. Njengomthetho, kwenziwa emindenini yamabanga aphansi lapho laba besifazane bakhula khona. Ukubuka abazali bakho, bafinyelela esiphethweni sokuthi bekungcono kunalokho. Noma ukuthi ngeke kuphumelele, futhi akekho ozongifaka esikhundleni sothando lomndeni wami.
Isinyathelo ngesinyathelo, ukwembula imicu yesikhathi esedlule nesikhona, ukuthola isikhundla somuntu siqu esivuthiwe, inani elikhulu lalabo besifazane abasahlangana nabalingani abafanele futhi badale izingane, babelethe izingane. Ikakhulukazi ngoba baseze bazifaka engozini ukuze bavume ukuthi badinga ukusekelwa ukuxazulula lolu daba oluphuthumayo.
Okwamanje ...
Phesheya, akusona ngokwesiko ukubala iminyaka yobudala besifazane kuze kube iminyaka engama-30. Kukhona ukuqiniseka ukuthi ngemuva kokuqala kuka-30 isikhathi esiqala lapho owesilisa nowesifazane kufanele bacabange ngokwakha umndeni, futhi umqondo onemibandela "wentsha" uqediwe eminyakeni engama-40. Futhi ubufakazi balokhu buningi phakathi kwezinkanyezi zaseHollywood. Isibonelo, umlingisi odumile uPenelope Cruz washada noJadem oneminyaka engu-41 ubudala waseSpain uJadem ngo-36, ama-Eva Mendes asevele eneminyaka engama-40, kepha ake acabange ngomshado, uLeonardo Di caprio eminyakeni yakhe engama-39 futhi akakaze ashade. Charlize Theron - Eneminyaka engama-38 ubudala, akakaze ashade, kepha manje umlingisi ubonakala sengathi uyazama iqhaza kuMlobokazi: ngokwemibiko yabezindaba, inkanyezi isivele ilungiselela umshado nge-Sean Penn. Umculi waseColombia uShakira uthole injabulo yakhe kuphela eminyakeni engama-33 kuphela ubudala - ngokunembile kulo nyaka umlingisi waqala ukuhlangana nomdlali webhola uGerard ophakeme, nangemva kwesikhashana wabeletha indodana yakhe. Kuliqiniso, lo mbhangqwana awuke wehla ubuhlobo bawo - uShakira ukholelwa ukuthi isitembu ephasiphothi asinandaba.
UMaria Zemmskova, udokotela wezengqondo, udokotela wokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholayo kwesikhungo sokukhulisa sokukhula kukaMarika Khazina