I-TREASAS iyimbangela ethandwa kakhulu futhi ejwayelekile yokuhlukanisa nesehlukaniso. Kuyiqiniso, into ebuhlungu ngempela ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi abantu kulula ukuyisabalalisa ngaphandle kokuphila ngokulindela noma ukusongelwa ukuthi kuzophinda futhi.
U-Alan noBarbara Piz, abelaphi baseMelika, bathi abantu bacasha kabi ukuba khona kobudlelwano obufanayo, kodwa abesifazane, kunalokho, bagcina imfihlo. Futhi uma abesifazane bengafuni ukukwenza okusobala, khona-ke umlingani wabo uzokwazi ukuqagela ukuthi kwenzekani. Ngasikhathi sinye, amadoda ashintsha kabili njengabesifazane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izinhloso, ukusunduza labo kanye nabanye ngobudlelwano obufanayo nobudlelwano, kuhluke ngokuphelele. Abacwaningi abafanayo bathi isidumbu sendoda sakhiqizwa yi-hormone ebhekele inkanuko. Ngenxa yaleli Hormone, baba ngonya futhi bayenga, bafuna indawo ngowesifazane. Ngokufika komlingani waphakade, ukuthuthukiswa kwaleli Hormone kuncipha kancane, ezilinganisweni, kepha akuhambi ndawo. Indoda idinga ukunqoba futhi, funa, ihlole inkanuko nenkanuko. Kulokhu, umlingani wakhe kufanele 'abe nesibindi futhi. " Kepha kaningi, ukuyenga akwenzeki ngenxa yezimo ezithile zokuphila: ukuvalwa emsebenzini, izingane, impilo, ukulahlekelwa yifomu. Owesifazane uphinde anqobe i-hormone ebhekele ubumnene, uthando, ukudala isidleke. Imicabango kanye nezinhloso zakhe kuhloswe ngazo ukuqinisa imindeni nobudlelwano, imvamisa akacabangi ngalokho okuba yinto engakanani kahle umlingani. Ngakho-ke, amadoda anqoba abesifazane eceleni. Okungenani lokhu kuchaza ukuvukela umbuso okuphilayo.
Ukuvukela kwabesifazane, kunalokho, izizathu ezikhethekile zezengqondo. Abesifazane baya "kwesobunxele" ngenxa yezizathu eziningana: ukuzwa ukugula komyeni wakhe, bafuna ukuzifakazela ukuthi basafuna amadoda. Noma ukuziphindisela ngenxa yokuvukela komuntu othandana naye.
I-Psychology Yomndeni Ibonisa ukuthi ukuvukela umbuso kuwukukhala kosizo ebudlelwaneni bomshado. Ozakwethu bathola ukusilela okukhulu ebudlelwaneni (mhlawumbe bathande, ukuthembeka, ukuqashelwa, izibuyekezo, ukuthuthukiswa) futhi kwenze indlela "ephephile" komunye umuntu. Imvamisa, ukuvukela umbuso kusebenza njenge-stabilizer of okuxekelekile kanye nobudlelwano obuvela kubalingani. Zonke izitha ze-assilielized Ness zithola owesithathu, ibanga phakathi kwabashadikazi likhuphuka futhi livikeleke ngokwengeziwe. Imishado eminingi ilawulwa ngokukhaphela, okuvumela abalingani ukuthi bayeke futhi balondoloze ubudlelwano obufanele nohloniphayo nobunhlonipho. Inkinga kuphela ukuthi ukuba khona kwetshe elinjalo le-sinus, ukuxhumeka okufanayo, ungavumeli abalingani ukuthi basondele futhi bathembele ngokuphelele. Ngemfihlo yabo, bakhokha ukusondelana nokusondelana, okungadalwa nomlingani.
Isihloko akulula ukuguqula ukwelashwa. Kubo bobabili abalingani kuzofanela bavume ukuthi ukuvukela umbuso kuyindlela yokubhekana nenkinga ebudlelwaneni. Yize uhlangothi oluthintekile luthambekele ekusole umlingani osebuhleni nangesilonda esibikayo, ukwelashwa okukhona nokuthethelelwa okuza lapho bobabili abalingani beqaphela ukuthi basebenzise lesi simo, kanti okwesibili kwavuseni ngalokhu.
Lowo oshintshile, kuyadingeka ukuze unamathela ngempela ukuze uhlangane nobuhlungu bonke ababangele umlingani wakhe. Ungazami ukuthambisa, nikeza ngokusobala izithembiso ezingamanga ngokusobala, sicela uboshwe. Vele uqaphele iqiniso lokuthi ulimaza inxeba, elizohlala liphakathi kwabo liye kwelinye izinga noma elinye.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, bobabili abalingani kumele bamukele iqiniso lokuthi lo mcimbi awusoze wenza ubudlelwane babo ngokufanayo. Futhi lapho bobabili bezolungiswa kumuntu abadala ukuze bavumelane ngalezi zinguquko, khona-ke ukuhlangana kabusha kungenzeka.
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