Ngiyazi ukuthi abazali bayangithanda. Lesi sitatimende asikaze sibuzwe ekhanda lami; Ngiyabona leli qiniso linikezwe. Ngezikhathi zokucasuka okunamandla noma ingxabano eyisiwula, ngiyazi ukuthi umama nobaba akanalo itiye kimi. Futhi lokhu, kunjalo, ngomathempeli! Kepha sekwanele ngokwanele?
Ngineminyaka engu-22 ubudala, futhi ngisahlala endlini yabazali bakho, ngivuka njalo ekuseni nabo futhi ngezikhathi ezithile ngifunga ngenxa yezinkinga zansuku zonke. Ukuze ngithembeke, angicabangi ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi ukuziphatha okungalungile, ngoba ngicabanga ukuthi ngingenze ngangithanda ingane eyisibonelo: ngiyasebenza, ngifunda futhi ngenzuzo kawenzi lutho. Kodwa-ke, ukuqwashisa ngothando oluhambisanayo akukukhiphi imisindo komunye nomunye. Ngeshwa, njengabunye ubuhlobo, izikhathi zenzeka lapho ngiyeka ukwazisa ukunakekelwa kwazo nomsebenzi, ukucasulwa ubuwula bese ngihlela ama-hysterics (yebo, ukubonakaliswa okunjalo "kothando" kuye kwenzeka).
Mhlawumbe ukube besihlala ngaphandle, khona-ke kuzoba nezimo ezimbalwa ezivusa inkanuko. Uyazi, njengoba kwenzeka, njengoba kwenzeka: Angizange ngigeze izitsha, ngikhohliwe ukuhlanganisa inja, ngafika ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kunokujwayelekile, ngavuka kulolo unyawo. Noma, ngicabanga, ngingasho ukuthi lezi ngenye i-otmashka. Ukuhlonipha nokwazisa - ungahlali komunye umkhawulo wezwe. Kwanele nje ukukhumbula ukuthi phambi kwakho abantu ababiza kakhulu abangenacala lokuthi ukungaboni ngaso linye kwenzeka phakathi kwakho.
Ngasizathu simbe, nabangane nabathandekayo, siyazinqanda, kwenye indawo esicindezela ukukhulisa ulaka, besaba ukulimaza imizwa yomunye, endaweni ethile yokuxhaswa. Kepha ukuxhumana nabazali, kwesinye isikhathi sikhohlwa ukusho ukuthi siyabathanda. Muva nje, umama wathi "asisebenzi ngokujwayelekile ukuxhumana", okuwukuthi, ukukhuluma iqiniso, ngamangala kakhulu. Bengicabanga ukuthi sisesigabeni lapho konke kuhamba kahle. Ngakho-ke, hhayi ezingxoxweni, icala: Sengiqinisekisile ukuthi wonke umuntu ubona imininingwane eshilo ngendlela yakhe. Esikhundleni salokho, inkinga ilele ezenzweni. Mhlawumbe entweni engangingalungile. Kepha ake sinciphise, hhayi mina kuphela!
Akulungile ukusola izingane kukho konke. Abazali bangaphinde babe yiphutha, baphila nabantu abaphilayo abanezinkinga emsebenzini noma ezimeni ezingezinhle. Bayazi nokuthi bangathandeka kanjani futhi bacasulwe kanjani kuma-trifles. Umehluko phakathi kwethu akekho esizukulwaneni nathi "ukuhlakanipha", kepha ukuthi umuntu uyazi ukuthi angabona kanjani iphutha lakhe, futhi othile ukholelwa ukuthi uhlala ulungile. Futhi lokhu kujwayelekile. Cishe lapho kuvela ingane, ngizokwazi nokuthi kungcono kuye - lokhu kungukucabanga okunjalo. Isibonelo, lapho abazali bami besemgqeni esibhedlela, banquma ukuthi angikwazi ukwenza ikhadi ngokwakhe. Futhi ukuthi ungabachazela kanjani ukuthi ngenze imiyalo yansuku zonke emsebenzini kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kunokuba izwile igama ngesibongo nokubhaliswa? Yebo, ngiyaqonda ukuthi abazali bayazi wonke umuntu futhi benza izingane zabo zibe ngcono, kepha kufanele kube "nekhono" lokuba nemingcele ekugcineni.
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Ngiyavuma ngokweqiniso, angifuni ukutshela abazali ngezinkinga zami, ngifuna ukuzixazulula ngokwakho. Lokhu akusho ukuthi 'ngingumuntu okhulile futhi ozimele, "kubonakala kimi ukuthi banezinkinga zabo, futhi angiboni iphuzu lokuphazamisa abantu abathandayo lapho ngikwazi ukubhekana nezimo zakho. Kepha lapho abazali bezama ukusiza lapho bengazange bacele lokhu, ngiqala ukuthukuthela.
Futhi kwenzeka, ngadutshulwa ngenxa yempumelelo engiwukucabanga, futhi angikubheki lokhu, kodwa khohlwa ukusho umbono wakho ngalokho okubaluleke kakhulu kimi. Ungacabangi, angisho ukuthi abazali bami bayangenangqondo futhi abanandaba nokuphila kwami, sinezinto eziza kuqala ezahlukene, yilokho kuphela.
Angicabangi ukuthi inkinga isemehluko wezizukulwane. Ngingatshela abazali bami konke: kusukela emcimbini omncane kuya esigamekweni esikhulu, futhi ngiyazi ukuthi ngizongiqonda. Enye into ukuthi akudingeki ngaso sonke isikhathi ukwaba okwenzekile; Ezinye izikhathi kufanele zishiywe nawe. Ukusuka kulobu budlelwano ngeke kweluleke kakhulu noma kungamanga.
Mhlawumbe isizathu "Kungani kungasebenzi", kulele ekulindelweni okweqile. Kusuka kubantu obathandayo, sihlala silindele izinto ezifanele, sikhohlwe ukuthi wonke umuntu "olungile". Angikhulumi manje ngemiyalo eyisikhombisa nezindinganiso zokuziphatha ezaziwayo. Nakhu okunye: Izingcingo zansuku zonke zeBhanali noma iziphakamiso. Othile akazange aqagele ukuthi bekulindelekile kuye, futhi ngengozi wakhuphula icala elisha, elinye elinqume uSilek. Ngakho-ke qinisa ibhola lokungaqondi.
By the way, mayelana nokungaqondi! Izinsuku zenzeka lapho ngifuna ukuguqula yonke into "ekhanda eligulayo liye ephilile", kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile sesikhathi esinjalo yinkinga le nkinga ihlala emahlombe ami. Lapha ngiyavuma ukuthi amawayini kimi: kufanele wakhe ngokucacile izifiso zakho. Imvamisa sikhohlwa ukuthi abanye akayona ama-telepaty, kungenzeka bangaqondi izinkomba zethu nezithembiso ezifihliwe. Ababelethi bangazi kangcono ukwedlula wonke umuntu, kepha abakwazi ukufunda imicabango.
Kepha ngokuvamile, ngitshele, kufanelekile ukumba egqoke izingubo ezingcolile futhi uhlaziye zonke izinyathelo? Mhlawumbe kulula ukuthanda abazali ngaphandle kokucabanga ngawo, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi xolisa ngemibalo? Ukuxabana nokungaqondi kuyindlela eseceleni yanoma ibuphi ubuhlobo. Kuyadingeka ukuyithatha bese uzama ukunciphisa inani lezikhathi ezingezinhle. Lapho-ke konke kuzolunga.
Konke mayelana nami engikhuluma ngakho, - I-Banal futhi kudala yaziwa, kepha kwesinye isikhathi udinga ukufunda umbono wenkulungwane yenkulungwane ukuze ekugcineni ibe nesenzo. Isibonelo, manje ngizohamba ngiyokungana umama nobaba.