Noma ubusuku obuhle obumnandi bufika ama-SMS. Wena, ngengozi ekuboniseni igama lomthumeli, buza: "Ngubani?" Futhi uyaphonsa: "Yebo, akukho okubalulekile."
Konke ukwethuka nokuthukuthela, ukuthi umlingani wakho akazange akhohlwe uthando lokugcina, wawela. Izigidi zemicabango gijima ekhanda: "Usamthanda," "Ufuna ukubuyisa," "Futhi nangu-ke mina?", "Kungani engangitshelanga ukuthi basakwazisa?" ...
Futhi izimo ezinjalo zivame.
Ake sizame ukuthola ukuthi kuvela kanjani lokho ebudlelwaneni, ngaphezu kwabalingani bangempela, ama-passias abo wangaphambilini abamba iqhaza. Ngizonikeza izibonelo ezimbalwa ekusebenzeni. Ukubonisana kwafika indoda eyayikade ishade isikhashana, yaletha izingane. Kepha ezikhathini zenhlekelele ebudlelwaneni nomkakhe bawela ezinhlanganweni ze-delancholic zothando lwakhe lwangaphambili. Ngize uxhase ukuxhumana okubuthakathaka naye, uhalalisele ngamaholide, walandela ikhasi lakhe ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi. Akashintshanga umkakhe futhi akazange azame ukubuyisa okwedlule. Ngenxa yokusebenza eqenjini lezengqondo, wakwazi ukuqaphela ukuthi wayevele acashe kusukela ekujuleni kwesandleni nobudlelwano nomkayo. Ukujula, ukusondela nokusondelana kwakhe kwesaba. Waphazamisa ngokweqiniso ukuthi umkakhe angahle asondele kuye, abone amaqembu akhe asengozini. Ngakho-ke uncamela ukugijimela ezinkumbulweni zothando zesikhathi esedlule. Iphuzu lokugcina kule ndaba kwakuyiqiniso lokuthi waya edolobheni lakubo, lapho ayeza khona neyokuqala. Lapho, bahlangana futhi bakhuluma ukuthi kungani ubudlelwano babo bebengasebenzi, njengoba sebephila manje nokuthi banjani imisebenzi yabo ebalulekile. Ngemuva kwalokho le ndoda ilandise eqenjini: "Kunzima ukuthola umuntu emhlabeni ekude kakhulu kunangaphambili wami! Singabantu abahlukile kangangokuba babengeke bahlale ndawonye namuhla! Ngabuya edolobheni lami ngempumuzo enkulu kulokho engikubeka iphuzu. Angisadingi ukuphila impilo ngentokozo elahlekile. " Emva kwalokho, le ndoda yabantu abadala ngempela yaqala ukuxhumana nomkakhe: yaqala futhi ingabizi kakhulu, yakhuluma naye obala ngayo yonke into ekhathazayo ngayo yonke into ekhathazayo. Kwabuthana ngendlela efanayo umbhangqwana futhi kwafakelwa ubudlelwano babo. Umphumela wakho konke lokhu kwakungukuzalwa kwenye ingane.
Omunye obambe iqhaza uthole ukuthi umlingani wakhe ukhuluma kakhulu nomusa wakhe wakudala, uya evakashele. Umhawu kanye nentukuthelo yabahlanganyeli bethu ibingawazi umkhawulo. Ngenxa yalokho, inketho engcono kakhulu eyakheke ngaye wakhetha ukuhlukana nesithandwa. Kwakungekho amasonto njengoba ayekade enjengalo nePassasya yakhe yangaphambili yaqala ukuhlala ndawonye. Ngemuva kwalokho, obambe iqhaza lethu batshelwa ukuthi wacabanga ukuthi umlingani wakhe uwusebenzisa njenge-anasthesia ukuze asinde kugebe. Ukuthi ubudlelwane naye buye balulwe, bungelula, ngaphandle kwemizwa ekhethekile evela ezinhlangothini zombili. Ukuze umuntu obambe iqhaza, kwakuyisifundo ukuthi akufanele afune abalingani abangakhululekile.
Elinye icala lenzeke nowesifazane oseneminyaka yobudala obuhlanya kahle. Washada, waphakamisa indodakazi yakhe. Umshado wakhe omfishane ungabizwa ungajabuli: Umyeni wangaphambili waphuza wamshaya. Ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane, bahlukanisa. Ukubamba iqhaza emaqenjini, ezungezwe abantu bakhe ukumsekela, wavuma ukuthi empeleni akamthandi umyeni wakhe. Nokuthi waboshwa ngempela kumngane wakhe wesikhungo. Ukukhuliswa kwento "enhle, ntombazane" yadlala ihlaya elinonya. Wagcina inkumbulo yokuthandwa kwakhe iminyaka eminingi, indodakazi yakhe, wesaba ukunxusa kuye. Ukwesaba ukwenqatshwa kwakunamandla kangangokuba, waze washiya wedwa ngemuva kwesehlukaniso, akazange athathe isinqumo sokukwenza lokhu kwaze kwaba yilapho indodakazi yakhe ikhule futhi ayisukanga kuye. Isizungu kanye nombono wokuthi akukho lutho oluzolahlekelwa khona, wacindezela ukubamba kwethu eqinisweni lokuthi uthole isithandwa sakhe, ngokwakhe ehlukane iminyaka eminingi edlule futhi wedwa waphila. Kwavela ukuthi imizwa yabo yagcinwe. Futhi mabadedele vele abaneminyaka engama-20 ubudala, baqala ukukhuluma futhi bathuthumela, bezama ukuphahlazeka iminyaka engama-35 yokwahlukana.
Uma ufingqa wonke la macala, khona-ke umbono oyinhloko uthi: "Ubuhlobo obungakapheli" bunjengendlu ekhohliwe yensimbi, hhayi ukucishwa endaweni yokuhlala. Baheha ukunakwa namandla, basiphonse esikhathini esedlule. Siphikisana namagama ethu angaphambili okwakufanele ashiwo kanye, athethelele noma acele intethelelo sekwephuzile. Noma kunjalo, akukho lutho olungokoqobo kithina kunobudlelwano obungapheli. Sonke siyakwazi konke. Kepha uma sibona ukuthi umlingani wethu akazange aqede ubuhlobo, futhi azama ukuzakhela nathi, khona-ke lo ngumzuzu obucayi. Ngeke ukwazi ukuphazamisa lokhu othintana naye: noma i-Blackmail noma i-hysteria, noma ucansi kusukela ekuseni kuze kube kusihlwa noma ukukhathazeka kuzokusindisa eqinisweni lokuthi umlingani wakho akakakhululeki.
Ukuqedelwa kobudlelwano kuyinqubo ekhethekile edinga isikhathi nendawo yokuhlala konke okuhlobene nokuqhekeka kwemizwa: intukuthelo, ukudabuka, intukuthelo, uthando olungachazeki, umuzwa wecala nokukhipha. Akunakwenzeka ngokuphelele ukushesha noma ukugxuma. Kungenzeka kuphela ukusekela umuntu obhekene nokulahleka kwakhe. I-psyche ayazi ukuthi ungayikhipha kanjani okuhlangenwe nakho. Uyazi ukuthi ungabacindezela kanjani, uqhwa noma uphume. Kepha konke lokhu kuze kufike isikhathi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, imizwa eyakhiwe yabalekile ivame ukufaka wonke umhlaba ongokomzwelo nhlobo. Ngakho-ke, abantu babonakala bengenalutho, abanamandla amakhulu, abanobugovu, abakwazi ukuthanda nokuzwela. Futhi awukho umuthi ongcono ovela othandweni lwangaphambilini, kunokuba usinde konke okuqongelelwe, bese uyeka okwedlule.
Ngakho-ke, ukukhetha kuhlala kungokwakho. Noma ngabe umuntu osondelene nawe akakhululeki kuwe ngokuphelele, ukuthi udinga ukwesekwa kanye nokubamba iqhaza. Kuphakathi kokuqonda ngokungananazi ukuthi le nketho ayikufanelekeli, futhi ingxenye.
Kunoma ikuphi, ayikho "ithebhulethi yomlingo" noma indlela yendawo yonke yokuxazulula inkinga enjalo. Kothile, ukuba khona kwe- "yangaphambili" kuphunyuka ekukhohlisweni, kothile - uthando olungapheli, okungelona umuntu ozolugcwalisa. Kothile, kuyindlela nje yokubukeka muhle: gcina owesithandwa sakho ngemuva kwekhefu elinzima. Futhi kothile kuyindlela yokubhekana newayini lokuhlukanisa.
Into esemqoka ukucacisa isimo ngokwakho, okuvame ukungakufanele ukudala idrama kuyo.
UMaria Dyachkova (Zemskova), udokotela wezengqondo, udokotela wokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholela ekukhuleni komuntu siqu kwe-Mary Khazin Training Center