"Akehle ukhohlwe ... Okwadlula, akusabuyi," i-heroine yezinhliziyo ezithandekayo zekhathuni "inhliziyo ebandayo" yahlabelela. Akusizi ngalutho ukuthi bathi umlomo wengane uyiqiniso, iqiniso ukuthi: Akunakwenzeka ukuba necala isikhathi eside, noma ngabe ububangela abantu ababili abaseduze kakhulu - abazali. Kuphakamisa ukuthi kushintshe ukubheka izinto futhi kususwe ukukhathazeka.
"Ubaba akazange ahlanganyele empilweni yami"
ERussia, kusuka emindenini yezigidi eziyi-17, cishe izigidi ezi-5 kuza omama abangabodwa - awuwedwa owasala ngaphandle kobaba. Noma iyiphi ingane, makube nguNkulunkulu noma oneminyaka eyishumi nesikhombisa, ukuntuleka kwehlombe likababa oqinile eliseduze kwabantu kuzoba yinhlekelele yezengqondo. Siyaqonda ukuthi bekunzima kanjani kuwe nokuthi bekunzima kanjani kuMama wakho okulethe noyedwa. Kepha ukucasulwa ngumuntu kuphela owenqaba ngokuzithandela ukujabulisa ingane yakhe futhi ubambe iqhaza ekukhulisweni kwakhe, kunengqondo. Uchitha amandla akho ngentukuthelo maqondana nomuntu ophikisana nawokukwazi ukuthanda nokuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ngezinqumo zabo. Esikhundleni sentukuthelo, cabanga ngendlela ongahambelani nendlela efanayo eshelelayo futhi ube ngumzali omuhle kakhulu we-CHAD yakho.
Ngiyabonga umama ngokukhuliswa kwakho
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"Futhi bengihlala ngifuna indodana yami"
Izakhiwo zenzalamizi zomphakathi wethu ziphoqa umuntu ukuba enze izinto ezintathu empilweni, nonke nonke nizezwa izinkulungwane zamahlandla. Kepha uma umuntu ezalwa yindodakazi - lesi akusona isizathu sokuyeka ukukhuliswa kwakhe. Okomdala ofanelekile, uPaul ingane akufanele ibe nokubaluleka okubalulekile - zonke izingane zidinga ukuthanda okufanayo. Uma ubaba wakho eke wathi ephupha ngendodana yakhe, okungeziwe ngawe ngale mbiko engenangqondo, bekufanele ukumbuze ngezisekelo ze-biology. Kuyi-spermatozoa, noma kunalokho i-chromosome ibekwe kuwo, inquma phansi kwengane yesikhathi esizayo. Ngakho-ke zonke izimangalo "Umkhiqizi" bekufanele zibhekiswe kuye, hhayi umama nengane.
"Ukushaya ngempama ngezinjongo zokufundisa akunangozi."
Lapho nje udlame lwasekhaya, labo abangakwazi ukukhokhela ingane engenakuzivikela, ngaphandle kwemibandela bathembele kubazali bayo. Inhloso yezindlela kuleli cala ayithetheleli - akukho ukukhuphuka, ngaphandle kwenzondo nokungathembani yingane, lokhu akutholakali. Uma ukushaya ebuntwaneni, siyethemba ukuthi awukwazi ukuxhumana nabahlukumezi bakho - kulokhu ungathethelela ububi bokuziphatha komuntu futhi ukhohlwe igama lakhe kuze kube phakade. Uxolisa ngokweqiniso ukuthi kufanele usinde okuhlangenwe nakho okunjalo futhi wadumala kubantu abaseduze kakhulu. Futhi uma ungaboni lutho olusolwa ngodlame lwasekhaya, thintana nodokotela we-psychotherapist ukuze uthole usizo.
Udlame olwenziwe ekhaya alwamukeleki
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"Geza ngokushesha izimonyo bese ulala"
Ukulawulwa kanzima okuvela kubazali maqondana nobusha nakho kuyinto evame ukukwenza njalo ezweni lethu. Kepha nokwesaba abazali ngempilo nokuphila kwengane ngeke kube izaba zesimo sengqondo esingenangqondo kuye. Ngokwethemba kuphela, ubudlelwano phakathi kwamalungu omndeni, lapho ingane ingekethusa khona ukusho ngezinhlelo zabo kusihlwa nangesikhathi lapho ebuya ekhaya. Uma abazali bakho bevumela ukuhola futhi bephule imingcele yakho, ungaphindi amaphutha abo - yiba ingane yakho nomngane oseduze, kodwa hhayi ukwesaba ukujeziswa.
Yabelana nathi, kungani usacasulwa ngabazali bakho? Siyaqiniseka ukuthi ungathola ukusekelwa kumazwana avela kwabanye abafundi abashayisana nesimo esifanayo.