Ake sikuthole ngokuhleleka. Ngalezo zinhlonipho kuhlale kunezingibe zakho. Ngenxa, ngokwesibonelo, amantombazane amaningi amancane aba yinkosi abantu abashadile abashadile. Entombazaneni, le yindlela yokumemezela, njengowesifazane omdala othakazelisa ongathembela kontanga engenalwazi kuphela, kodwa nabesilisa. Isisekelo sethu sefilosofi, ukwakheka kobuntu bethu kwakhiwa iminyaka engama-28. Izimiso eziyisisekelo, izisekelo kanye nezimfundiso ngathi nangomhlaba sithola kuze kube phakade. Ngakho-ke, ngenkathi abantu abasha befuna indlela yabo, imigqa yabo ikhula eduze komlingani osevele oyisimeme.
Kepha lapha akulula kangako. Amadoda ashadile baba isisulu samantombazane amancane. Iningi lalezi zingoma ezingamanoveli aliholeli ndawo, njengoba la mantombazane awadingi abalingani besikhathi eside. Iningi labamele ubulili obuhle kunazo zonke, elivumelana namadoda ashadile, amadodakazi obaba noma izingane ezikhuliswe yimindeni ebincishwe amathuba. Ubudlelwano obusondelene buhlotshaniswa nobuhlungu, isijeziso, umlutha obuhlungu nokulahleka kwabo uqobo. Ngakho-ke, aneliseke ngokuphelele ngobudlelwano obude ngokude nokungakwazi ukusondela kwangempela.
Kumadoda, izizathu zabo zamanoveli anjengamanoveli aphakathi, ukuzama ukubamba, kungenzeka, ubunzima obunamandla ebudlelwaneni obushadile, lapho izindondo zabazali zibuthaka, futhi izithandani zithola ukuthi zipholile komunye nomunye.
Icala elihlekisayo ubudlelwano bensizwa enentokazi eminyakeni. Abantu kunamagama amaningi anciphisa ukusula okungenakufinyeleleka kowesifazane. "Ku-45 Baba - Berry futhi," mhlawumbe inkulumo evame kakhulu. Abesifazane ngezindlela eziningi bahlobanisa ubufazi babo nentsha, okusha kanye nentsha. Ngakho-ke, amathani okuzama ukutshala imali ukuze alondolozwe "izinhlobo zezimpahla". Bayazi ukuthi yintsha, ubuhle kanye nobulili kudonsela amadoda. Ngakho-ke, lesi sithandwa esisha siyindlela yokuzitshela ukuthi "Ngisencane kakhulu," ubufakazi bokuthi usesezingeni eliphakeme.
Okomlingani wakhe osemusha, lokhu futhi isenzo esithile somphefumlo. Njengomthetho, unesithakazelo ngokwengeziwe esicini somama balaba budlelwano: ukubekezela, ukwamukelwa, ukuhlakanipha kanye nokwethembeka kubalingani bakhe ezigabeni zokuvuthwa kwakhe. Amadoda anjalo azifunela umama ophansi kunalokho okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe.
Ukuyekethisa okunjalo phakathi kwabantu, okusongwe igobolondo lothando, uthando nempilo yomuntu siqu.
Ukufunda le ndatshana, mhlawumbe, ungahle ucabange ukuthi ubudlelwano nomlingani oqinile noma ophansi ophansi yimidlalo eqinile, okukhohlisayo kanye nezisusa ezifihliwe. Kodwa-ke, leli akulona iqiniso eliphelele. Ubudlelwano beqiniso nothando kungenzeka nanoma yikuphi ukungcola nomehluko weminyaka, ikakhulukazi lapho abazampa nabo lapho abazampa nabo bengaziphatha kahle, bazivuthiwe, izidingo zabo kanye nemisebenzi.
Ezimweni ezinjalo, umehluko wobudala uyisici nje lapho kuzodingeka khona ukuze ufunde ukuphila: Thola izintshisekelo ezijwayelekile, imisebenzi, onesifiso sokuphila komunye nomunye.
UMaria Dyachkova (Zemskova), udokotela wezengqondo, udokotela wokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholela ekukhuleni komuntu siqu kwe-Mary Khazin Training Center