Kubukeka sengathi yizolo kuphela izolo ufunde izincwadi ndawonye, zithole amaphuzu enkulisa kanye nezinkondlo ezihleliwe zezinkondlo ngoMatinee woNyaka oMusha. Futhi namhlanje, indodakazi yakho iphothule esikoleni, yangena esikhungweni futhi yaze yathola umsebenzi wesikhashana. Ingabe isikhathi sokumvumela ukuba ahambe abhukuda mahhala? Futhi ungawabona kanjani isikhathi lapho isikhathi esihle senzalo sekuyisikhathi sokuqala sokuphila ngokwahlukana? U-Alina Delisse uhlanganyela imicabango yakhe ngale nkinga nezindlela zesinqumo sayo.
Kungani ingane ingafuni ukuhamba?
Imvamisa, ungezwa ukuthi imodeli yobudlelwano phakathi kwabazali nezingane eWest iholela kanjani njengesibonelo se- "Lide Life", lapho, khona, ingane ibhekwa njengabantu abadala futhi kufanele baphile ngokwahlukana futhi kufanele baphile ngokwahlukana futhi kufanele baphile ngokwahlukile. Kuhlale kukujabulela ukuyibona emikhosini yomndeni nangezimpelasonto, abazali abayeki ukuthanda, ingane nje iguqula indawo yokuhlala, iqala ukwakha impilo yakhe futhi yenze izinqumo. Kepha isimo sethu sengqondo saseRussia siyahluka phesheya kwezilwandle. Kwenzeka ukuthi iminyaka yokuhlala nabazali, ifinyelela eminyakeni yobudala evuthiwe ngisho nokwenza umndeni wangempela - kulungile. Hhayi indima yokugcina kulokhu idlalwa ngezindleko eziphakeme zezindlu, noma ngabe iyathenga noma iyaqasha. Futhi, uchwepheshe osemusha osafunda, noma aphothula kuphela e-Institute, kunzima ukuthola ngokushesha umsebenzi onomholo ophakeme. Kepha kufanele ube kanjani sesimweni, uma osemusha enenhlanhla futhi ethola ngokwanele, futhi ngenxa yalokho, angakwazi yini ukuhlala ngokuhlukile, kodwa ngandlela zonke edonsa lo mzuzu futhi akayona ngokushesha ukushiya indlu yabazali? Qonda ukuthi kungani izingane zingafuni ukuhamba ngaphansi kwephiko likapapa nomama zilula kakhulu: zithanda ukuhlala ekhaya. Ikakhulu uma umndeni unobudlelwano obufudumele, wonke umuntu ungomunye nomunye ngothando nangenhlonipho. "Kungani uguqule konke lokhu?" - Ucabanga osemusha.
Yebo, futhi abazali bavame ukungajahi ukuyeka ingane endandleni. Kusukela ebuntwaneni, bakha ingane ngokuncika ngokuphelele ezixazululweni zabo. Izingane azifaki amakhono okuzimela nokuzisebenzela kwasekhaya. Abanayo imisebenzi ezungeze indlu, abahlanganyeli ekwenziweni kwezinqumo, kepha bajabulele kuphela zonke izinzuzo abazinika abazali. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abanye omama abanothando nobaba abanothando ngezikhathi ezithile nabo baphonswa ephaketheni lezingane elidala "kwezokuzijabulisa". Ngabe kuyangibuza ukuthi osemusha akayona ngokushesha ukuvala umnyango ngemuva kwakhe?
Umlobi, isazi sezengqondo u-Alina Dissos
Izinsizakalo Zokushicilela Izinsiza
Kwathola nini isikhathi?
Ngakho-ke yisiphi isikhathi esifanele kunazo zonke sokuqala ukuzihlalela? U-Alina Delisse ukholelwa ukuthi ngentombazane ngayinye kulokhu kulena isikhathi sifika ngesikhathi sakhe. "Ngisho nodokotela bezengqondo abadumile emhlabeni abakwazi ukufika komunye umbono ojwayelekile. Kuyadingeka ukuxazulula le nkinga ndawonye, abazali nengane. Uma indodana noma indodakazi ingenakuthatha isinqumo, thatha ikhambi elivuthiwe, ungabajikijeli. Esikhundleni salokho, siza ukudlula lesi sipiliyoni ngokulahleka okuncane, ngoba emandleni akho ukudala yonke imibandela yalokhu: ukulawula ukukhetha kweRealtor, inani le-combul, i-livermer yangempela, njalonjalo. Futhi ungasifakanga lesi simo, ungasabisi ingane ngokuthi "uStrashilki" mayelana nobudala. Qondisisa ukuthi isidingo senkululeko kungenye yezigaba zokuthuthuka okujwayelekile komuntu, "kusho u-Alina.
Ungesabi ukuxoxa ngekusasa netiye lakho.
Ngabe imfundo yenkululeko iqala kanjani? Ngemuva kwerisidi lengane, isikhungo semfundo esiphakeme ngeke sibe yinhle kakhulu ukuze sixoxe naye ngezinhlelo. Yini ebona impilo yakhe eyengeziwe? Uhlela ukugxila ngokuphelele ekutadisheni noma uzobheka umsebenzi wesikhashana ngesikhathi sekilasi? Ngabe idinga usizo lwezezimali futhi injani umthamo? Uma engangeni eyunivesithi, kuzokwenzekani?
"Vuma, imizamo emingaki 'yokuzisebenzisa' ilungele ukuhlinzeka futhi uyikhokhele ingane osemusha. Futhi kuzoba yini ngempela? Imfundo ekhokhelwayo, izifundo ezinomfundisi noma izifundo zesikhashana? - Iluleka umbhali. - Uma ingane ingafuni ukufunda, usilungele isikhathi esingakanani ukuwuqukethe? Intsha izoqala nini ukufuna umsebenzi? Yiluphi uhlobo losizo lwezinto ezibonakalayo oludingekayo okokuqala? Futhi uzoba negalelo nini kwisabelomali somndeni? Konke lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu, iNdodana noma indodakazi kufanele ibe nomuzwa wokuthi, naphezu kothando lwakho nokunakekela, kuzofanela aqale ukwenza izinqumo, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuze athwale umthwalo wemfanelo, nangaphambi kwabo. "