Empilweni yomndeni ngamunye, njenganoma ikuphi ukuziphiliswa kwezenhlalo, kunezikhathi zobunzima. Futhi kaningi ukungqubuzana emndenini kukhula kuze kube sezingeni lokuthi abantu abake bathandana baphenduka abangabazi ngokuphelele, futhi ngisho nasezitheni ezimbi kakhulu. Ngokwezibalo ezisemthethweni, ama-65% emishadweni eRussia ehlukana ngo-2018. Uma ucabanga ngakho, kuyizibalo ezesabekayo: Ngaphezu kwengxenye yemindeni yaseRussia akuzange kudlule ukuhlolwa kwamandla. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ingxenye ebalulekile yezinyunyana zomshado ihlakazeka eminyakeni yokuqala yobukhona bayo.
Izizathu ezintathu eziphambili zesehlukaniso, ngokwezibalo ezifanayo - ubuphofu kanye nokungabi nakho ukuzondla umndeni, ukungakwazi nokungafuni ukuyekethisa nokubukelana nomunye, ukuvuma umbuso kanye nomona wabalingani. Lezi zizathu ezifanayo zingabizwa ngokuthi zombili izinto eziphambili ezinquma ubunzima ebudlelwaneni bomndeni, okuwukuphela kwesici sokuvukela umbuso okuvame ukuba ngumfowabo okhona, umphumela wokungagculisi kanye noma noma yisiphi isici sobudlelwano naso (ngokomzwelo , ngokobulili).
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Kungenzeka ukwehlukanisa okuningana okuyingozi kakhulu ngokwemigomo yenhlekelele ebudlelwaneni bezigaba empilweni yomndeni. Okokuqala, lo ngunyaka wokuqala wokuhlala ndawonye lapho abashadikazi bajwayela khona (noma cha ukujwayela) ukuhlala nomunye. Umzuzu wesibili oyingozi ukuzalwa kwengane nonyaka omlandelayo - amabili. Kungalesi sikhathi ukuthi kubangela inani elikhulu kakhulu lesehlukaniso. Inkinga yesithathu ineminyaka engaba ngu-7-8 yomshado. Inkinga yesine yiminyaka eyi-15-20 ineminyaka engu-15-20 yomshado, lapho izingane zikhula, abashadikazi bayakhula, hhayi izisulu zomunye nomunye kuphela, kodwa futhi nomuzwa owedlule wokuba khona komndeni.
Kunzima kakhulu ukunikeza izeluleko zokunqoba le nhlekelele ebudlelwaneni, njengoba umndeni ngamunye ungumuntu ngamunye. Ubudlelwano be-pair ngayinye banezimpawu zabo futhi lapho umkhandlu owodwa kufanelekile futhi imodeli eyodwa yesenzo ayikwazi ukuqhamuka nezinye izincomo. Izindlela ezibaluleke kakhulu ezibhekene nale nkinga ebudlelwaneni yikhono lokulalelana futhi lixoxisane. Noma yibuphi ubudlelwane babantu nomunye - uhlobo lokuxhumana. Kuyadingeka ukuthi abashade nabo, okokuqala, ukubona ukutholakala kwenkinga, kanti okwesibili, ukuze bafunde ukulalela ngomoya ophansi futhi bathathe iphuzu lokubukwa kozakwethu, noma ngabe kuhlukile kokwakhe, okwesithathu - hhayi ukwenza Ukukhuluma izixazululo ngaphansi kwethonya lemizwelo, icala lesikhashana.
Mhlawumbe inhlekelele ebukeka sengathi iyanqoba, empeleni ikhuluma kuphela ukuthi ubudlelwano bomndeni wakho budinga ukulungiswa okuncane, ukuguqulwa kabusha. Ngasikhathi sinye, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ungabenzi ubudlelwano bomndeni engxoxweni ejwayelekile, ungavumeli izihlobo noma izihlobo nezintombi ukuthola indlela osebenza ngayo, kuthinte izinqumo zakho. Ngemuva kwakho konke, yimpilo yakho kuphela futhi uyiphile kuwe!
Ingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu yempilo yanoma yimuphi umndeni iyindawo esondele kakhulu yokomoya. Uma abashadikazi belahlekelwa yintshisekelo yabo kulokhu, khona-ke umndeni onjalo usuphelelwe yisikhathi sokubola, noma ukulondolozela ukubonakala kobudlelwano phakathi kwabafokazi ababili ngokuphelele. Emphakathini wanamuhla, akukho lutho olunyanyekile ekuxoxeni ngenkinga komunye nomunye empilweni yezocansi, thola izizathu zabo, zama ukuzixazulula ngezindlela ezamukelekayo.
Kuyiqiniso, bobabili umfazi nomyeni wakhe babaluleke kakhulu empilweni yabo ndawonye ukuze 'bazigcine ngethoni' ukuze babe nentshisekelo ngengxenye yabo yesibili. Ukuguqula impilo yomndeni ibe yinto evamile, ekubumbeni okuyisidina kuholela ekuqhekekeni. Ngakho-ke, xhumana kakhulu nabanye, woza nento ehlanganyelwe - kuyinto ejwayelekile ehlanganisa abashaye ngayo njengoba kungenzeki, hloniphani omunye nomunye futhi ungabheki izisombululo zezinkinga zomndeni wakho ohlangothini.