Ngaphandle kwezocansi kunzima ukucabanga ubudlelwano obuvumelanayo nobunempilo ku-pair. Ukusondelana okukhulu kunomthelela ekwakhiweni kokuxhumana okungokomzwelo phakathi kwabantu ababili, futhi kusiza umzimba uhlale usesimweni esihle.
Kodwa-ke, kuvame ukwehluleka empilweni yezocansi, ngoba ubulili obungathathwa ngalo izinyanga eziningi. Sinqume ukuthola ukuthi yikuphi ukuzikhandla okungaholela kukho.
Ukuthuthukiswa kwezifo
Ngokwemiphumela yocwaningo, ubulili obujwayelekile busisiza ukuba silimaze okungenani kathathu kancane. Ngaphezu kokwenza ngcono ukungavikeleki, ukuzindla kocansi kunomthelela ekujikelezweni kwegazi okusebenzayo ku-pelvis encane, ngenxa yalokho ubungozi bokuthuthuka kwesibeletho buyekwa ku-zero. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokusho kwabesifazane ngokwabo, ukuya esikhathini phambi kocansi olujwayelekile kubuhlungu kakhulu. Umphumela omuhle wobulili uyabonakala hhayi kwabesifazane kuphela, kodwa futhi nengxenye enamandla: Amadoda nawo angenza ukuthi akhungatheke ezingeni le-pelvis encane, elithinta kabi ikhwalithi yesidoda futhi idala izinkinga ngokukhulelwa.
Ukunciphisa inzalo empilweni nokukhuphuka okucasulayo
Ngesikhathi sezocansi, kukhiqiza inani elikhulu lenjabulo ye-hormone, evumela ukuthi umzimba uphumule futhi uhole isimo sengqondo ukuze uhleleke. Ucansi luhlala olunye lwezindawo zokuqala ezilinganisweni zezindlela zokususa izingcindezi: Abantu abaphethwe yintukuthelo ekhuphukayo baya ngokuya bancamela ukuxazulula le nkinga ngokuzikhandla noma ngokusebenzisa izidakamizwa. Ungakhulumi ngokuzithemba kwabantu kubantu abangokobulili bempilo yabo yobulili, uma uhlangabezana nengcindezi engapheli engxenyeni enobunzima obukhulu, mhlawumbe kufanele ukwenze ukusungula impilo ebusayo?
Akukho senzoni esiholela ekuphazamisekeni kwengqondo
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Izinkinga ngeLibido
Ucansi oluhlala njalo nge-pair lisiza ukugwema izinkinga ezinhlangothini zemvelo, ezingena futhi ezingenwa ngokuphelele uma ubulili buba bukhona empilweni yakho. Ngokusho kwezibalo, abantu abagwema ukuya ocansini noma ukuvumela kokungabikho kwaso kwesikhashana banomuzwa wokuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, injabulo iyakhulisa kanzima, bese mhlawumbe inempela kwalasha. Konke kumayelana nokuhlelwa kwethu kwengqondo, okuthi ngomqondo othile "kususa" kusuka emvelweni ongadingekile. Buyisela intshisekelo yobulili ngemuva kokungabikho kwakhe isikhathi eside akulula, imvamisa kufanele uguqukele kusizo lochwepheshe.
Ubudlelwano buyaba lukhuni
Njengoba sishilo, embhangqwaneni, okuhlala isikhathi eside kuhlala ngaphandle koxhumana naye osondelene naye, akumane nje kunyamalale, kodwa futhi nezinkinga kuyo yonke imikhakha. Kowesifazane, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzwa ukusondelana okungokomzwelo nomlingani, okuba nje akunakwenzeka uma kungekho ocansini izinyanga ezimbalwa. Le ndoda ibuye iyekile ukuzwa ukunamathiselwa kwengqondo kuye ngowesifazane wayo, ngenxa yalokho, lo mbhangqwana uqala ukuxabana futhi wephule ukucasuka komunye nomunye. Ukungezwani okude kuyakwazi ukukwenza kube kubi kakhulu ubuhlobo, kodwa futhi kuholele ekuqhekekeni.