Kuliqiniso, ukungena emshadweni, asicabangi ukuthi ngolunye usuku kungenzeka kube yisikhathi sokuhlukaniswa. Ochwepheshe bedivodice babhekana namacala lapho kuhlukaniswa komndeni kungavinjelwa, kepha akukho lutho olungabuyiselwa. Kungakho siqoqe imithetho emihlanu, okulandelayo, ungakugwema izinkinga eziyingxenye enkulu yabesifazane ezibhekene nazo.
Ushada, futhi unganciki
Abaningi, uma kungenjalo iningi besifazane, bayazethemba ukuthi ngemuva kokuthola isitembu esihle kwiphasiphothi, imisebenzi yabo ifaka ukunakekela umyeni wakhe, ngaphandle kokuzibheka. Njengoba uqonda, umphumela womshado onjalo uba sehlukaniso noma, okubi kakhulu, owesifazane ukhetha ukwamukela isikhundla sawo esingaphansi. Khumbula ukuthi umyeni wakho ungumlingani okufanele akusekele, inhlonipho futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, uthando hhayi ngehembe eliphekiwe nehembe eliphekiwe, kodwa njengalokho. Lapho nje ubudlelwano benu buphenduka abe yimpahla, ngeke sikhulume ngokuhlala okuhlangene okujabulisayo.
Khetha indoda, egxile emizweni yawo, hhayi imibono evela
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Indoda ihlala ikusekela
Njengoba sesishilo, umlingani wakho kufanele akunikeze ukwesekwa, futhi ungahleki nganoma yikuphi okwenziwe. Imvamisa, amadoda asabela kabuhlungu kakhulu ekwandeni kwabesifazane babo noma avule ibhizinisi lawo, angaqondakala, kodwa hhayi ukwamukela. Ngaphambi kokuphendula "yebo" kwesinye sezindaba ezibaluleke kakhulu empilweni, qiniseka ukuthi umuntu uhlanganyela izifiso zakho futhi athathe zonke izici zempilo yakho.
Kufanele ukholelwe ngamandla akho
Abesifazane abavame ukuba yizisulu zobudlelwano obunobuthi, njengomthetho, bayasaba ukushintsha kanye nokuphila okuzimele. Kodwa-ke, ukulawula impilo yakhe kunikeza amathuba amahle kakhulu futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, ungakhetha ukuthi uzomane uhlangane noma uqale impilo ehlanganyelwe. Khumbula ukuthi ungumuntu wonke ongadingi indoda ukuthola isimo noma ukuvunywa kwabanye, kuyadingeka, ekuqaleni, wena.
Yenza iminikelo yezezimali ebudlelwaneni
Yebo, kukholakala ukuthi owesilisa ungumgodi ophambili emndenini, kepha le ndlela ikubeka endaweni ethembekile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, akekho owaziyo ukuthi impilo igoba kanjani, mhlawumbe ngolunye usuku, ukuhlinzekelwa komndeni kuzokuwa emahlombe akho, futhi kufanele ululungele, ngakho-ke iqhaza lenkosikazi yesikhathi eside lingadlala ihlaya nawe.