Ekhanda lesethi enkulu yabantu, lo mbono wawumbozwe ngokuqinile ukuthi bahlinzeka ngabazali babo abadala kanye nempilo ejabulisayo, ikakhulukazi lapho bethatha umhlalaphansi, balahlekelwa ngumsebenzi wabo wokuxhumana.
Imisebenzi yabadala yabadala abazali abadala ifaka ukunakekelwa kwezezimali nokunikela ngemizwa. Isizukulwane esidala siya ngokuya siletha abazukulu, babeke nabo ekhaya, bahlinzeke ngekhefu elihlanganyelwe, baphumule, shayela kaningana ngosuku, thatha izinkinga eziningi zasekhaya.
Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi iningi lifunda le migqa lizothi: "Yini inkinga ngalokho? Ngakho-ke kufanele kube njalo, kuwukuxhumana okujwayelekile nesizukulwane esidala. "
Ngempela, lokhu kungejwayelekile. Kepha ake sicabangele ukuthi yimiphi imingcele nobunzima bomuntu siqu obuthana lo msebenzi wezenhlalo.
Okokuqala, ukusola amanye amaqembu eqinisweni lokuthi akubonisi, alikho iphuzu. Kunezinhloso ezijulile ezakha nabazali bazo ubudlelwane obufanayo nezingane.
Njengomthetho, kwenzeka emindenini ekhathazekile ngezikhathi ezinzima: Omunye wabazali uyagula, iziphuzo, ezicindezelekile noma azikwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga zezezimali. Kwesinye isikhathi kuyenzeka lapho abazali bezala. Izingane zizwelana ngokujulile nomunye wazo, zama ukuphulukisa izinhlungu zazo nesizungu, ngokuzithandela ukuba ngabavikeli, abantu abadala abaningi maqondana nothile ezihlotsheni zabo.
Lesi simo sezindaba sikhubazeka intando nokuzikhethela kwesizukulwane esidala. Esikhundleni sokwanela ukufeza ukuguga kwakhe, isizungu, ukulahlekelwa okwenzeka kwangaphambili kanye nokuphila kwangaphambilini, kuncike ekwindla elisha empilweni, baphonsa esimweni sezingane ezincane, balahlekelwa okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo, ukuhlakanipha kanye nobungqabavu, ukuncika ezinganeni zabo.
Kuliqiniso, kulesi simo izinzuzo eziningi: ngokwesibonelo, ungabi ubuso nobuso ukuhlangana nezinto ezingenakubungazwa empilweni, njengesizungu, nokuguga, ukuguga, usizi, amaphupho angenakubonwa. Impilo efakwe ngokuqinile empilweni yezingane zakho, njengokungathi iphila futhi.
U-Eric Erickson, owase ubhekane neminyaka yobudala, wabhala ukuthi ukuguga lapho ukuhlanganiswa kwakho konke okuhlangenwe nakho kwakuhlanganiswa khona kwakucebile. Futhi ukuguga lapho ukubuyiselwa khona kabusha kwenzeka khona ezikhundleni zangaphambilini kugcwele kakhulu nge-alamu, ukwesaba, umuzwa wecala kanye nokungabikho okuphelele kwe-pacefication.
Izingane eziye zaba ngabazali bazo futhi zijabule kakhulu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, isikhundla se-Omnipotent sibanikeza umuzwa wokulawula. Zonke izingqinamba zokudla okunempilo, ukuzijabulisa, ukwelashwa, ukufunda kuthathwa ngaphansi kokulawulwa okuqinile. Ngasikhathi sinye, impilo yabo itholwa ngokuphelele neqhaza lomzali. Lokhu kusho ukuthi kunomthwalo owengeziwe ovela endaweni yokubukwa kwezimali, isikhathi, inani lezinto eziguquliwe. Amacala abi kakhulu womzali onjalo awanikeli izingane ezindala ukuzakhela umndeni wazo futhi abelethe izingane. Abaningi abakwazi ukuzikhulula ekuzwakalelweni kwecala nesikweletu phambi kwabazali babo.
Futhi uma udala, khona-ke lo mndeni, njengomthetho, uhlala engaphansi kwesigqi sempilo yendoda endala: "Kudingeka ufike kumama, umama umama wami kufanele athathwe nathi, kufanele sithathwe nathi, it kuyasiza futhi ukuphumula. "...
Abaphenyi baseRussia basikisela ukuthi iningi lemindeni ezweni lihlala ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa nabazali nezingane zabo. Abanayo indawo ehlukile yomuntu siqu. Umama noma obaba, okungukuthi, isizukulwane esidala sinelungelo lokuphazamisa izingane zalo abadala, nikeza izeluleko zokukhulisa izingane noma ezindabeni zomshado. Izingane ezinjalo zize zibe nezimfanelo zempilo yabantu abadala, empeleni azizange ziwele kuwo. Basaxhumeke ngokuqinile nabazali babo futhi abayidlulisi inqubo yokuhlukanisa, okungukuthi, isehlukaniso, ukwahlukana nabazali. Zilungele ukuhlala kulokhu kunoma yiziphi izindleko, ngisho nangaphezulu nokuba ngumzali kusizukulwane esidala. Ngoba lokhu kuxhumeka yize kuletha iziphazamiso eziningi, kepha zivikela ekukhuleni, inkululeko kanye nenkululeko yomuntu siqu ephelele.
Esimweni esinjalo, umuntu uthatha umthwalo ophelele wokuthi impilo ayiphile kanjani nokuthi yiziphi izindinganiso ezakhiwe. Kunguhlobo oluthile lokumsolwa noma kungabikho muntu lokubhala ukungahambisani kwakhe kunoma iyiphi imikhakha yempilo. Le nkululeko kanye ne-infinity iqinile futhi encane iyazi ukuthi kulula ukumboza lokwesaba ngokuxinana njalo nokuhlenga kwabathandekayo bakho.
Njengokwesibonelo, ukuba mdala ukunikela ngethuba lokuthi abazali babo asebekhulile basinde kuwo wonke imizwa ngalokhu, okubandakanya ukwesaba ukufa okusondele, futhi ngendlela yabo ukujwayela lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho, ngaphandle kokuqonda .
Angikhulumi ngalokho okufanele sikukhohlwe ngokuphelele ngabazali bami futhi senqabe ukubasiza. Kepha udinga ukubuka ukuthi yikuphi ukulinganisela empilweni owakha. Mhlawumbe lokhu kulimaza imisebenzi yakho, umndeni wakho noma nomqondo ojwayelekile. Lapho-ke lesi isibonakaliso esihle sokuhlala sibangela okuhle.
UMaria Dyachkova (Zemskova), udokotela wezengqondo, udokotela wokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholela ekukhuleni komuntu siqu kwe-Mary Khazin Training Center