Namuhla ekuseni ngiphumile ezimweni ezisebhange futhi nganquma ukuqhubeka nokufunda amadokhumenti nezinye izinto ezidingekayo epaki enkulu eduzane. Emasontweni ambalwa kamuva, ngizothuthela kwelinye izwe elisha nedolobha elisha, kodwa okwamanje, ngiphefumula umoya omusha weGeneva futhi ngilalele ukuculwa kwezinyoni eLa Grange.
Kukhona abambalwa: abantu abaningana basakazeka epaki enkulu otshanini. Emathrekhi phakathi kwezihlahla namaphaphu ahamba ama-paild amadala kanye nesalukazi, okuyinhlanhla, ngokusobala, ngemuva kwakhe indoda ... mhlawumbe nendodana yakhe. UNanny ... Umphakathi otholwe kakhulu yi-Thai ne-Phillipin abesifazane abavela ezinhlotsheni zaseYurophu zezingane. Imizuzu enjalo ye-tandem yokuhamba okungu-10 ukusuka ekungeneni kwepaki kuya esitolo, esafika, ngahlangana none. Izingane ezihlalweni ezinamasondo noma ngaphezulu, eqinisweni, zizinikele. Ama-Nannies, abheke ngokucophelela, ukuze ingane ingalimazi noma ingaqalanga ukudla utshani, yatshelwa ngentshiseko ocingweni, mhlawumbe nabathandekayo bayo. Ngokuphambene nalokhu ngemuva kwemizuzu ngemuva kwepaki, kwaqhamuka amaBrithani noma aseMelika ezinganeni ezimbili - eyodwa ku-stroller, enye yagijimela ngaye. Nginomntwana omdala, washintshana uhlobo oluthile lwemishwana, exhasa umdlalo wakhe. Omncane wayenenhlanhla, ethuthumela phambi kwakhe.
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Mhlawumbe lokhu okuthunyelwe kwami kungama-hormone aneminyaka engamashumi amathathu neminyaka yokugxekwa kwangaphakathi nangaphandle. Kepha kwabonakala kimi umehluko osobala phakathi kokukhanya emehlweni ezingane ezihamba ngempoqo futhi ecocekile babysitters, futhi lapha lo mfana ugijimela ubhontshisi wakhe. Amehlo akhe aqhakaze enjabulweni yokubona okusha ekuhambeni, kusuka ekuxhumaneni nabathandekayo. Yebo, yena akacabangi ngakho noma uyacabanga, kepha hhayi impela nalawa mazwi. Futhi akunakwenzeka ukuthi ebudaleni bayohlaziywa uma bekumsiza ngalezi zindlela zokuhamba noma umama ukuba afunde ukuthanda impilo futhi abe nentshisekelo kuye, noma ngabe zingeze ukuthuthukiswa kwethalente lokuphila futhi ngentshiseko. Noma kunjalo, kubonakala kimi ukuthi lezi zinto ezibonakala zibaluleke kakhulu "ekugcineni kwakha ingane noma into evulekile futhi evulekile, noma ivaliwe izama ngayo Yizwa, akukho lutho olungazizwa.
ESwitzerland, ngokusho komthetho, ikhefu lokukhulelwa, kufaka phakathi i-prenatal, yizinyanga ezi-4. Lokhu kusho ukuthi cishe izinyanga ezi-2 ingane idlulela kuma-babysitters nasekondleni lokufakelwa. Kwesinye isikhathi ingane izolethwa kunina ukuyokondla, futhi umama ubuyela esiteshini sokusebenza. Futhi ingane iya ePhillipin, e-Ukraine noma komunye umhlengikazi.
Kwenzeka ukuthi phakathi komsebenzi wami waseSwitzerland kanye nomsebenzi omusha kwelinye izwe ngakhashelwa isikhashana ngaphesheya kwenhlangano yenhlangano. Ngaphandle kokusebenza, ngaphandle kokuba nemigomo yokuthengisa namaphrojekthi ayishumi afanayo. Futhi lokhu ngemuva kweminyaka eyi-10 yomjaho wenhlangano. Okokuqala angikwazanga ukuqonda - okufanele ngikwenze? "... Kuyadingeka ukwenza okuthile! Ngaphandle kwalokho, ngiyini? Ngingubani? Ngokuvamile, kungani ngingenjalo-ke, uma kungenzi lutho, kepha kuphela isidlo sakusihlwa sipheka umuntu othandekayo! Uzokhathala maduze! Cha, ngiyakhumbula ukuthi ezincwadini ezihlakaniphile engizibhalile - kuyadingeka ukuthuthukisa futhi uhlukane ... Manje ukugijima ... zzzzzzzzzzzz-zzzzz ... ", - Futhi umsindo onjalo ekhanda lami ngaqala ukungihlanya. Ngangiqonda ukuthi kungani abesifazane baphuthuma kangaka ukubuyela emsebenzini, ngaphandle kokuzithethelela emthethweni oqinile waseSwitzerland, abaningi bethu kubonakala sengathi, bese uthola "umuntu." Futhi uma ekhaya sihlala futhi sikhule izingane (noma uNkulunkulu aze azikhulisi nezingane, kodwa vele ziphile!), Khona-ke singamakilabhu abayisidina.
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Futhi ukungabi nalutho ukuthi umsebenzi akayona injabulo, futhi seqa ukumamatheka kwezingane zethu. Amagama okuqala nezinyathelo abazenza emphakathini akanandaba nanny, engatholi imibono yokuvuma futhi baqiniseka buthule ngosana: noma ngabe benzani abazithandayo. Ngicabanga ukuthi inkathazo yethu (isakhiwo sezakhiwo esijabulisayo "sokucabanga kanye nabaholi abapholile") ukuthi asikhulumi ukuthi ubuciko nje. Ungenzi lutho, uhleli ebhentshini epaki noma kusofa ekhaya. Akukho lutho oluqalisa noma yini, kodwa umane nje usondelene namanga abathandekayo, nezingane. Ngaphandle kokudala noma yiliphi inani elibonakalayo elibonakalayo. Ngenxa yalokhu okuhlangenwe nakho, ngangiqonda ukuthi kungani abaphathi abaningi abaphezulu engibaziyo, bamthanda ngokweqiniso futhi bajabule ngamakhosikazi akho "azenzeli lutho". Banesipho - yiba nje. Futhi kulokhu - amandla amangalisayo. Ukuvuselela kabusha, ukwamukela, ukungagxeki. Kula mandla kukhona ikhono lokuthatha ezingeni lomuntu. Inendawo nendawo yokuhlala nezingane ezikhulayo. Yebo, yebo - kubaluleke ngokunembile. Ebukhoneni, ukwamukelwa, ukusekelwa nokufudumala. Akusho ukuthi, lokho, ukuthi nginxusa konke ukuyeka konke futhi "kube ku-Zen", kodwa ukukwazi ukuyeka nokukhipha imaski nokuzimela. Kulesi simo kuphela lapho kunendawo yokuthatha abanye, futhi, ngicabanga, kuphela kulesi simo lapho indawo yokuzalwa nokukhulisa izingane. Futhi yebo, ngithanda ukuba nezingane zami ngemuva kokuzalwa kwazo okungenani iminyaka embalwa. Noma ngabe kuzoba nzima kakhulu kimi ukuya emjahweni ochwepheshe.