Ngabe ucabange ukuthi kungani abanye abantu bebheka imichilo yekusasa, okunikezwa yikho konke okunikezwayo, abanye bazibiza ngokuthi abaphuluki abahlali lutho olunhle empilweni? Bagxeka, bathola umuzwa ongakufaneleki okuhle kakhulu, ngoba abanye "hhayi abanjalo": abayiziphukuphuku, ababi, abangahlelekile, kodwa empeleni abukho isethi yezimfanelo ezinjalo ezazizokwakha i Umuntu ongaphumelelanga, wonke amabhizinisi ekucabangeni.
Ngokwezinga elilodwa noma enye, ukwesaba izinto ezintsha, ukungaqiniseki emandleni abo kwaba yilowo nalowo kithi, ngisho nabantu ababonakala benokutholwa kwempumelelo. Kulungile. Futhi uma ungakwazanga ukuvikela umbono wakho, ubuyise ngokungabi nabungane, thatha iphrojekthi yephupho noma utshele imizwa yakho ukuthi into yokuzwela yisizathu sokubuyekezwa kwesimo sempilo. Kuyavela ukuthi ukuzethemba umuntu, akudingekile nakancane ukushintsha indawo yokuhlala, ukuthola ifa elikhulu lemali, ukushada ngempumelelo noma ukukhulisa isifuba. Konke okudingayo ukushintsha umbono wakho ngawe.
Khumbula ifilimu "ubuhle kuyo yonke inhloko" no-Amy Shumer endimeni enkulu? I-heroine ithole umsebenzi kanye nempumelelo yomuntu siqu, ikholwa ukuthi ngomusa waba ubuhle obumangazayo. Futhi waqala ukuziphatha ngokufanele. Futhi yize indawo ezungezile ibone phambi kwabo, wayengeke ayikhokhele ngokuzethemba kwakhe. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, baqala ukukubona njengoba nje azibeka. Futhi nge-heroine, u-Amy ekugcineni kwefilimu waba yisambulo esivele safinyelela kwabafisi ngaphandle kwezinguquko zangaphandle zemilingo, simane nje sikhange.
Ukuzethemba kuyancika ezivela ezimfanelweni zakho, kepha ukuthi uzihlole kanjani
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Thina ngokwethu sakha uhlaka. Kungani sake sanquma leso siphukuphuku, esibi, beBertalanny futhi asisoze sadansa? Ngabe izimpande zikhula kuphi ukungavikeleki kwethu? Ochwepheshe bezengqondo bathi zonke izinkinga zivela ebuntwaneni. Uma abazali bebelokhu bethi umama ongomakhelwane wenza okungcono, futhi babeneminyaka yobudala futhi bafunda abahlanu abaphambili, futhi ama-Olimpiki anqoba, futhi baye emidanseni, "izakhiwo zibandakanyekile ukubhukuda," izakhiwo zizovela ngokungenakuvuka . Ingane izonomuzwa wokuthi isengozini enkulu kunabanye, futhi wesaba ukwenza okuthile, ukubhekana nokwesaba ukwehluleka.
Ngisaphupha ngephupho le-nightmare le-nightmare enginikela ngalo ukuhlolwa kwezemfundo ngokomzimba. Esikoleni, izindaba ezigijima amakhilomitha amathathu namuhla, zangenza ngibe yisimo sokwethuka. Ngasungula zonke izinhlobo zezaba, ukuze ngingayi esifundweni, ngoba nganginesiphambano: Isiphambano angihambi. Yini eyayingalungile? Kungani ngihlale ngahamba nebanga naye - angikwazi ukuqonda. Ngemuva kwakho konke, kwakuyingane ejwayelekile, enempilo. Angikhumbuli ukuthi ukwehluleka kokuqala kwenzeka, futhi ngaqala ukuzibona ngiyintombazane ekhubazekile, kodwa ngangikubheka kakhulu. Futhi, i-fizruk yathela uwoyela emlilweni, ihlala ifaka ubuthakathaka bami kanye ne-clumsy. Kepha ebangeni leshumi nanye, umbuzo wasukuma ngonqenqema: Ngaya endodeni yegolide, kwathi kuphela isiko elilonakalisiwe lomzimba langidonsela phansi. Futhi-ke kwavela ukuthi le nkinga ibingafanele iqanda lokufekethisa. Mina nomngane wami saqala ukugijima ekuseni. Kakade ngenyanga kamuva, ngandiza lawa makhilomitha amathathu njengenyoni. Ukwesaba, umbhali we-fizruk onesitophuwashi, akasangidwengi. Ngikhumbula ubuso bakhe obumangele, lapho upendiwe, kodwa wajabula ngaze ngagijima kuze kube sekupheleni. Ngaleso sikhashana, lapho uzinqoba, izakhiwo zakho zibonakala zivula i-valve ethile, futhi ukhathazekile ngamandla wenjabulo. "Ngiyakwazi!" Esikhungweni, sengivele ngibambe iqhaza emiqhudelwaneni, ngivikela udumo lweNyuvesi yendabuko, khona-ke lezemidlalo lalihlala likhona empilweni yami.
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Ngangaphezu kokuzibona ngokwabo, abantu bavame ukukhulula ngokuqinile ekwehlulekeni kwabo futhi ababoni impumelelo. Futhi kuvela ukuthi konke akukubi kangako. Ukuze usize, kufanele uqale ukubhala imicabango yakho. Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi uyisiphukuphuku, kepha ungazi kanjani? Mhlawumbe latshelwa nguMarya Ivanovna esifundweni sezibalo? Kepha hhayi bonke abe sofya KOLEVSKI, kungenzeka ukuthi ingqondo yakho ibonakaliswe kwenye into, futhi ukuphikisana ukuthi empeleni uhlakaniphile kakhulu? Yimaphi amaqiniso empilweni yakho ongakuqinisekisa lokhu? Kuyasiza ukuthatha ucezu lwephepha bese ukuluhlukanisa zaba izingxenye ezintathu, kukholamu eyodwa Bhala izimfanelo zayo ezinhle ongaziqhenya ngazo, kwesinye - impumelelo yakho kanye nezimpumelelo lapho ungakhombisa khona owakho amakhono.
Imvamisa sizikhawulela thina, singaze sinqume ukuqala icala elisha, iphrojekthi ikhathazekile ukuthi ayinakhono. Kepha lapho umqeqeshi waseMelika odumile emkhakheni we-Anthony Robbins ebuzwa ukuthi yini imfihlo yempumelelo yakhe, wathi noma yiliphi ibhizinisi lihlala liqala ngokuqiniseka ngamaphesenti ayikhulu azothola imiphumela efanelekile. Futhi kuphela ke amakhosi amakhono namakhono adingekayo ekufezekisweni kokukhulelwa. Iningi lethu lifika ngqo nalelo, futhi kwesinye isikhathi, livakashela njalo izifundo ezahlukahlukene zokuqeqeshwa ezithuthukile, asisanqumi ukucela abaphathi ngokudluliselwa emsebenzini onomthwalo wemfanelo nowokukhokhelwa kakhulu.
Iwusizo ukulawula i- "Dialogue Yangaphakathi Yangaphakathi", ukulandelela imicabango emibi
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Ukuthola kuphi ukuzethemba? Kunokuzivocavoca okuningana okuzosiza ukuzwa lo muzwa womlingo. Khumbula isikhathi sokunqoba kwakho okuphezulu, ukuhlehlisa ngokwengqondo kuwo, uzizwe isimo sokuqhosha, i-euphoria, injabulo, eyabe esehlangabezana nayo, "cwilisa". Una-ke, kuvela manje! Ungazijwayeza ukuzindla. Kunezindlela eziningana. Hlala eTurkey, phumula, qondisa umhlane wakho. Cabanga nje ukuthi ugcwele ugongolo lokuzethemba, lugcwalisa yonke ikheji lomzimba wakho ngamandla namandla adingekayo ukwenza umkhulelwe. Abanye ukwelashwa kobuciko - Cabanga ukuthi ukuqiniseka kwakho kungabukeka kanjani. Lokhu kungaba yinoma yini: into engaqondakali, isitshalo, isilo, isidalwa somlingo, i-superhero. Into esemqoka ukuthi, ukumbheka, ubuzwa ukuthi ukwesaba nokungabaza kubuyela kude. Kuyasiza ukulawula "inkhulumomphendvulwano yangaphakathi", ukulandelela imicabango emibi. Ngibuze umbuzo: Yibuphi ubufakazi engingaletha ukuvumela lokhu kuvunywa? Futhi ngiyaqinisekisa: ukukhumbula okuhlangenwe nakho okuthile okungalungile, uzothola ngokushesha ukubhekana nobabili, uzokuqonda ukuthi asikho isizathu se-alamu izizathu eziningi. Into esemqoka ukucwilisa ukunakwa kwakho. Abantu abazethembayo abagxili ekuphumeni kwabo nasekwephutheni kwabo. Hhayi iphutha umuntu akenzi lutho. Isipiliyoni esingesihle singaba yindawo yokuqala ukuguqula imodeli yokuziphatha, shintsha ugqozi. Ngokuvamile, kunoma yisiphi isimo esinzima, zibuze lo mbuzo: "Ngingaqiniseka ngani endaweni yami?"
Thatha i-pate kusuka emashalofini!
Sifunda ukungavikeleki ngokwaso ngasikhathi sinye: Inkulumo yokugwaza enokhahlo, ukubukeka okuqhubekayo, amahlombe asikiwe, njengokungathi ungaphansi kobunzima bokuhlupheka nezinkinga zansuku zonke. Zama ukuyazi ulimi lomzimba: qondisa umhlane wakho, qondisa amahlombe akho, udlulele ngaphezu kwesinyathelo, phakamisa ikhanda lakho emhlabathini. Hlangana nabantu ukumamatheka okunobungane kanye nokuxhawula okuqinile - uzozwa ukuthi isimo sengqondo kuwe sizoshintsha kanjani. Futhi-ke ukwazi kwalungiswa isithombe esisha.
Abantu abanokuzethemba okuphansi, njengomthetho, ngaphakathi awuthandi futhi ungazihloniphi. "Ngizokwenza", "ngakho-ke, ngakho-ke, manje phuma," "Yebo, ukuthi angibangenile ngisho nasekhanda lakho. Futhi uma befika, baxosha. Ungumuntu, uhlukile ngokwemvelo futhi ufanelekile kakhulu. Makube ungakazitholi i-yacht, indiza yomuntu siqu noma uchithe impelasonto ehhotela elinethezeka kakhulu leParis, gxila kulokho ongakwazi ukukukhokhela: Bona i-movie yakho oyithandayo, udle u-ayisikhilimu, udle okuthile okuncane, Kepha okumnandi - zijabulise nsuku zonke.
Abaqeqeshi basebenza kanjani? Eqenjini elabulawa, banikela ngesilo ngesiqeshana sikashukela. Nsuku zonke senza okuthile futhi sizuze umphumela. Ususe Efulethini? Wenza umbiko? Ungene ngemvume ejimini waya lapho? Mdumise ngalokhu nangomvuzo, futhi ngokushesha! Ingqondo yethu ihlelwe kangaka iCherry ukuthi uma umvuzo ungafiki masinyane, akahlanganisi nomphumela ophumelelayo. Okusho ukuthi, ungaqonda ingqondo ukuthengwa kwengubo enhle ebizayo nohambo oluya kuwo wonke umngcele kwenzeke ngoba usebenze kanzima futhi ulukhuni, kepha akukho ukuqiniswa kwezinga lemizwa nemizwa. Ngakho-ke akukho umuzwa wokunqoba, futhi akukhuli ngokuzethemba kwethu. Noma ngabe kudlule ihora, sekuvele kukhona igebe phakathi kokufezeka komphumela nomvuzo owamukelwe. Ngakho-ke kungcono ukuthola kusengaphambili ukuthi yini "imidlwane" oyovuza yona. Mhlawumbe kuzoba ngumuntu othandekayo wakho othandekayo, ihora lesikhashana elizinikezele kimi, ikhofi ngeshokolethi - noma nje idunyiswe kwikheli ngokwakho.
Mdumise nganoma yikuphi, ngisho nempumelelo nomvuzo omncane kunabo bonke, futhi ngokushesha!
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Amakamelo amancane
Omunye umngane wami wesaba ukubhekana nentombazane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuyinto enobuhlakani futhi edlala ngothando ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi, kepha ngokushesha nje lapho kufinyelela emihlanganweni empilweni yangempela, isipho nje sokukhuluma sasilahlekile. Izikhathi ezimbalwa umfana wavele wabalekela ezinsukwini ezikhethiwe. Manje, esikhathini samagajethi eZasille, akulula ngathi ukuvula umuntu ongayazi, kepha ngeke wakhe impilo yomuntu siqu ocingweni. Qala kancane kancane ukwenza abanye. Ukumamatheka ku-cashier esitolo, ukushintshanisa imishwana ngomkhondo ngesikhonzi endaweni ye-cafe, xoxa ngokuthile nomakhelwane esizeni. Ungaqala uzizwe ukungakhululeki okuthile, kepha umkhuba owengeziwe, kuzohamba okulula.
Ngokuvamile, akukho lutho oluqinisa ukuzethemba kwethu, njengendlela yokuphuma endaweni yokududuza. Isibonelo, mina kuze kube muva nje bengazi ukuthi ungakwazi ukuskena kanjani. Kwakukhona izivivinyo ezimbalwa ebuntwaneni, kepha kusukela ngaleso sikhathi kuye kwadlula iminyaka eminingi ... nginomona ngabangane bami ababeka amakhasi abo ekhasini nevidiyo enolayini. Kepha yena uqobo unamahloni - ngesaba ukuthi ngizobukeka ngixakile futhi ngihlekisa. Futhi manje sekudlule ubusika, sithatha ingane encane yomyeni wami, sasingena lapho sonke. Kwavela ukuthi ngangiyize, ngangizijabulisa kakhulu - ukuslayida eqhweni. Umzimba enye indlela engaqondakali ukhumbule amakhono akwamukelwe, futhi ngagingqa kahle, angizange ngiwe. Ngicabanga, uma ngisegxuma ngeparachute, ngeke ngithuse noma yini kulempilo.
Zama okusha nokwandisa uhla lwamakhono akho. Ukuzilibazisa okuthokozisayo, lapho uthola khona injabulo futhi injabulo izongeza futhi ithembele kuwe, futhi izosiza ukushintsha. Kuyasiza ekuqaleni ukugcina idayari, ukulungisa ukunqoba kwakho okuncane kanye nezimpumelelo. Futhi-ke ngeke kube yinhle. Usuku ngalunye olusha luqala ngesiqinisekiso osifunayo, okuvumela ukuthi uvumelane nendlela enhle. Nquma izinkinga njengoba zifika futhi zingazami ukubikezela ikusasa (ikakhulukazi ngemibala emnyama).
Kholwa ukuthi konke kulula, khumbula ukuthi akekho ophelele, futhi umuntu ophumelele entweni eyodwa angaba yi-bargan kwenye insimu. Akukho lutho olubi kulokhu - ungazi okuthile futhi ungakwazi. Kusesibusheni, sasingazi ukuthi singahamba kanjani futhi sikhulume - sifunde okufanayo! Kungokwemvelo ukuwenza amaphutha - lapho sikubona, siyaphumula, sibabekezelela ngokwethu kanye nabanye futhi ngenxa yalokho sithola amandla amaningi. Ungahlali ngokuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle okwedlule. Iphutha - indlela nje yokukhombisa ukuthi wenze kanjani kahle!
Umyalo wesinyathelo ngesinyathelo:
Isonto lokuqala. Iwusizo kakhulu ukugcina idayari. Nsuku zonke, bhala okungenani izinto ezintathu owabonga ngazo. Kungaba nemicimbi emincane yosuku. Kancane kancane, uzokubona lokho empeleni unezizathu eziningi zenjabulo. Ngaphambi nje nje, ngasizathu simbe awuzange ubabone.
Isonto lesibili. Qopha izimo lapho uzizwe ungaqiniseki ngamakhono akho futhi ungabaza. Ucabangani, yini izizathu zokungaqiniseki okunjalo? Ekupheleni kwesonto uzoqonda ukuthi yini ukwesaba kwakho okuyinhloko. Cabanga ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nabo, esishintshiwe.
Isonto lesithathu. Bhala phansi lokho okwenzile ukunqoba ama-alamu akho nokwesaba kwakho. Uzizwa kanjani? Akunandaba ukuthi izinyathelo zakho zizobe zincane kangakanani, kusenokunqoba. Kancane kancane sisondela emgomweni wakho. Futhi ungesabi ukwenza iphutha.