Abantu abazama ukwamukela okuthile kithi kwenzeke inkohliso kwenzeka cishe yonke indawo, hhayi ngamunye wethu angakwazi ukubala umkhohlisi lapho ebhekisisa. Ngakho-ke ungangeni kanjani kwi-hook yomqambimanga? Sizotshela.
I-larz ayibukeki ngqo emehlweni
Imvamisa, ukubukeka komuntu ongathembeki kuqala ukugijima ukuze ungakwazi ukubheka emehlweni akhe. Noma kunjalo, ama-stautators amaningi asenze enye inqubo - ngesikhathi sengxoxo, abukeka njengawe ngqo emehlweni, uzama ukunika amagama awo ngokwengeziwe. Uma ubona ukuthi umuntu ushesha kakhulu ukuzama ukubamba ukubuka kwakho noma, kunalokho, kugwema ukuxhumana ngqo, kufanelekile ukuqwashisa futhi ukumphatha ngokusolwa.
Umqambimanga uthanda ukukhuluma okude
Njengomthetho, abantu abakwaziyo ukukhuluma kahle, kubangelwa ukunconywa phakathi komphakathi, kunokuba futhi bajabulele abakhohlisi abaningi. Umuntu ofuna okuthile kuwe ukuze uthole indlela yokungathembeki uzoba semibala ukupenda izinzuzo zesiphakamiso sakho, abeluleki abahlukahlukene nabathengisi bavame ukusetshenziswa ngale ndlela. Iphuzu ukuthi ulahlekelwe yintambo yengxoxo, khona-ke kulula kuwe ukuthi ulethe imizwa futhi ucindezele ukuthenga noma ukuvuma ngombono we-manipulator.
Amanga agweme ukuxhumana okubonakalayo okuqondile
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Landela ukushukuma kwakhe
Ukuthi ukushukuma komzimba nakho kuyaxoxa ngomuntu. Makube namakhono amahle kakhulu oku-inhlewori, kepha kwahlanganiswa ne-pose, i-horsery esihlalweni, ukulungiswa kwezinzwa okuhlala njalo kwezingubo kubonisa ukuthi umuntu akavulwa kakhulu phambi kwakho. Alulame ngokuqapha emazwini akhe.
I-larz ayiphuthelwa imininingwane
Lapho i-interlocutor yakho iqalwa ezincwadini ezinemicimbi enemicimbi, kufanelekile ukucabanga, nokuthi konke okusemazwini akhe kukufanele ukunakwa kwakho? I-Louns ikholelwa ngobuqotho ukuthi isisindo esithe xaxa sengeza izindaba zabo, yize empeleni leli cala lihlukile - i-interlocutor yethusa inani elikhulu "lokuphambuka kwe-lyrical".