Ubudlelwano abulula kangako - awukwazi. Kodwa-ke, lapho kuvela khona izinkinga zempilo futhi zizama ukuzixazulula, abanye bakha izinkinga ngokwabo futhi beza ekuphambukeni okungaxazululiwe. Ngakhumbula imishwana eminingana yamantombazane engakaze ibasize isungule ukulingana ebudlelwaneni bomlingani.
"Uhlala unyamalala emsebenzini, futhi asikho isikhathi kimi!"
Amantombazane afuna izinto ezimbili ngasikhathi sinye - ukuze indoda isebenzise imali ngomusa phezu kwazo futhi ihlale ezinyaweni zayo njengenja ethembekile. Impilo yomuntu okhulile kuphela engeyona inganekwane nhlobo, lapho imali iwela ekhanda lakhe livela ezulwini. Uma othandekayo wakho ephethe ibhizinisi noma esebenza ukuqasha ukuze anele ngokwenele okufanelekile, udinga ukucwiliswa ekuhambeni komsebenzi cishe usuku lonke. Owesifazane ohlakaniphile uyakuqonda lokhu, ngoba isikhathi sokusebenza simatasatasa ngebhizinisi, futhi asithumeli okuthunyelwe okuyikhulu esithunywa kumlingani wakhe. Hlonipha isikhathi somunye umuntu - kusihlwa uzoba nethuba lokuxoxa ngosuku owedlule isidlo sakusihlwa.
Yiba ukusekelana komunye nomunye, hhayi izitha
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"Uma uya kubangani manje, ngizokushiya, kepha kukhuphuka!"
Imibuthano engapheli nabangane ngokuphuza - hhayi kukho konke okulindele kumlingani ofuna ukuchitha impilo yakho. Kodwa-ke, ezimweni eziningi, inkinga ayikho kulokhu: amantombazane awavumeli ukuhamba kwabangane abathandekayo hhayi ngenxa yokulutha utshwala, kepha ngenxa yeparanoia yabo. Lapho-ke kubonakala kubo ukuthi phakathi kwabantu abangane abangashadile bazovela ngokuzumayo abangane abajwayele ukushada abajwayelekile, ngokuqinisekile azokuguqula oyedwa. Bazoqhamuka nalolo bangane bamisa umfana kubo futhi bamncenge ukuba abuyele endleleni yeBachelor. Khumbula: Umlingani wakho ungumuntu omdala owanele, hhayi inqama, ongayihola, hhayi ingane engaqiniseka ngokuthile. Musa ukulingana nokuziphatha kwabangane nabantu obajwayelene naye ekuziphatheni kwakhe, ngoba kungubuntu obuhlukile kubo ngokufakwa kwalo kanye nemigomo yokuziphatha kwayo.
"Noma ushintsha, noma ngithola indoda kimi!"
Ngemuva komusho onjalo, ubudlelwane kufanele buphele. Nge-Blackmail, awusoze wenza isifiso somuntu sokushintsha, kodwa sihambisane kuphela kuwe. Ukuhlanganisa umuntu ebudlelwaneni njengomuntu othembekile, kufanele uthathe zonke izinzuzo nokubi kozakwethu. Ngezinkontileka, ungaphakamisa ukuthi ushintshe imikhuba yasekhaya, kepha nakanjani uzohluleka ukulungisa izinkambiso zokuziphatha komuntu okhulile. Esimweni esinjalo, kungcono ukusabalalisa futhi uthole umbhangqwana ofanele kunokulwela umgomo ongabi nalutho futhi wenze omunye nomunye angajabuli.
"Kodwa owami wangaphambili wawukhuthele embhedeni ..."
Ukuqhathanisa umlingani wayo wangempela nokwedlule, uvusa izakhiwo kuphela kuye futhi wakhe umbono wokuthi yini engakafiki ebudlelwaneni obudlule. Njalo lapho ufuna ukusho ngalokho okuthandile empilweni eseduze nothile ovela esikhathini esedlule, ukuluma ulimi ngesikhathi semiyalo yomuntu othize. Yisho okungcono: "Uyazi, ngabe ngibe kuhle uma uvuma ukuzama okuthile okusha, ngokwesibonelo, ..." Leli gama lisho isiphakamiso sokukhetha umuntu, hhayi ihlazo lokuqala kumakhono akhe. Njengenye indlela, ungathenga ithoyizi locansi ukuze uthuthukise ukukhuthaza futhi ulikhombise umlingani, noma umbone ama-movie asebekhulile okwamanje ongathanda ukuphinda.
Ukuhlakanipha kwakho okuhlanganyele kusiza ukugcina isifiso sokuya engxabanweni
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"Empilweni yakho angikho endaweni yokuqala - angiyithandi"
Ngeke uze okokuqala empilweni yomlingani - wamangala? Emsebenzini wokuqala, kufanele abe, kuphela lapho kubaluleke kakhulu, izindawo phakathi komndeni, ukuzibona futhi zisatshalaliswa. Uma indoda ikuqinisekisa ukuthi uyincazelo yempilo yakhe, khona-ke akakazuzi lutho olubalulekile kulo (futhi akunakwenzeka ukukwenza). Yazisa abesilisa abazinikele futhi abafuna izinhloso zabo, futhi hhayi ama-romantics abayizimpumputhe abazokuhlabelela ama-serenade ngaphansi kwefasitela futhi akukho lutho ngaphandle kwalokhu. Kungcono ukwenza izenzo kunokuhlakazeka ngamagama, kulandelwe noma yini. Empilweni yami, kufanele futhi ube khona ekuqaleni - uthando futhi ukwazisa ngokwakho ukuhlangana nomuntu onobuhle obufanayo.