Elinye ibhubesi eliTolstoy libonile ukuthi "yonke imindeni ejabule iyafana, wonke umndeni ongajabuli awujabuli ngendlela yabo." Futhi kwesinye isikhathi kuvela ukuthi emindenini ephumelelayo, imindeni inabo "amathambo egumbini labo", okwakudala noma kamuva abe ngumphakathi. Yiziphi izimfihlo ezimbi kakhulu ukuzama ukufihla emphakathini? Futhi yini okufanele uyenze lapho imfihlo iba cacile?
I-incest noma i-pedophilia. Unokwethenjelwa ukufunda ukuthi iyiphi indawo enjalo eluhlaka lomndeni wakho, akumnandi kakhulu. Imvamisa ngokwenzeka ngokwenzeka ngaphansi kophahla olufanayo nabo, abesifazane bazobona isikhathi eside. Futhi buza umbuzo, ngoba kungenzeka ukuthi ungaboni okwenzeka enganeni yakhe. Kepha akuhlali ngokweqiniso: umuntu empeleni akabazi ngesimo sangempela sezinto ekhaya lakhe, nomuntu, njengengxenye, efihla ngekhono ikhanda lakhe esihlabathini. Yini laba besifazane abaqondiswa, evumela i-pedophile ehlala naye ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa, ukungenela ezinganeni zayo ayaziwa. Into eyodwa icacile: Ingane ngenxa yakho konke lokhu kuthola ukulimala okukhulu kwengqondo, lapho kungenzeka khona angakuqedanga khona ngaphandle kosizo lwesazi sengqondo. Futhi akunakwenzeka ukuthi umuntu, ngaphandle kwesazi sengqondo, azosho ngalokho abhekana nodlame.
I-Herscript. Ezweni lethu, ukungcola kusuka ku-hut akwamukelwa. Ngakho-ke, uma owesifazane ebhekwa njalo ebudloveni emyeni wakhe noma ebumbaneni, elivezwa hhayi kuphela ngamazwi, kodwa futhi nokushaya, uvame ukuthulisa. Imvamisa, ngisho nalaba besifazane abatsheli omama babo kanye nezintombi ezisondelene ngokuthotshiswa okuhlekisayo nsuku zonke. Balahlekile futhi abazivikela phambi kolaka. Futhi, njengomthetho, ebuhlotsheni obuthembekile, futhi ngisho nokukhangwa kwezinhlangano eziqinisa umthetho akubaniki: ngoba lesi sigaba sabesifazane, sifaka isicelo sabo sethembekile, ngemuva kosuku lwabo asevele. Basize baphume kulesi simo bangasebenza kuphela ngommeli kanye nodokotela wezengqondo.
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Ukubalwa kwezimali kudokotela wezengqondo. Mayelana nezihlobo ezaphakelayo okungathi sína kodokotela wezengqondo futhi zinokuxilongwa okukhulu, kungenzeka zingakhulumi emndenini. Abantu bafunda ngezinto ezinjalo ngengozi, yize kungekho lutho oluhlazekile kulokhu. Ubuchopho buyisitho esifanayo somzimba womuntu, kanye nanoma yikuphi okunye, ngakho-ke kungahluleka. Umuntu angadinga usizo olufanele lodokotela wezifo zengqondo, ngoba azikho izeluleko zezintombi nezindatshana ezivela kwi-Intanethi ezizobuyiselwa endaweni.
Ukuqiniseka. Ukuze ufunde ukuthi othile ovela ezihlotsheni zakho walethwa kwisikweletu sobugebengu, futhi ngengozi. Kanye - futhi kungazelelwe kuvela ukuthi bobabili ogogo bakho baqulwa. Cishe owaziyo. Waya ejele ngesikhathi sempi: Wayesemusha futhi wasebenza esimisweni sezokuvikela. Isiyalo sasiqinile, isikhathi sezempi, futhi wayelele ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngoba wayeseyingane! Lapho sesaba sekwedlule isikhathi futhi kwathumela ngokwemithetho yempi yokusebenzela ithemu. Wayehleli egumbini ejele, bamemukela wamukwamukeli, okuthi, ngaleyondlela, ukusho, wamsindisa ngolunye usuku. Ngandlela thile, ngasekupheleni kweminyaka engama-60s, kamuva wabuyela ekhaya evela emsebenzini, kanti u-recidiving wamhlasela emnyango. Ngasongela ummese, ngangifuna ukuombana futhi, mhlawumbe, ukubulala. Ngambona i-Acklain yakhe futhi angenzanga lutho, enquma ukuthi 'wayengowakhe.' Ugogo wesibili wazihlukanisa ngesikhathi sempi yangemva kwempi, wabandakanyeka kokuqagela okuthile futhi wamukele le nkathi. Manje sesizobiza le nkohliso ngebhizinisi elincane - uzocabanga ngokuthengiswa kwelineni. Kepha sekudlule iminyaka emi-2-3 kuphela impi, cishe kwakungekho lutho ezweni, nalapha "ibhizinisi." Ngesinye isikhathi. Isikhathi salo sasiyimfihlo, embozwe ubumnyama yize indodakazi yakhe, ngaleso sikhathi yabe isithola ukubambezeleka ngesigwebo. Odadewabo kuphela abaziwa ngale ndaba, eyayigcina kuze kube manje futhi ayizange ikhulume noma ngubani iminyaka eminingi, ngisho nangemva kokushona kukagogo wakhe. Mhlawumbe, lokhu akuyona imfihlakalo embi yomndeni, kepha bamgcina ngokucophelela ezingqondweni nasezinhliziyweni zabo.
Ukwamukelwa. Manje abazali abaningi abalindwe ukwamukelwa kwengane abafihli iqiniso lokuthi akayona into yendabuko. Banelungelo eligcwele. Kodwa-ke, imithetho yethu isavikela imfihlo yokutholwa, ngakho-ke akekho omunye, ngaphandle kwabazali, akakwazi ukwazisa ingane izinto ezinjalo. Kulokhu, kunencazelo ethile: akuzona zonke izingane ezingabonisa ngokuthula ngokuthula imininingwane yokuthi umama wazo waphucwa amalungelo abazali noma umane wenqaba ingane yakhe esibhedlela. Ngisho nokuba mdala, kwesinye isikhathi umuntu angeke azolile: efuna abazali bakhe futhi, kukhona amacala, athola. Kuphela akusona umuntu wesifazane owashiya ingane yakhe ngokuzalwa efuna ukuxhumana naye lapho ebudala. Futhi lokhu kungenye ukudumazeka ukuthi kufanele uzwe abantu abanjalo. Mhlawumbe kungaba ngcono ukuthi ungazi ngomumo.