Akulona yini iqiniso, imvamisa uzwa kanjani abangane bakho lapho uxoxa ngamadoda ngokuzumayo asho ngokuzumayo umlingiswa onjenge- "Maminenekin indodana"? Emva kwalokho, kunezizathu zokubonisana isikhathi eside, noma ngabe kufanelekile ukungena ebudlelwaneni nomuntu onjalo, futhi uma kukufanele, ukuthi ungakufundisa kanjani ukuphinda ufundise. Sacabanga, nokuthi ukulungiswa kunika amadoda anjalo?
Ukusuka ekuzalweni kuze kube yiminyaka emi-3 ubudala, ingane ixhumeke kahle umama wamandla kanye nokuxhumana ngokwengqondo
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Imidwebo yeNdodana KaMamenician "ejwayelekile"
Emisebenzini eminingi yezincwadi zakudala, umlingiswa wesilisa onjalo uyatholakala, okuyinto, ngokwencazelo yengane 'embi kakhulu,', "igxathu alikwazi ukuma, isitshalo sokugcina ukushisa." Esichazamazwini solimi lwesiRussia, incazelo yamadoda anjalo: "inqikatha, inamandla. Ubuso besilisa abangakwazi ukwenza izinqumo abuguqulwanga empilweni. "
UDenis Fonvizin, umlobi waseRussia, wadala umsebenzi wonke "ongabizi kakhulu", lapho umnikazi womhlaba uthi uMithirofan: "Well, mitrofanushka! Wena, ngibona i-matushkin indodana, hhayi i-batyushkin! "
Njengoba ubona, "ama-mamikins amadodana" ayehlala njalo. Futhi lokhu akuyona eminye imiphumela emibi ngenxa yokuthuthuka okusheshayo komphakathi wanamuhla, kanye nento echazayo yenhlalo.
Avelaphi
Ukusuka ekuzalweni kuze kube yiminyaka efinyelela ku-3, ingane ixhumeke kahle umama wamandla kanye nokuxhumana ngokwengqondo. Ngemuva kweminyaka emithathu, iqala ukwakha ubuntu obuhlukile kunina futhi iyethela oyisibonelo sowesilisa, okungukuthi, kuYise. Ngokwezimo ezahlukahlukene, ingane, kulokhu, umfana uhlala enkombeni yamandla kamama.
Kunezizathu eziningana zokuthi kungani umama kunzima ukuhlukanisa ubunikazi babo ekubeni ubunikazi bengane:
1 Isizathu : Owesifazane uhlala ngaphandle kwendoda (noma ngabe yisiphi isizathu). Ngokucashile Unomuzwa wokuthi indodana yakhe ayivunyelwe kubani.
2 Isizathu : Umehluko abesifazane kubantu. Akayihloniphi ingxenye eqinile yobuntu, ngokunganaki babhekisela emandleni abesilisa. Kubesifazane abanjalo, noma yimuphi umuntu uyingane.
3 Isizathu : Owesifazane uzama ukuvikela ingane emphumeleni omubi wezwe elizungezile.
4 imbangela : Owesifazane uzama ukusakaza imodeli kayise kuyimodeli yakhe endodaneni yakhe, ukunambeka kwayo akukhokhwanga ebuntwaneni.
Ukufingqa, "Indodana kaMaminenekin" ayiveli ngokuzumayo, yakhiwa kusukela esemncane.
Yini amathuba okuwushintsha
Abesifazane abaningi, babhekana nokubonakaliswa kokuxhumana okuqinile kukamama nendodana, bakholelwa ngephutha ukuthi umuntu onjalo akajabuli futhi udinga ukusindisa masinyane. Kodwa-ke, ungaphuthumi ngeziphetho. Eqinisweni, bobabili umama neNdodana bathola izinzuzo zobabili ebudlelwaneni obunjalo. Akunjalo, ungazami ukuncintisana noma okubi kakhulu - ukugxeka umama wakhe, usalahlekelwa yile "impi" yabesifazane, ngoba umama wakhe wayekhona ngaphambi kwekhefu lakho.
Izinguquko zingenzeka kuphela uma yena uqobo efuna kuzo lapho kuzolunga khona ukuphuma kulolu thando. Uma uzama ukufaka esikhundleni umama wakho ukuqala kobuhlobo bakho.
Uma uzama ukubuyisela umama wakho - lokhu kuyisiqalo sobudlelwano bakho
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Ungabika kanjani
1 umkhandlu . Lapho ujwayelana nendoda, ubuke ubuhlobo bakhe nomama. Ngubani ovame ukuxhumana naye - yena noma umama, lapho eqala ukuhlala ngokwehlukana, buyini ubuhlobo bakhe nobaba.
2 izeluleko . Yazi "Indodana yeMamajna", ungagijimeli ukususa inombolo yayo ohlwini loxhumana nabo. Mhlawumbe ungaba khona nangowesifazane ozoshintsha ukubukwa kwakhe emhlabeni. Kepha kungokoqobo kuphela uma isimo singasethulwa kakhulu.
3 UMkhandlu . Amadoda anjalo anezinzuzo zawo: athambile, azwela, ahloniphe abesifazane.
4 UMkhandlu . Ngizofunda kuMama wakhe: Bheka ukuthi apheka kanjani, amdumisayo, yini oziqhenyayo ngayo. Akunasidingo sokukopisha ngokungaboni imodeli yayo yokuziphatha, vele uzame ukuvumelanisa negagasi lawo elingokomzwelo.
Umkhandlu . Lapho indodana yakho ivela, ayidingi ukuyilandela. Eminyakeni engu-2-3, kufanele ahlangane noYise, ngoba hhayi noyedwa, noma muhle kakhulu, umama ngeke athathe indawo umfana womfana.
Cabanga ukuthi alungiselela kanjani, amdumisayo kunokuziqhenya ngayo
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Kunezinto ongeke uzishintshe, kepha ungazikhethela okukuzungezile. Landela imibono yakho futhi uthembeke kumanani akho. Ngasikhathi sinye, zama ukubona okuhle nakwabanye abantu, ikakhulukazi uma uzokwakha ubudlelwano nomuntu okhethiwe.