"Uhlaka lobudlelwano obude bothando, amadoda ajwayele ukunikeza ukubekwa phambili kolwazi oluhlobene nokuzala (okungukuthi, inani lezocansi lomlingani, kanti abesifazane bakwazi ukukhetha ukulungela kozakwethu ukuba batshale izithandani (okungukuthi , ngokomzwelo) izinsizakusebenza eziqinile, "ucwaningo luka-2017 luzosebenzisa umehluko wezocansi ekuhlanyeni ngokuhlaziywa kwezingxabano zothando ngemuva kokungqubuzana kothando. Ochwepheshe bezengqondo bachaza ukuthi ubulili obuvumelanayo buvumela abalingani ukuthi bazizwe bathandeke futhi bathande, kepha lokhu kuziphatha kwendlela akubikwa njengempilo. Kuchaza ukuthi kungani isikhundla sabo sihluke ngombono wabantu abaningi.
Ukukhohlisa okulindelwe
Ngesikhathi sokuxabana egazini lakho, izinga le-adrenaline hormone, ekhiqizwa ukuphendula ukucasuka kwangaphandle kanye nesifiso sakho sokufakazela isikhundla sayo. Abantu ababheka ubulili obuvumelana naye ngenye yezindlela eziphansi zobunye ngemuva kokuxabana, okungalungile. I-Psychology Namuhla umagazini ikholelwa ukuthi icala lemizwelo emihle ngalesi sivumelwano sephula ibhalansi ebudlelwaneni - ngemuva kokwenza ubuyela empilweni obuyela empilweni ejwayelekile obungabonakala kuwe. Izazi zezengqondo ziqhathanisa isifiso sobulili obuvumelanayo nomlutha wezidakamizwa - umuntu onokoqobo uthola umthamo omusha, hhayi kuphela izinto ezenqatshelwe, nemizwa yayo edingekayo. Kwabanye abantu, kungaba yinkinga enkulu, ngoba bazoqala ngokungazi ukubheka isizathu sokuxabana ngenxa yokuphindaphinda komzuzu osondelene.
Phonsa imizwa engemihle ngaphambi kokushintsha ubulili
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Ukuphuma kwemizwelo engemihle
Kwi-Psychology Kukhona igama elithi "ukudluliswa kwenjabulo", echaza umgomo wokusebenza kobuchopho ngemuva kokuxabana nomlingani. Imizwa engemihle eqoqiwe idluliselwa emvelweni wokucasuka emvemeni wenjabulo - yingakho ngokuqinisekile nifuna ukwesatshiswa nothandekayo wakho. Ngo-2010, yini ejabulisakayo lapho sithola i-abry? Izimpendulo zobuchopho ze-Hormonal, ze-Asymmetrical »zichaza izici ezifanayo zentukuthelo nemizwa yokuvusa - ukusheshisa kwenhliziyo, ukusheshisa kwenhliziyo, uchitha amandla, kanye nemizwa engemihle ehamba ngayo, futhi lapho kugcwele khona inqubo ithathelwe indawo enhle - ukuphuma okubukhali kwe-adrenaline kunikeza umuzwa we-euphoria. Kodwa-ke, inkinga, ngenxa yokuthi ukuxabana kwenzeka kanjani ukuthi bonke banquma - leli yiphutha eliyisibili. Okokuqala kufanele ukwehlise futhi ukhulume umbuzo ongqubuzanayo, kuphela emva kwalokho, lapho wabona ukuxolisa futhi uyazi konke, kufanelekile ukukhuluma nge-USSMA.
Ukungaqondi phakathi kwabalingani
Uma uxabana, bese uphazamisa futhi ekugqwalisweni kwezinkanuko kuqala ukuya ocansini, kungahle kube nokungaqondakali phakathi kwakho, okuzoholela ekuxabaneni okukhulu kakhulu. Kuze kube manje, umuntu ubheka ukuphela kwengxabano, enye izoxazulula ukuthi ubulili bumane nje buvele nje ekuxoxeni ngalolu daba, futhi luzofuna ukubuyela kuye ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Imvamisa, isikhundla sokuqala siyingqayizivele kubantu, kanti owesibili - abesifazane. Imvamisa amantombazane ajulile futhi ahlala esondelana ngokuxabana nomuntu othandekayo, amhlaziya ekhanda lakhe izinsuku ezimbalwa.
Ucansi ngeke luxazulule inkinga, kepha lwamlimaza kuphela
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Amasiginali wokuziphatha okuhlukumezanayo
Enye yezigaba ezivezwa yizazi zezengqondo ebudlelwaneni phakathi komashiqela wasekhaya nesisulu sakhe - "Honeymoon". Kulandela umethuli, okubudlelwano obujwayelekile obukhona kuphela ohlakeni lokuxoxwa ngalolu daba ngemibala ephakeme, futhi ngokungathandeki kuhambisana nokuhlambalaza, izinsongo kanye nokulwa. Ngokuqinisekile umhlukumezi ngokuqinisekile uzoba ngumqambi wobulili obuvumelana naye ukuze afihle ubuso bakhe beqiniso futhi "aguqule icala" ngaphambi kwesisulu ukuze akwazi ukulawula. Uma ebudlelwaneni bakho, ayikho ukuxabana ngaphandle kobulili, thintana nodokotela wezengqondo ukuthola izeluleko futhi ucabangisise, azikho ezinye izibonakaliso ezikhomba ukwephulwa kwe-psyche ethandekayo.