Hhayi okuvame kakhulu, kepha nokho iphutha elihlaselayo labazali abancane - ukusabalalisa izindima ekukhulisweni kwengane lapho, ngokwesibonelo, ngomusa nakho konke kuvumela konke, futhi konke kujezisa kuphela Imithetho Yokuphila Endlini. Imvamisa isimo siphenduka sibe sibi kakhulu uma abazali benezinkinga zengqondo: Omunye ukhombisa ulaka, kanti owesibili uvikela ingane kuye, eba yiqhawe kuye, abe yiqhawe kuye, abe yiqhawe kuye, abe yiqhawe kuye, abe yiqhawe kuye, abe yiqhawe kuye, abe yiqhawe kuye, abe yiqhawe kuye, abe yiqhawe kuye, abe yiqhawe kuye, abe yiqhawe kuye, abe yiqhawe kuye, abe yiqhawe kuye, abe yiqhawe kuye, abe yiqhawe kuye, abe yiqhawe kuye, abe yiqhawe kuye, abe yiqhawe lakhe. Kuchaza ukuthi kungani udinga ukulahla imodeli yokuziphatha enjalo - kunezizathu ezithile zayo.
Itshe elikhubekile ebudlelwaneni bomndeni
Cishe wabona amahlaya emaqenjini abazali, lapho ingane ibuza imvume kamama ukuthi ihambe nabangane, ithola ukwenqaba futhi yaphendukela kubaba, yazi ukuthi nakanjani izothi "Yebo." Awuphoqelekile nomlingani wokunamathela esimweni esisodwa kuzo zonke izindaba zemfundo, noma kunjalo, zibala izikhubekiso ezikhubekisayo ezikhubekiso. "Izingane kudingeka zazi ukuthi abazali bazo basebenza ngokubambisana njengeqembu futhi bafuna ukusekela izintshisekelo zabo ezinhle," kusho uTammy van Hobonelo, udokotela wezingane, engxoxweni ne-MSN. Ukunikeza izimpendulo ezihlukile kwisicelo sengane, ufunda ukuthi ube ngumsizi futhi ufunde ukuphatha isicelo esifanele kumuntu ofanele - ngeke uthinte ikusasa lakhe, ngoba iqhinga lizokhula kulo, amandla okubona awela kuwo - kude nezimfanelo ezinhle kakhulu.
Xoxa ngecebo lakho lokukhuliswa ngumlingani
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Ukuqina nenduduzo
Uprofesa ohambisana noMnyango Wezengqondo we-University of Hofstra Jeffrey J. FRO uthi imithetho esekelwa yiNdlu nokwenza umzwa wenduduzo nokuzinza kwengane, okunomthelela ekusungulweni kobudlelwano bokuzethemba phakathi kwakhe futhi Bazali. Enye into yilapho wonke umzali enemithetho yawo - kulokhu, ingane ilahlekile futhi izwa ukungezwani okungokomzwelo ngenxa yokungaqondi, ngoba ukwenza okuthile. Okubi kakhulu, uma uzokunikeza ngasikhathi sinye amathiphu aphikisanayo kanye nemihlahlandlela. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kodwa ngokuziphatha okunjalo, ingane ikhetha umzali othandekayo - oyovela kuye azocela kuye. "Lokhu kudida ingane, njengoba ezwa enecala lokukhetha elinye lamaqembu, futhi angakhathazeka ngokuthi umzali oyedwa axabana nomunye," kusho i-Psychotherapist van Hollander.
Indalo Yezethulo Ezingezinhle Nezinto Emihle
E-Russia, lo mbono awuthandwa kangako, kepha ezweni laseNtshonalanga, izingane zizama ukufundisa ngaphandle kobudlelwano obunobandlululo nokufakwa maqondana namafulethi. Uma omunye wabazali ethatha indima ka-Angela, kuvusa umbono omuhle ngokweqiniso wobulili enganeni, kanti umbono wakhe "udeveli" ekuhlolweni komunye umzali ufaka umbono ongemuhle odabeni kolunye ubulili. Lokhu kuziveza esemncane lapho osemusha ebhekene nabanye abantu ebudlelwaneni bothando noma bebhizinisi. Ngakho-ke abafana, omama bawo ababebakhuza njalo, bathambekele ekubeni bangamethembi amantombazane, naphezu kokuphambene - amantombazane anobaba abaqinile abahlobene nabafana. Ezinganeni, kubalulekile ukuba nobudlelwano obuphilile, obuvulekile nabazali bobabili nakwamanye amasampula okulingisa, kungakhathalekile ubulili babo.
Ingane akufanele ibe "isilwane" phakathi kwabazali
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Izingxabano ezingapheli phakathi kwabalingani
Isidingo sokuba njalo nombonisi - ngomsebenzi wesikole, ukugcwaliseka kwemisebenzi yasendlini neminye imisebenzi - kungaphoqa umzali oyedwa ukuba abe nomuzwa wokucasuka komunye. Wonke umuntu ufuna izingane zakhe zithande futhi zizazise, kepha yiba uthisha futhi zilandele ukuhambisana nemithetho ebaluleke kakhulu ekukhuleni nasekuthuthukisweni kwengane - kodwa nobabili abazali. "Abazali kumele basekelene ezinqumweni ezenziwe. Imfundo yezingane ihlotshaniswa nobunzima, futhi wonke umuntu unesitayela sawo semfundo, "kusho uVan Hollander. Ngakho-ke, ungaba nemithetho ephikisanayo nawe, uma ungangenisi isikhathi sokuxoxa nokwakha uhlelo lwemfundo olulodwa.