Mantombazane othandekayo, ngeke ngiyokondla ngokukhohlisa, ngitshele ukuthi kukhona ifomula ethile (noma iphethini yesenzo), ukusebenzisa isikhathi esingakanani futhi ungafaki amandla okukhaphela okuhlukile. Hhayi! Le formula, ngeshwa, ayikho, ngaphandle kwalokho kuzokwanela ukutadisha nangomhlakulele umbuzo ngokuvukela umbuso. Kepha akusho ukuthi udinga ukuhlala ulinde, "uzokuthatha", ngokungafani namanye amantombazane asevele ahlangabezane nalesi simo, noma cha.
Yebo, alikho ifomula enjalo, esebenzisa ongazivikela ngokuphelele ezimweni okufanele uzivumele, kepha kunenqubo ethile ezonciphisa ukuvela kwale nkinga, sizokhuluma nawe namuhla. Ngakho-ke, qhubeka.
Owokuqala futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, okulandelayo okulandelayo, yilokhu indoda ehamba ngayo kulelofazana elihle, elinobuchule noma lemibandela (kuye lezi zindlela azidlali indima ebalulekile). Usuka esimweni esibhekene naye eduze kwakho. Yebo, yebo, akukufanele ukumangala, iqiniso elihlanzekile. Umuntu uphuma komunye umuntu wesifazane, uyakushiya, khumbula lo mzuzu. Ukusuka lapha kukhona yonke imiphumela.
Indoda ingena komunye, kepha kusukela esimweni abhekene nayo eduze kwakho
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Uyacelwa ukuthi uqaphele, angikhulumi ngalawo madoda angakafiki futhi "ashintshe amantombazane anjengegilavu." Esimweni esinjalo, usuvele uncike kuwe, futhi iqiniso lokuvukela izokwenzeka kunoma yikuphi, ngakho-ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza ukukhetha okuhle empilweni yakho. Ngakho-ke, amantombazane, uma indoda yakho iyisifo esibi futhi esinomthwalo wemfanelo, khona-ke ungathonya isimo abhekene nawo.
Masibhekane nendlela yokukwenza:
1. Ukubukeka okuhlelwe kahle. Kufanele kuqondwe ukuthi amadoda asemhlolweni ngezinga elikhulu lokubukwayo. Okokuqala, babheka "isithombe", ukubukeka kowesifazane futhi kuphela - kwingxenye yalo yangaphakathi. Ngakho-ke imvelo iyahlelwa. Amantombazane amaningi acabanga ukuthi lapho ubudlelwano babo bubheke ezingeni eliphakeme, ungaphumula futhi uhambe ngaphandle kwezinwele ezidwetshwe njalo, ukukhohlwa ngezimo zezimonyo njalo, ngezikhathi ezithile, ngoba sesivele sithandwa. Amantombazane amahle, kunjalo, ngeke ayeke ukuthanda, kepha kwenzekani kuleli cala? Yonke into ilula, indoda yakho ithule iqala ukubheka abanye besifazane (obukeka bebukeka kakhulu kunawe), noma balahlekelwe yintshisekelo kuwe njengowesifazane, futhi ngeke usakuthokozela. Ngakho-ke, uma kubalulekile ukuthi uhlale ufiselekake kumuntu wakho, zama ukuba ngeveni futhi ungazenzi ube umfutho, ukucasha ngemuva nezingane, umthwalo womsebenzi emsebenzini noma okunye.
Zama ukusindisa ezothando ebudlelwaneni
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2. Ubufazi. Amantombazane, aphendule manje kulemibuzo elandelayo: Ukuthi unazo lezo zimo lapho indoda yakho ikunikeze ukuthatha izikhwama zakho ngemikhiqizo yakho, futhi wenqaba, ukumnika ukuqonda lokho esibhekana nakho esikubhekayo? Ngabe uthathe isando ekubambeni kwakho kwesisa ukuthola ukuthola izipikili? Wake wembula isikulufu ekhishini noma endlini yokugezela? Futhi manje cabanga kahle futhi ungitshele lapho wenza konke lokhu, wake wazizwa sengathi uyintombi futhi emnene? Vele akunjalo! Kepha lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba sebudlelwaneni nendoda, ukukhombisa ubufazi bakho, ukuthamba, ukugcwala, ukuze umuntu wakho owuthandayo azizwe njengendoda eduze kwakho. Ungakhombisi wonke amandla wokuthi ungowesifazane oqinile futhi ungaphakamisa ngo-10-20 kg ngomunwe owodwa omncane. Kungcono ukukhombisa ukuthi ungomnene, indalo engenabuthakathaka edinga amandla owesilisa. Masizwisise insizwa yakho ukuthi ngaphandle Kwakhe ngeke ikwazi ukubhekana nanoma yimuphi umsebenzi lapho amandla enyama atholakala khona, bese indoda yakho ibona intombazane emnene efuna ukuthanda nokuvikela.
3. Ukuzithuthukisa. Kwenzeka kaningi, amantombazane awela ngobuhlakani nensizwa yawo futhi aqale ukuwina kukho, akhohlwe ngawo njengomuntu ohlukile. Ungenzi lokho. Uma umuntu oyedwa ekhula ebudlelwaneni, kanti owesibili usekhona, kungekudala azophuma nalapho impilo ihlelwe. Ngakho-ke, ukuze ungabi nalokhu, yenza ingxenye yakho yangaphakathi, gcwalisa yakho. Indoda yakho kumele ibulale nawe. Qala ukufunda izincwadi eziwusizo, vakashela izingqungquthela, izingqungquthela, ukuqeqeshwa, bhalisela i-yoga, ukudansa noma ukujima. Ngamanye amagama, kwenze kube nokwenzeka ukuthuthukisa futhi wenze ubuntu obuthakazelayo kusuka kuwe.
Zithathe ukuthuthuka
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4. Ukutholwa. Uma ekuqaleni waqala ukwakha ubudlelwano nensizwa yakho ukuze "ulungise" ngokuzayo, khona-ke leli yiphutha elikhulu. "Ukuphula" indoda njengobuntu kuwe, kuzophumelela. Uyamcasula ukuthi ahambe nalowo engimthandayo njengoba kunjalo - futhi yebo. Ngingenze ngazisola ukuthi washada nawe - nakanjani uYe. Kepha yenza kube yinto yakho enhle - lokhu kuyinto esuka esigabeni sezinganekwane. Ngakho-ke, indoda kufanele idle njengoba injalo, noma ingabi naye nhlobo. Akekho omunye. Uma ukhethe inketho yokuqala, ukhohlwa ukuqhathanisa insizwa yakho nomunye umuntu. Yiyeke ukuba "usike" isikhathi ngasinye (zithole umsebenzi ojwayelekile, uphonsa okungenani udoti, awukwazi lutho, njll.). Esikhundleni salokho, khombisa indoda yakho njengoba umthanda futhi ulungele ukuyisekela kunoma yisiphi isimo. "Ukusekelwa" - Lokhu akusho ukuthi ukuthola umsebenzi emisebenzini emi-3 futhi kuqukethe wonke umndeni ngenkathi unenkathi enzima. Khumbula into ye-2, esikhuluma ngaye ngenhla - "feminine"? Ngakho-ke, "ukusekelwa" kusho ukusondela kumuntu wakho, ukukholelwa kukho, ukuba yindalo ethambile futhi emnene, afuna ukuthi "izintaba zigoqele zonke izithiyo.
5. Isikhala somuntu siqu. Kukhona isigaba sabesifazane abalawula isinyathelo ngasinye sendoda yabo (i-SMS, izingcingo, ukubhekwa, njll). Lokhu kuziphatha ngokuyinhloko kuyisibonakaliso sokuzethemba okuphansi kanye nokuntuleka kokuzethemba kokhethiweyo wawo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, indoda yakho ikhathele yi-Press yakho futhi ifuna ukuphefumula ngokukhululeka kwenye indawo kude nawe nentombazane ezethembayo (okwesikhashana noma kuze kube phakade). Ukuze lokhu kungenzeki, kudingeka sikhumbule ukuthi wonke umuntu kufanele abe nesikhala somuntu siqu. Noma yibuphi ubuhlobo obuqinile bususelwe ku-Trust. Ngakho-ke, akufanele uphike njalo othandekayo wakho entweni ethile, esikhundleni salokho, makaqonde lokho okuthandayo futhi umethembe.
Induduzo Endlini ibalulekile
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6. Induduzo endlini. Wonke umuntu wafuna ukuza lapho, lapho umfazi onothando umlinde khona, efeni elifudumele, elinesidlo sakusihlwa esishisayo ngemuva kwetafula elimbozayo. Kwenzekani ngokuzijwayeza? Insizwa ifika ekhaya, phambi kwakhe ihlala umfazi ohlukunyeziwe, ocasulayo, yonke indlu ihlakazekile, isidlo sakusihlwa ngeke sifudunyezwe. Ukhathele uhlala phansi etafuleni, futhi ngalesi sikhathi kube nezinkinga ezengeziwe ezivela ezindabeni zomkakhe. Umuntu wenzani ekhanda ngalesi sikhathi? Njalo lapho enyamalala isifiso sokufika ekhaya, futhi uhlala eqala ukubheka izizathu zokuhlala isikhathi eside emsebenzini. Ngeshwa, ngazi imindeni eminingi enjalo, futhi kudabukisa kakhulu. Thina, abesifazane, kufanele sihlakaniphe kancane, zama ukungalokothi sixoxe ngezinkinga etafuleni lesidlo sakusihlwa. Hlangana nendoda yakho ngokumamatheka ebusweni bakho, usho okuthile okumnandi. Yiba yisizathu senjabulo, ilanga kulokhu okucwebezelayo ukuthi indoda yakho ifuna ukubuyela ekhaya ngokushesha lapho ilungile futhi ikhululekile.
7. Ukusondela. Amantombazane, impilo yezocansi emibhangqwaneni eshadile nayo idlala indima ebalulekile. Hlala ukhanga njalo endodeni yakho, ungaziphikisi egqoke izingubo zangaphansi ezinhle, yenza konke ukuze uzibheke esibukweni futhi ubonile intombazane emangalisayo kuyo. Angikhulumi nganoma yimaphi amazinga obuhle, lapho kufanele ube ngu-90-60-90, ngezinwele ezinde zokunethezeka, ngama-eyelashes aphelele namashiya abanzi - cha. Into esemqoka ukuthi uzithande. Ngemuva kwalokho eduze kwendoda yakho uzozizwa uqiniseka futhi ukhululiwe. Nakanjani uzozizwa futhi uzokwazisa.
Lezi yizikhathi ezibalulekile, zibona ukuthi ungakwazi ukukhulisa ubuhlobo bakho kulesi simo kusuka kothandekayo wakho. Ngiyethemba ukuthi i-athikili yami ibilusizo kuwe. Jabula!