Kususelwa ekuqaleni kwekhulu lama-20, iGestalt-Psychology eJalimane yasheshe yathandwa ngenxa yokuthi wasiza abantu basheshe babhekane nezinkinga zabo eziphazamisayo. Esimweni esinesazi sezengqondo, amakhasimende ahlukanise ukwesaba kanye nezinkinga zawo njengamanje, athole imbangela yangempela esikhathini esedlule. Isimo ngasinye esingasusiwe sibabaza kithi umbono ngendlela yemizwa engemihle, izimo zengqondo ezingezinhle nezinye izinto ezivimbela ukuhlala ezicebile futhi zijabule nsuku zonke. Izozama ukukusiza ukubhekana nezinkinga futhi uthole indlela yokuphuma esimweni esinzima.
Zibuze imibuzo
Uma ungenalo ithuba lezezimali lokuphendukela kudokotela wezengqondo, usebenzise ukuzihlaziya - le yindlela ehlukile okufanele uyisebenzise ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho uhlangabezana nenkinga. Thatha iphepha futhi ngaphezulu kwesikhungo bhala igama lenkinga yakho, bese uzibuza umbuzo othi "Imizwa Engingayenza Ngayiphi?" Bese ubhala phansi konke okufika engqondweni yakho. Cabanga ukuthi kungani imizwa ngayinye ihlotshaniswa nalo mcimbi - funa izimpendulo esikhathini esedlule, ukhumbula izimo ezithile. Uma kungekho lutho olungena ekhanda, xhumana nabazali bakho noma abangane bakho - bazokusiza uvuselele inkumbulo yami. Isibonelo, umuntu angakwazi ukugwema amanzi ngokungaqondakali, angakukhumbuli ngisho nokukhumbula ukuthi ucishe waminza ebusheni bakhe. Kusihlalo we-Psychotherapist, inkumbulo ijabule nge-hypnosis, kepha kuzofanela wenze ngokuzimela i-mosaic izingcezu zezehlakalo ezedlule.
Bheka umthombo wenkinga
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Qokomisa izinzuzo nokubi
Wonke umuntu, uma efuna ukuthuthukisa, kufanele asebenze ngobuntu bakhe. Yebo, abathandekayo kufanele bakuthathe uma bafuna ukuxhumana nawe ngaphandle kwezingxabano kanye nesifiso sokulungisa umuntu owake waba. Kodwa-ke, lokhu akusho ukuthi wena njengomuntu omdala akudingi ukusebenza ekushisekeni kwakho - ulaka, ukwesaba ukwethemba abantu, okungemuhle, ukushefa nezinye izinto. Abantu abajabulayo akubona labo abangazazi izinkinga, kepha abaziqondayo. Thatha elinye ikhasi lephepha bese ulihlukanisa libe yikholomu ezimbili - kukodwa, bhala izimfanelo zakho ezinhle, kwenye - okulungile. Khumbula lapho ubona ukubonakaliswa okukhanyayo kwalezi zimfanelo - lokhu kuzokusiza uhlobanise umcimbi nomphumela waso. Sikholwa ukuthi kubalulekile ukuthi ungasebenzi kuphela ngezimo zengqondo ezingezinhle, kodwa futhi nokwazi, ukuze ungavusa umuzwa wamanga wokuthi impilo yakho iqukethe kuphela uchungechunge lwamaphutha nokwehluleka.
Amacala aphelele aphelele
Kubalulekile hhayi ukucabanga kuphela, kepha futhi ukukwenza. Uma wena, ngokwesibonelo, awuzange uthenge unodoli omuhle ebuntwaneni, owawuphupha ngawo, thatha futhi uzithenge. Okufanayo kusebenza ekufakweni "Kungcono ngiyothenga okuthile okusondele, kunokuba uzijabulise" - uvela endaweni esondele, lapho abazali benikela ngezidingo zabo zezingane noma abazukulu. Kodwa-ke, inkulumo lapha ayigcini ngokuthenga, kodwa futhi nezenzo zokuzibophezela kwazo ozicabangayo. Ungasola ukuthi ububi baphendule intombi yesikole, bakhuphukela umakhelwane noma bebengakhulumi nemiphefumulo enesinyezi sangaphambilini - babonane nalaba bantu futhi bachaze ukuthi yini ozizwayo. Noma ngabe wehluleka ukuxhumana, uzokwazi ukuthi uke wazama ukwenza okuthile, futhi uzolala ngokuthula.
Ungahlali wedwa, cela usizo
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Ungesabi ukuthola usizo
Njengoba sisindile isipiliyoni esingesihle, sonke sivame ukuvala maqondana nabanye, sikholelwa ukuthi izinkinga zethu zidingeka kuphela kithi. Yebo, ukulalela umngani onjalo obukhali akuthandi muntu, kepha ukusekela umuntu, ongumlingiswa wakhe ofanele, mhlawumbe wonke umuntu. Shayela intombi yakho futhi ungitshele ukuthi udabukile - uzokulalela futhi anikeze izeluleko ezithembekile. Akufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi ungumuntu oqinile, futhi ebusuku ukhala emcanyweni: amandla okubona inkinga futhi avule esinqumweni sokushintsha isimo. Ungafihli imizwa yakho futhi ungabi namahloni - bayakwenza ukuthi ungubani.