Kukhona konke ukwesaba. Futhi lokhu kujwayelekile. Kepha into eyodwa, lapho izicabucabu zesaba - ungaphazamisi, ungathinti ikhwalithi kanye nezinga lokuphila. Futhi ehluke ngokuphelele - lapho ukwesaba kukhuphuka njengethambo emphinjeni, ngaphambi kokukhulisa noma injabulo yomndeni. Omunye walokhu ukwesaba ukwesaba ukuncintisana - ukuncintisana ngenxa yezingubo noma imikhuba yokukhuluma, ngenxa yesithombe semicabango noma imifanekiso. Okungukuthi, ukuncintisana lapho kungeyona futhi kukhulu.
Ikhula likhula kuphi?
Awukho umehluko lapho ukwesaba okukhubazekile khona - izinhloso kanye nenqubo yokususa kuyo kuyofana. Izizathu ezimbili zingahlukaniswa.
1. Anazi ukuthi ungubani nokuthi uyini ubunye bakho.
Isibonelo, ubhaka amakhekhe uku-oda, njengekhulu lamanye amantombazane edolobha lakho. Sesaba ukuthatha ithuba, khombisa ubunikazi bakho bese uhlangana nesisindo esimpunga. Ikakhulu la maphuphu obukhazikhazi obumnandi abanezindebe namabele. Babamba ukubukeka, ubamba "njengawo wonke umuntu", bese bobabili bayamangala: "Kungani ngihwebe kwelinye i-chick / umbhaki?".
2. Uyasaba ukuba nguwe.
Ngokwesaba ukuthi ngeke wamukelwe njengoba unjalo, wesaba ukulahlwa ngombono noma ama-manor ukuzethula ngokwakho, ukuze ululekele izembatho noma ngomkhuba omubi.
Ukuxilonga lezi zizathu kunzima futhi kuyesabisa. Kepha badinga ukusebenza ukuze baphefumule ngokukhululeka ngamabele agcwele.
Yini okufanele uyenze ngayo?
Qala ngeqiniso elizwayo. Hlala uziphendule kule mibuzo elandelayo:
- Kuyini ukuma kwami njengomuntu?
- Futhi uchwepheshe kanjani?
- Banjani omkakho?
- Kungani umyeni wami engashiyi enye?
- Kungani ngihlukile?
Uma ungakwazi ukuphendula le mibuzo, khona-ke ungalindele izimpendulo zendoda, umphakathi, abaphathi, amakhasimende, njll. Futhi, isimo sesaba ngabo. Ungesabi. Ubuntu bakho buzokunikeza esixukwini. Shiya ngesibindi indawo yokududuza. Makangabi umphefumulo masinyane, avumele igumbi ngemuva kwekhanda, kepha phuma!
Uma uphendule yonke imibuzo, umhlaba wavulwa futhi uvulelekile waba yindawo entsha yokunethezeka, kepha ukwesaba ukuncintisana kusaqhubeka, zama ukusebenzisa imikhuba emibili ephumelela kakhudlwana.
Sonke sihlukile, kepha yilowo nalowo - ehlukile
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I-NLP - Yabikezelwa!
Ukuze ungesabi ukuncintisana, udinga ukumisa kahle: Akekho oncintisana naye ebhizinisini, kanye nomakhelwane emakethe, ebudlelwaneni - hhayi imbangi, kodwa abanye abesifazane. Lokhu ukwamukelwa okuyisisekelo kwe-NLP. Uma uzilungiselela ukuthi unazo izimbangi, khona-ke usuvele usekulweni - udinga ukukhombisa imiphumela, ukuncintisana, ukuncintisana. Lapho usesimweni esinjalo, kukhona imfucuza yemfucuza, ngoba uhlelwe kakhulu ngemiphumela yabanye, futhi uqaphele izimpumelelo zakho. Ukulingana kwabanye kuyisisusa esithi "kusuka". Yebo, kwenye indawo kubalulekile ukuthi ungabi kubi, kepha yiba ngcono, kepha kulokhu umoya wokuncintisana onempilo uyadingeka. Isibonelo, uma uthatha isinqumo ngokudla, hlangana nentombazane yami - umphumela uzoba ngcono ngoba uzokweseka omunye nomunye, ugqugquzele futhi nakancane umathanisa amadili ezikalini.
Futhi yini uTyson?
Khumbula njengoBaba Wethu: "Musa ukuqhathanisa ukuqala kwakho nothile." Emsebenzini wami, ngithola nsuku zonke ukuntuleka kwalomthetho futhi, ngenxa yalokho, izinkinga ezahlukahlukene. Isibonelo, umculi osemncane we-novice awuzithanda hhayi omunye waqala, kepha owayesebanjwe futhi waqashelwa. Uma kubaluleke kakhulu ukuncintisana, ukuncintisana nalabo abasebhaleni elifanayo nawe. Wena ngemuva kwesonto lamakilasi ebhokisini ngeke liye kwindandatho ngokumelene ne-temz tyson, ngakwesokudla? Futhi uma uhamba, khona-ke akukho lutho ngaphandle kokukhathaza ukuzethemba ngeke kufinyelele. Uzolwa futhi mhlawumbe ushaye umehluko, kepha kufanelekile umdlalo wekhandlela? Noma ngabe uzwa umsebenzi omkhulu we-boxer, khona-ke lo nguMike Tyson - uzokwenza okuhlangenwe nakho, izinto zokwenza izinto, ngokweqiniso ngokwakhe ekugcineni.
Zithande, kholwa kuwe, ziye ngesibindi ziye kwizinhloso zakho. Ukuncintisana akusethusani lapho wazi kahle ukuthi wena yini lapho wemba ubunye bakho. Gxila ekufezeni kwakho, amakhono, amakhono nolwazi kunoma yimuphi umkhakha wempilo, futhi nakanjani uzosebenza!