Kwesinye isikhathi abantu bayimilutha yokuchazwa kokulala, ukusiza ukuthi kungabi lula kakhulu. Isibonelo sethu sanamuhla sikhuluma ukuthi ukusakazwa kwengxabano yesikhathi eside ngephupho lephupho, kwesinye isikhathi kuyeza kuye.
Endabeni yokuhlangenwe nakho kwethu, isikhathi, okuphambene nale nkulumo, akukuphathi, kepha ama-anesthetics amancane. Ngakho-ke, abantu abadala baphenduka izingane ezingenasisekelo, zithinta izingane, ziwela umkhawulo wendlu. Noma abalingani, abahlukanisile bamemezele eminyakeni edlule, bahlangana ngamaholide omndeni, ngokuzumayo baqala ukuthola ubuhlobo beminyaka eminingi edlule.
I-subconscious yagcina imizwa yethu ngaphandle komkhawulo nokuqina. Kukhona, abaphili, akukho ukulungela ukuphila, ngeke bakulungele ngaphambi kokubonakala kwale kwalokho. Futhi kwesinye isikhathi kuze kube sekufeni kwale mizwa, ngoba ukulungela akukaze kwavela.
Kwesinye isikhathi abantu abadala baphenduka izingane ezingenasisekelo, zithinta izingane
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Ngezansi kuyisibonelo sephupho lephupho nokuphawula kwalo kulokho engikubonile: "Ngishiya abazali bami ekhaya, kodwa ngokuzumayo ngithola i-telegraph ukuthi iyaphuthuma ukubuyela emuva. Ngiza ngasizathu sibe ngithole ubuntwana bami efulethini.
Umnyango wavula ubaba wami, wamangala kakhulu ukuthi ngenza lapha. Ngimtshela ukuthi nginezinto lapha, futhi ungibizile. Ngiya efulethini ngibone ukuthi kunendodana yami, kepha uneminyaka engu-18 (empilweni yakhe ucishe wanda kabili). "
Lapho sikhuluma naye ngokuthi kungani, njengoba ecabanga, waba nephupho, wakhumbula isiqephu esinjalo empilweni. Wayeyintandokazi kaYise, izenzo zakhe eziningi ebuntwaneni nasebusheni bakhe bahlangana nokwamukelwa okukhulu nemvume. Wazala indodana, lapho kuzalwa uyise asabela ngayo ngenjabulo kakhulu, wabe eseyindodana yakhe. Futhi lapha ukuphupha kwenzeke kungaqondakali. Ubaba wakhe akazange akhumbule igama lomzukulu, kwathi lapho ekhula, waqala ukuziphatha kabi, ngokunamahloni, ukukhetha. Kwafika eqinisweni lokuthi indodakazi yakhe yabeka i-ultimatum: yazulazula ngayo, imilenze yethu ngeke ihambele. Kumele ngithi umaphupho uthandwa kakhulu yindodana yakhe futhi ebuntwaneni, manje. Okwakhe, kwakukuyethusa kwangempela ukuthi ubaba otholayo akazange ahlukanise lokhu okunamathiselwe ngakho.
Ukuze ungakutholi ubudlelwano beminyaka eminingi edlule, kudingeka baphile futhi bayeke
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Manje ake sibuyele ekulaleni. Leli phupho libuyela endlini yobuntwana, lapho, ngami, emcabangweni wami, yayithandwa kakhulu uYise. Futhi ithola indodana yakho enhle lapho. Mhlawumbe uzama ukuqeda ukucabanga kwakhe komlingo ukuqedela lesi sithombe kwalowo owufunayo lapho umkhulu ephila khona ngokuvumelana nomzukulu wakhe.
Futhi mhlawumbe, ukulala kungumzamo wokuhlukanisa okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu ekwabiweni kokunakwa kwamadoda akho owathandayo, ukuze kungenzeki, lapho impisi ingenayo esikebheni esifanayo nayo Imbuzi, nembuzi - neklabishi.
Umuzwa we-buffer kanye nomuzwa wokuqhakaza nokuvela kothando lukaYise esikhundleni sothando lwabesifazane - lokhu kungaba ngukukhetha okunzima okunqunyelwe ikusasa iminyaka engama-25-30. Ngiyazi ukuthi ubaba wamaphupho washona eminyakeni embalwa edlule. Futhi mhlawumbe, manje iphupho laqala ukuphupha, okubandakanya ukuqwashisa ukuthi lesi sinqumo asidingi ukwenza okuningi ngezizathu zemvelo.
Futhi kufaka phakathi ukuzisola okungenzeka kanye nomunyu kulokho engangifanele nginikele ngothayela wakho ohlukile nobaba ukuze abe ngumama omuhle endodaneni yami.
Ngiyazibuza ukuthi uphupha ini? Izibonelo zamaphupho akho athumela ngeposi: [email protected]. Ngendlela, amaphupho kulula kakhulu ukuwaveza uma encwadini eya kumhleli uzobhala izimo zokuphila okwandulelayo, kepha okubaluleke kakhulu - imizwa nemizwa ngesikhathi sokuvuka kuleli phupho.
UMaria Dyachkova, isazi sezengqondo, udokotela wezokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholayo kweSikhungo Sokukhulisa Ukukhula KwaMarika Khazin