Lapho nje lona wesifazane eba ngumama, uqashelwa ukujaha i-alamu, imicabango emibi nokwesaba impilo nempilo yengane ... Kungabonakala, kuphila yebo thokozela ukudeba kwakho, kodwa ukukhathazeka kungumuzwa ovuthiwe. Ngakho-ke, ingena ekujuleni kokuqonda, futhi uma phakathi nosuku kungenzeka ukuthi ungamzwa, enze ibhizinisi, ebusuku, uma kungekho ukulawulwa kwamaphupho, ubona ukuqaphela.
Ngizonikeza isibonelo sephupho labafundi abayedwa, omama bentombazanyana.
"Leyo yindaba ebengiphupha ngayo. Ngisendlini yami ebuntwaneni, eKhrushchev ngomnyango omnyama, efulethini elincane. Ngisuka ephaseji indodakazi yami elele e-stroller esitebhisini, nami ngiye efulethini ukwenza ezinye izinto. Ngemuva kwesikhashana, ngiya epulatifomu, futhi akukho mntwana esihlalweni sabakhubazekile, ngethuse ngesimo sodlame, ukufa kwengane nokumemeza ... ngiyavuka. "
Vuma ukuthi noma yimuphi umuntu wesifazane uzosebenzela ukulala okunjalo. Lokhu kungabhekwa njengento ebuhlungu yangempela.
Ngasikhathi sinye, sizosiza amaphupho ethu ukuthola izinhlobo zokulala, ukuqonda kangcono ukusikisela kwawo.
Ngakho-ke, uzibona endlini yezingane. Ngokuphikisana nenkinga ye-stereotype yokuthi ubuntwana buyinjabulo eqinile, imibono eminingi yezengqondo ifakazele okuphambene. Iminyaka engaba ngu-7, i-Psyche yethu isengozini enkulu futhi yakhuliswa ngokuhlangenwe nakho okuhlukahlukene okubuhlungu. Lokhu kwenzeka, ngoba izinto eziningi ingane ezingakaze zizichaze zona, nembangela yemicimbi iyazibona. Izibonelo zesisindo: Ungafiki ukuzolanda ingadi ngesikhathi - nginecala. Bashiye ehlobo nogogo ongathandwanga - ngijeziswa, abangifuni. Ubaba wehlukaniswe noMama - ngoba ngaziphatha ngaziphatha ngaze ngazalelwa jikelele. Futhi lokhu kwenzeka emindenini enothando enothando futhi echumayo. Futhi yini esingayikhuluma ngemindeni lapho izingane zishaya khona, ziyazihlekisa, zihlushwa ukwehla, ukuthotshiswa, udlame lwanoma yiluphi uhlobo. Ngemuva kwalokho izindlela zokusinda zisiza ingane ukuba ibhekane nalezo zinto zemicimbi nemizwa, imvamisa ngokuzihambisa ekujuleni kokuqonda. Ngakho-ke, abaningi abakhumbuli ubuntwana babo. Imicimbi yokuqala yememori iyiphothula esikoleni, ngokwesibonelo.
Ase sibuyele e-Sleep heroine. Usesimweni esibuhlungu sobuntwana, uhlala ezindabeni zakhe. Ngamanye amagama, akahambelani manje kwindodakazi yakhe, izinkumbulo zakhe zivinjelwe nobunzima babo ebuntwaneni, ngakho-ke udinga ukushiya le ntombazane. Ngenkathi ezama ukuxazulula izinto ezingapheli ezindlini zezingane zasekhaya, indodakazi yakhe iyanyamalala. Ngaphezu kwalokho, cishe, iRenidica idlulisela ukwesaba nokuhlukumeza kwakhe endodakazini yakhe, ngoba babona izigcawu zobudlova.
Azikho izinsongo ezibonakalayo noma izitha ezisobala ephusheni. Ngokunokwenzeka, iphupho le-heroine ngokwesaba kwakhe nokwesaba, okukhathazeke ebuntwaneni, manje owaphinda watholakala kuye ephusheni, lapho indodakazi yakhe iqala ukukhula, ukukhumbuza ngokuhlupheka kwezingane.
Akukho lutho olungcono manje ngamaphupho ethu, kunokunikeza nje ithuba lokufutheka ngale mizwa. Ukwesaba okuvinjelwe kuzoqala ukuthonya indodakazi yangempela kungekudala noma ngokuhamba kwesikhathi: Kwenze kube okucacile, okusolisayo, ukumangalisa, ukungabaza kuzo zonke izinyathelo. Yingoba umama wakhe angaqala ukumphatha ngaphandle kosongo osobala kusuka ngaphandle. Ukungazi ukuthi umama ubhekene nalokho, indodakazi ingavele ikholile le ndlela yokuziphatha, esikhundleni sokuphila ngokukhululeka kusuka kulezi zinhlamvu.
Futhi amaphupho akho?
UMaria Dyachkova, isazi sezengqondo, udokotela wezokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholayo kweSikhungo Sokukhulisa Ukukhula KwaMarika Khazin