Izazi zezengqondo zeluleka ukungazihlanganisi nomlingani - unemizwa yazo, unabo. Kodwa-ke, umkhuba wokuphila komndeni ukhombisa ukuthi iningi lemibhangqwana linzima ukubalihlukanisa lisuka komunye nomunye, lingacasuki, ngokwesibonelo, lapho umyeni noma umfazi eqhamuka emsebenzini esimweni esibi futhi eqala ukwethula izimangalo ezingenangqondo. Ukuhlola imizwa engemihle ngezikhathi ezithile kuyinto ejwayelekile, kepha kwesinye isikhathi umuntu wakho owuthandayo angakuhambisa ubuso - kubalulekile ukuthi ungakulindi ukukhathala, kodwa ukumsiza ukubhekana nenkinga ngesifiso sakhe sokuzingela nokuyixazulula.
"Uyibonile umphathi wakho? Ucebile, ezemidlalo - ubani ngeke awele othandweni? "
Umhawu we-pathological awuchithi hlangothi inyunyana. Imbangela enkulu yenkinga ukuzihlola okuphansi komuntu, noma isipiliyoni sokukhashelwa ebudlelwaneni obudlule. Noma ngabe umlingani ekutshela ngokukhashelwa kwabathandekayo bangaphambilini, akufanele uzisole futhi uyondla imizwa engemihle. Okwaphela kungenzeki kubantu, kepha izinkinga zidinga ukubhekelwa phambili: Ungafunda ukwethemba futhi ulahlise ukulawula ngenxa yenduduzo ejwayelekile. Noma ngabe umuntu engazami ukukubamba ekuvukeleni umbuso, ukungeneliseki kwakhe kuye kuye kusho futhi okuningi futhi kudinga ukusebenza ngokuzethemba.
Umhawu emadodeni asondele kuwe akuyona inkomba yothando, kepha i-psyche disorder
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"Bheka lezi zindaba - ukwethuka okwenzekayo!"
Amandla okuthatha lesi simo futhi akwemukele ngakho, ebheka yonke imithetho enconyiwe, kubalulekile ukugcina impilo yezengqondo. Ubhubhabhekise lwamanje lubonise ukuthi abantu bathembele kangakanani ngolwazi olubi futhi bondle ngalo ngokoqobo kukho. Ungenqabe ukuthi abezindaba bafutheke inzalo yabaleli, babika "izindaba eziphuthumayo" kanye "nokutholwa kokugcina kososayensi", kepha azikho izihloko ezikhuphuka nje kanjena - konke lokhu kuyimpendulo yentshisekelo yabantu. Kuyinto eyodwa uma isimo sikuthinta mathupha, ngakho-ke uphoqelekile ukuthi uqaphele lesi simo futhi usabela kuwo. Kepha ukufunda izindaba kuyo yonke imithombo engenzeka nokwesabisa umlingani lapho usebenza ekhaya futhi u-oda ukulethwa kokudla - futhi.
"Sengivele ngineminyaka engama-30, sekuyisikhathi sokuvuma ukuthi nginguye olahlekile"
Ngeke siphakamise umbuzo wokuthi kungani ukhethe indoda ebabheka njengendawo engenalutho - le yinkinga yakho yendima 'yempilo', okudingayo futhi ukunquma ehhovisi likadokotela. Kodwa-ke, izitatimende ezinjalo, njengoba zingenhla, zivame ukutholakala esikweni laseRussia, lapho, ngokusho kwabantu, wena kungenzeka ukuthi ube yisigidigidi ngo-18, noma ku-40 osebenzela amapeni. Funda esibonelweni seYurophu, lapho abaningi bachazwa khona nalo msebenzi bese beqala indlela yokusebenzela. Udokotela wezengqondo uzokutshela othandekayo wakho ukuthi awudingi ukuziqhathanisa nabanye, kepha kubalulekile ukuzihlola maqondana nezinhloso zami.
Izinkinga eziningi zivela ebuntwaneni bendoda, kodwa kwesinye isikhathi uyavutha kubo kusukela ekuqaleni
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"Angikaze ngithande abazali bami"
Kunamaqiniso enhloso afakazela isimo sengqondo sokungakhathali sabazali sokukhulisa ingane - udlame lwasekhaya, ukuluthongela izidingo eziyisisekelo, ukuguqula indima yomzali kogogo nogogo kogogo nakanjani. Kepha kaningi, abantu bakhononda ngabadala ngaphandle kwesizathu, bezama ukuhumusha umthwalo wabo wokuzibophezela ngesiphetho esingalungiswa. Abanye basola abazali eqinisweni lokuthi abawafundanga ukuba batadishe, kanti empeleni bangahle bakhulule eyunivesithi mahhala. Kubonakala sengathi kubonakala sengathi abafowethu nodadewethu abasebancane babemthanda kakhulu - lokhu futhi akulona iqiniso. Isazi sezengqondo sizomchazela umuntu ukuthi angabhekana kanjani ne-negative, ukubona umthwalo wemfanelo wokuphila kwakhe futhi athethelele abadala uma bavumele ngempela amaphutha.