Nginezingane ezinhlanu: Amadodana aneminyaka engu-15 no-12 ubudala, indodakazi enamawele aneminyaka engu-10, amawele, indodana nendodakazi, okuyiminyaka emi-4. Umngane wami wePhila kaJulia naye unamadodakazi amabili (aneminyaka engu-16 no-10 ubudala), ngakho-ke kuthi amabili sinezingane eziyisikhombisa. Futhi umehluko eminyakeni yazo kubalulekile.
Kuyo yonke le minyaka, ukubuka konke komhlaba wonke kuyashintsha, imicabango nezidingo zakhe. Futhi nakanjani kuzobonakala ekukhulisweni. Ukusondela kwabadala nakwansizwa akunakufana, ngoba umuntu udinga inkululeko, ithuba lokuziveza, nezeluleko ezibucayi, kanti elinye lisekela, ukuvikelwa, usizo.
Futhi yonke ingane, kungakhathalekile iminyaka yobudala, inezimpawu zayo zomlingiswa, okungafanele nazo zibhekwe. Umuntu ozimele kusukela ebuntwaneni, nothile ngisho nangeminyaka engama-20 kubalulekile ukuzwa ukwamukelwa. Vele, imfundo inethonya layo, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi konke kungashintsha. Kepha kufanele uqonde: Ingane ngayinye ingumuntu ngamunye, futhi umsebenzi wabazali ukuthola ukhiye wakho kuye, ukuxhumana ne-Maneru nemfundo.
Ithiphu: Ngemfundo efanelekile, indlela yomuntu ngamunye kanye nesimo sengqondo sokucabanga ngezidingo zengane ngayinye kubalulekile.
UMichael Yak uphakamisa ababili nomkakhe izingane eziyisikhombisa
Izindlela zokukhuliswa emndenini omkhulu
Naphezu kohlelo olucindezelayo, nakanjani ngizoveza isikhathi sokuxhumana nezingane. Siphila emadolobheni ahlukene, ngakho-ke ngindiza kubo njalo ngempelasonto. Futhi nakanjani ngisebenzisa iholide lakho nomndeni wakho. Hhayi kuphela ngezingane zonke ndawonye, kodwa futhi ngokwahlukana. Isibonelo, ngonyaka owedlule, savakashela eKiev, eNew York ne-Orlando nendodana endala, sidlalwe emapaki okuzijabulisa waseFlorida. Kulonyaka sihlela uhambo olufanayo nendodana yesibili, uStepan, kanye nokuba sikhethe lapho kufanele siye khona. Kepha lokhu akungenxa yokuthi ngiyawathanda amadodana asebekhulile - emndenini wethu, empeleni awemukelwa ukwaba umuntu ezinganeni. Kodwa-ke, bayazi ukuthi ngiyajabula ukuzinika isikhathi hhayi kuwo wonke umuntu ndawonye kuphela, kodwa wonke umuntu ngamunye. Indlela esemqoka yokukhuliswa emndenini omkhulu uthando oluqinile.
Vele, izingane eziningi, zinzima ukuhambisa ukunaka kwakho phakathi kwazo. Ngakho-ke, sinamasiko - izehlakalo ezihlangene lapho wonke umndeni uhlangana ndawonye. Lokhu kudla ngeSonto, imikhankaso e-cinema noma e-Bowling. Ngempelasonto, sivame ukukhetha ukuhamba epaki, ukugibela amahhashi noma emabhayisekili, hamba skiing.
Kepha ukunakwa akufanele kunqunyelwe ngempelasonto - kubalulekile ukuthi ubaba abambe iqhaza empilweni yansuku zonke yezingane. Ngaziqhuba enkulisa, ngavakashela i-matrennikov nemincintiswano futhi ngaze ngabamba iqhaza emikhiqizweni yezemidlalo. Esikoleni samabanga aphansi, kwakungelona ukuphela kukababa ongazange aphuthelwe umhlangano womzali ongayedwa. Yize kungukuthi umehluko kunokuba umthetho - uvame ukuthi obaba abeze esikoleni emsebenzini obuhlungu, abazogwema ngazo zonke izindlela okufanele bazigweme. Kepha kubaluleke kakhulu - ukwazi ukuthi yini izingane zakho eziphila ngayo, ingabe zinobunzima nezinkinga ngokutadisha noma ngokuxhumana. Futhi kuhle kakhulu ukufunda ngempumelelo nokunqoba kwabo!
Ithiphu: Ngaphezu kwesikhathi esichithwa nazo zonke izingane ndawonye, udinga ukuthola ithuba lokuhlala nengane ngayinye yodwa. Izingane kumele zikwazi ukuzibaluleka zazo empilweni yakho, futhi indlela engcono kakhulu yokubonisa ukuqonda ukuthi uyakujabulela ukunikela ngesikhathi sakho.
Ukuhlukaniswa kwabazali: Ungazisiza Kanjani Izingane Zisinde Igebe
Empilweni yami kube nesimo esinzima - umkami nomkami (manje owake waba) banquma ukuhlukana. Kwakungekhona ngaphandle kwezingxabano, okucasulayo kanye nokusolwa, kanye nezingane zethu zathola lokhu kuphumula kubuhlungu kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, sakwazi ukuthola ukuyekethisa ngesikhathi, siqinise imizwa engemihle futhi sisungule ukuxhumana okujwayelekile. Ngoba bagxile entweni esemqoka: Ukuyeka ukuba yindoda nomfazi, saqhubeka nobaba nomama. Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi sizoba ngabantu bomdabu baphakade.
Manje izingane zami ezivela kumfazi wangaphambili nolwamanje zidluliselwa ngokuphelele - eseyingane, kwaba khona abafana ukuthola ulimi olujwayelekile kunabantu abadala. Akukho ubutha noma umbango noma phakathi kwabo, lokhu ukuxhumana okujwayelekile kwabantu. Bayakuqonda ukuthi sonke singabantu bomdabu, futhi kuhle ukuthi ngamaholide esingahlangana ndawonye etafuleni elijwayelekile, axoxe ngezihloko ezihehayo, ukujabulela isisombululo sezinkinga ezithile. Futhi sonke siletha kakhulu ukuhlangana okujwayelekile nokuphumula okuhlangene.
Ithiphu: Ngisho nangemva kwesehlukaniso, abazali kumele bazame ukumisa ukuxhumana okufudumele nokunokuthula. Ubudlelwano obujwayelekile phakathi kukamama nobaba bemvelo bezolile nokuzethemba ezinganeni. Ukukhanya okumangazayo kushiya, futhi kuyasiza ukugwema ukulimala kwengqondo kwengqondo.
Ubumbano nokuzibona: Kungenzeka yini ukuthi uphumelele kukho konke
Kubukeka kimi ukuthi akwenzeki kuphela, kodwa futhi kuyadingeka - kanye nawe, nezingane zakho. Okokuqala, uhlangothi lwezinto ezibonakalayo lubalulekile, ngoba umndeni omkhulu ungumsebenzi omkhulu. Izingane kumele zibe nesemuva imali eqinile yokuthola imfundo enhle futhi ziqale empilweni. Futhi kulokhu udinga okuningi futhi usebenze ngempumelelo. Okwesibili, ukuzethemba ukuthi ukunqoba impilo kunikezwa nakanjani kuzothinta izingane. Ukhuthaza ukholo kubo nakukho nakumathuba abo.
Kepha okubaluleke kakhulu - Ubaba unikeza imizwa ehlukile ngokuphelele kanye namava. Angikaze ngithole injabulo efana naleso sikhathi lapho izingane zami zingangazi. Le mizwa yaboniswa ezingomeni, kwathi ngosomabhizinisi oneminyaka engama-40, isihambi kanye nobaba omkhulu uMichael Yak waba ngumculi. Izingoma zami zithande izilaleli, futhi ngiyajabula kakhulu ukuthi okuhlangenwe nakho engikwembula emibhalweni yami kuyaqondakala futhi kusondelene nenani elikhulu labantu.
Ithiphu: Kuyadingeka ukusebenzisa amandla akho, ngoba izingane zizothatha isibonelo nawe. Akunandaba ukuthi kunzima kangakanani ukugcina ibhalansi, zama ukungashiyi ikhanda lakho ukuze usebenze, kodwa futhi ungancishi ezinganeni. Badinga okuphumelelayo, okwenzeka, abazoba yimodeli enhle yokulingisa.