"Indoda akuyona ingane. Indoda iyindoda endala, usevele wakhiwa. Ungasho nje - ngiyayithanda noma ngiyithanda, noma ukubheka enye, "kusho udokotela odumile wezengqondo uMikhail Labkovsky kwenye yezingxoxo. Lesi sikhundla ngomunye wemibono yokuthi ungaluthola kanjani ulimi olujwayelekile nomuntu. Ukufundisa kabusha noma ukukhuthaza ukubuka kwakho nakanjani akuyona inketho engcono kakhulu. Kepha uma uqiniseka ukuthi bonke abasebenza ngokungafani nabo bangesikhashana futhi bachazwa ngezizathu ezithile, kufanelekile ubunye ubuhlobo. Izokutshela ukuthi yiziphi izenzo okufanele zenziwe nokuthi yini ongayilindela kumlingani.
Khuluma nomoya ongathathi hlangothi
Izingxoxo ezihlokweni zomuntu siqu ezizungezwe yizingane, izihlobo, ukuxhumana ngokubuka i-movie, njengokubonisana ngemuva kokwenza ucansi - nakanjani hhayi umzuzu omuhle kakhulu wokuhlanganyela izinkinga ezikhathaza umuntu. Kungcono uye edolobheni, ngokwesibonelo, ehlathini, lapho ungahamba khona futhi ukhulume nemiphefumulo. Umoya omusha unikela ekuthuthukisweni kwe-serotonin, okuzoba nomthelela omuhle esimweni somuntu futhi ngasikhathi sinye uzokulahla, ukukuphoqa ukuthi ukwethembe. Ngamabili lapho kungekho mkhuba wokuhlangenwe nakho kwabelana, izinkinga zenzeka kaningi - cabanga ukuthi uchitha isikhathi esingakanani ezingxoxweni zodwa.
Esimweni esingathathi hlangothi sokukhuluma lula
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Buyekeza Ukuvama
Umlingani wakho angaqonda ukuthi ukhathele emsebenzini noma ukunakekela izingane, kepha ukunqoba imizwa yakho kuye futhi kuzohluleka. Isiko lezinzalamizi lisichaza ukuthi ukuxhumana okusondelene phakathi kwabantu kukobulili kuphela - akunjalo. Ungenza umuntu owuthandayo noma acele ukukwenza, ukwanga nokuqabulana, ushaye ikhanda lakho - cabanga ngalokho akuthandayo nawe. Lapho ukhawula umuntu ekuxhumaneni eduze nawe, uzizwa esengumnikeli futhi ecasukile, ekholelwa ukuthi upholile kuye. Noma yikuphi ukukhathazeka ngomunye ngesikhathi senhlekelele, lapho kunzima ukuthi ukhulume nezihloko ezijabulisayo, izinkulumo mayelana nokubaluleka kwakho kuMlingani futhi ushintshe imizwa yayo eba ngcono.
Khuluma ngawe ngaphandle kokuthinta abanye
Ngesikhathi sokushayisana, noma yiziphi izingxabano ziyaqhubeka: izinkumbulo ezivela esikhathini esedlule, zibhekisela ezihlotsheni, izimangalo zesikhathi esisetshenziswe, ukungahambisani nozakwethu njengento ekahle. Zonke ziyiphutha ngenxa yezizathu ezimbili: Uzophila impilo nomuntu, hhayi umndeni wakhe, futhi awuyisigqila, ngakho-ke awunaso nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, futhi ungakhononda nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, futhi ungakholi ngeminyaka eyimfihlo. Ama-STOOMS amaningi afuna ukusukuma "izisulu" kanye "noMsindisi" - okokuqala awagculiseki ngobudlelwano, kepha abaseneliseki, ukuthola izaba zokuzikhethela kunoma yisiphi isizathu Okwesibili ufuna ukusindisa othandekayo enkingeni yakhe - ekudakweni utshwala kuze kube ngumkhuba wokusakaza izandla. Uma ungaziboni kulezi zinhlobo ezimbili, kusho ukuthi ungakwazi ukuveza isimo sakho ngokwanele engxabanweni, ukhuluma kuphela ngemizwa yakho, futhi ungasoli omunye. Ukukhuluma ngawe, unikeza umlingani ithuba lokukuqonda futhi ukhulume ngokwakho, ukuchaza nje imizwa nezenzo zakho.
nakekelana ngezindlela ezihlukile
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Ukuxazulula izinkinga
Ukuzola kwabalingani enhlanganweni kuthinta ngamunye wabo. Ngakho-ke, lapho umuntu ePlatoon noma ngokunganaki, isimo esingokomzwelo somunye sizobuye sibe ongazinzi. Uzwela olunamandla lukhona, lube lubi kakhulu kuzoba ngumuntu othandekayo, lapho uzohamba ucasukile. Imvamisa asizivumeli ukuthi kungani zikhathele kakhulu noma zifunde ukujabulela umhlaba ozungezile, wesaba ukuhlangana nokungaqondi komlingani. Kepha isinyathelo sokuqala sokuxazulula inkinga ukuqashelwa kwaso nokwamukelwa kwemizwa engemihle. Ungathatha umsebenzi webhonasi, ukulungiswa okuphelelwe yisikhathi, imoto engathandeki noma ukungabikho kwemizwelo emisha. Ungazifundi ngokwakwa ngokwanele, kepha bukhoma njengoba ufuna ngempela. Kuphela-ke uzoba ngumuntu ojabulayo, nokuthi uzoholani - ushintsho ebudlelwaneni bakho noma ukuhlukanisa - uzobona kamuva. Kungenzeka ukuthi umlingani wakho aphuphe okufanayo futhi wesaba ukuvuma lokhu kuwe, ngakho-ke!