Njengabantu abadala, izingane nazo zibhekene nengcindezi. Ukuzibophezela okuningi kakhulu, izingxabano emndenini nasezinkinga kontanga - zonke lezi yizingcindezi ezicindezela isimo sengqondo esihle sezingane. Vele, "inani elithile lokucindezela lijwayelekile," kusho i-psychotherapist Lynn Lions ezindaweni ze-PsypoCPentral. Ngokusho kwakhe, zizwe ukucindezelwa kusukela ekuqaleni kokufunda esikoleni noma ukudlulisa isivivinyo esibalulekile kuyinto ejwayelekile. Isazi sezengqondo siphawula ukuthi ukhiye wokusiza izingane ukuba zibhekane nengcindezi yikhono labazali lokufundisa izingane ukuxazulula izinkinga, izindaba nohlelo "nokuthi" cha "izenzo" kanye nezibopho. "Uma ungafundisi [izingane zakho] ngengcindezi, bazozibandakanya ekuziphenduleni nokudla, imithi notshwala." Ngamanye amagama, izingane zizolwela okuthile okuzobenza bazizwe ngcono, futhi imvamisa kuzoba yindlela engenampilo, kusho yena. Nakhu ukuthi ungazisiza kanjani izingane zakho ngempumelelo zibhekane nengcindezi:
Ungazixosha ama-hares amabili
Enye yezinto ezinkulu kakhulu zokuxineka kwezingane uhlelo oluhleliwe. Abazali balindele ukuthi izingane zifunde esikoleni amahora ayisikhombisa, ukuze ziphumelele emicimbini yangaphandle, ziye ekhaya, zenze umsebenzi wesikole bese zilala, ukuphinda konke ngosuku olulandelayo. Futhi engeza ama-mugs ekudwebeni nasekudansaneni, izingxenye zemidlalo, izilimi, izilimi - Ngabe uluthanda kanjani lolu hlelo lwengane? Njengoba i-psychotherapist Lyoteslos ithwele: "Kuphi isikhathi sokuphumula?" Izingane zidinga ukudlala ikhompyutha, zilele kusofa nge-popcorn futhi zibuke amakhathuni, zihambise nabangane - konke lokhu kuyabasiza ukuba bashintshe futhi banikeze ubuchopho ukuze baphumule. Kusuka eqinisweni lokuthi wehlisa inani lamakilasi, impumelelo yengane esifundweni sendaba ngeke ihlupheke, ngoba ubuchopho be-Overwit abasakwazi ukuhlanganisa imininingwane emisha - cabanga ngakho.
Ingane kumele iphumule ngokwanele
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Zinike isikhathi semidlalo
Izazi zezengqondo zibhala ukuthi kuyadingeka ukunciphisa inani lemidlalo yokuncintisana - dlala imidlalo yebhola kanye nebhodi yebhola lezinyawo, futhi hhayi ukunqoba lapho ingane ikhathele noma icasukile. Ukucindezela ngesimo sokuncintisana namalungu omndeni nabangane kungandisa isimo sakhe esingesihle, ikakhulukazi uma kuhlelwe ngenxa yokwehluleka. Hlanganisa umdlalo ngomsebenzi womzimba obalulekile empilweni yengane. Eminye yemibono: gibela amabhayisekili, dlala i-baseball, hamba ngezinyawo.
I-Dream Kubaluleke Kakhulu
Udokotela we-Lyons Pezersologist wathi iphupho libalulekile kukho konke: Ukusuka ekunciphiseni ukucindezelwa ukuze uthuthukise imizwa futhi ukhuphule izifundo esikoleni. Ingane engenangqondo iyobe ingacasuli, iphatheke futhi inenkimbinkimbi nawe kanye nabanye. Ukungazi izizathu, bangaphendula ngokusabela okungekuhle, okuzoholela ekuphawuleni ekhelini lakhe noma ngisho nokuxabana. Dala umkhathi egumbini lengane, ozophumula kusihlwa: amakhethini aminyene, ukuntuleka kwethelevishini kanye nekhonsoli yomdlalo nokunye. Fundisa izingane zakho ukuqonda i-physiology yengcindezi - unganikeza isibonelo ngegesi kanye ne-brake emotweni. Kancane kancane, bazoqala ukubona lapho sebekulungele ukusebenza, futhi lapho bedinga ukuphumula ngokushesha.
Ungaphuthelwa amasiko aqine anjalo njengokudla
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Phatha ukucindezela kwakho
"Ukuxineka kuyatheleleka ngempela," kusho udokotela wezengqondo waseLyons. Lapho abazali bethola ukucindezela, izingane nazo zibhekene nengcindezi. " Khombisa esibonelweni sakho, njengoba ubhekana nengcindezi. Isibonelo, ekuseni, lapho uvuka ngesimo esibi, wenza ibhulakufesi elimnandi, vula umculo oqinisekisayo futhi uvale ukuvalwa. Futhi kusihlwa, iya esifundweni sokuqeqeshwa, bese ufudumala kubhavu wamagwebu - yini engeyona enye into engxabanweni? Ngokuvamile, odokotela bezengqondo banikele ngabazali ukubheka isithombe sisonke. "Ngeke uphile ngokucindezela ngokwakho, bese ufundisa izingane ngokuphathwa kwengcindezi," kusho uLyns. Ngakho-ke zisize okokuqala, bese kungumakhelwane.