Isehlukaniso ngaso sonke isikhathi siyinqubo enzima yeqembu ngalinye. Kulesi sigaba sempilo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ungawenzi amaphutha angathinta izingane zakho ezabiwe futhi ngokuvamile zenza kube nzima ngokwengeziwe. Sizotshela ngalokho okubalulekile ukukhumbula lapho ubona ukuthi umndeni awusagcinwanga.
Ungathathi Icala
Elinye lamaphutha athandwa kakhulu abesifazane ngesikhathi, nangemva kwesehlukaniso, ukusolwa ngokwenzekayo kuphela. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi wakha ubudlelwano ndawonye, okusho ukuthi umndeni ulele kubo bobabili abalingani. Kufanele uthole ukuthi yini eya ebuhlotsheni bakho hhayi njengomunye kini bobabili bedlale kulokhu. Yiba nenhloso futhi uyeke ukusola kukho konke ngokwakho, ikakhulukazi uma unezingane ezinzima ukubona umama ehlala esimweni esanele.
Ungabheki oxhumana naye unomphela
Abesifazane ababhekene nokusinamathisela okungokomzwelo kubalingani abakwazi ukumane bathathe futhi baphule ubuhlobo obuthatha isikhathi esingaphezu konyaka. Njengomthetho, konke kuqala ngezingcingo. Owesifazane angazama kancane kancane ukuzama ukwenza indoda, yabe isizwa eduze kobukhona bayo, okungenani ngezingcingo nemiyalezo. Eqinisweni, ulungiselela umlingani wangaphambilini ngokumelene nawe, uqonde lokho kusukela manje kuqhubeke, ngamunye wenu uyaqhubeka nendlela yakho.
Thola amabutho ukuze "ugobe ikhasi"
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Misa umlingani wangaphambilini
Ngokusho kwezibalo, ama-60% ekwehlukanisweni kwenzeka ngenxa yokuthi omunye wabalingani uthola umuntu omusha ebudlelwaneni. Okwesigamu sesibili, ikakhulukazi kowesifazane, kuba ukushaya okukhulu. Abafazi abaningi bangaphambilini ngeke basakwazi ukubhekana nemizwa, ngakho-ke ukubhekwa komhlaba wonke kuqala ngomyeni wangaphambili: ukuhlolwa kwansuku zonke kwezinkundla zokuxhumana nabantu, izingcingo zomngane ukuze zifunde imininingwane eminingi. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ngemuva kwesehlukaniso uthola ithuba lokuqala impilo eshidini elihlanzekile, kungani uchitha insiza eyigugu yokukhathala kwamabutho asekhaya kanye nokuphazamiseka okuqhubekayo okuvela kumuntu owayekade enakho into entsha yothando. Vele "ujike ikhasi".
Musa ukwakha isisulu
Ukufuna ukushiyeka kwendoda yangaphambili akukudunyi futhi kukudumise ngohlangothi olumnandi kakhulu. Kwenzeka kaningi ukuthi owesifazana aqale ukuba abuze bonke abajwayele, njengoba kubiza kabi, futhi kwesinye isikhathi akunandaba ukuthi ngubani owayengumqambi wesehlukaniso - Isisulu sibalulekile ukuba sibangele ukuzwelana ngezimo. Thola amandla okubonga umyeni wakhe wangaphambili ngazo zonke izikhathi ezinhle owabhekana nazo ndawonye, futhi uvumelane nobani omuhle owaziyo, mhlawumbe umlingani wakho wesikhathi esizayo uzoba yisiphetho sakho sangempela.