Ososayensi bakufakazele kaningi ukuthi abesilisa nabesifazane babona iqiniso futhi benza izinqumo ngendlela ehlukile. Kukholelwa ukuthi amadoda anisela imoto engcono, futhi abesifazane bazwela kakhulu futhi bancipha ekucindezelekeni. Ngabe kunjalo?
Ake siqale ngeqiniso elihehayo: Kuvela ukuthi ubona iphalethi yombala wobuchopho ngezindlela ezihlukile: Amadoda anzima ukubona umehluko kumathunzi aluhlaza nohlaza okwesibhakabhaka, futhi kunabamele ubulili obubuthakathaka.
Wake wacabanga ukuthi kungani abesifazane bengashayela imoto bekhuluma ocingweni kanye nezindebe ngasikhathi sinye? Futhi konke ngoba ubuchopho bowesifazane buguqulwa njengabanhle futhi baphendule ngokushesha ekushintsheni kwamatshe. Ingqondo yendoda ayiziqhayiseleli leli khono: Ukushintsha ukunakwa, indoda ichitha amandla amaningi.
Yini ochwepheshe abayishoyo ngalokhu? UTatyana CherniGovskaya, usosayensi emkhakheni we-neuroscience kanye ne-psycholinguistics, uthi: "Kuzo zonke izinhlobo zabesifazane phakathi kwabesifazane, ngakho-ke, impilo yezenhlalo yobuchopho ibanzi kakhulu." Lokhu kusho ukuthi ubuchopho besifazane bukulungele ukuqhuba izingxoxo nabaningi be-interlocutors, ngakho-ke, ngakho-ke abesifazane abahlelekile! Kunzima ukuphikisana nalokhu.
Ngubani okulula ukukhohlisa - abesilisa noma abesifazane? Abesifazane ukukhohlisa okuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, futhi akusikho emqondweni wabesifazane, kepha kudivayisi yobuchopho bakhe: Ibamba izimpawu zokuxhumana ezingezona ngamazwi: izinguquko ezibonakalayo, ukushukuma komzimba, izinkulumo zobuso, kanye namadoda agxilisa kuphela kokuqukethwe .
Uprofesa uphika inganekwane ethandwa kangaka: Abesifazane bane-hemisphere ebengeziwe elungile, banothando olungokomzwelo futhi bathandana, futhi ubuchopho bobunjiniyela besilisa kanye nonjiniyela abahamba phambili butholakala. Ekukhetheni umsebenzi akufanele athembele kulolu hlelo.
Ngakho-ke, kuyiqiniso yini ukuthi abantu baseMars, nabesifazane abaneVenus? Konke kuncike kwizici zomuntu ngamunye wobuchopho bomuntu: Kunabesifazane abanomlingisi ongokwezifiso abazokhipha izingqinamba kunoma yimuphi umuntu, futhi, kunalokho, abesilisa abanezici zobunzima zokuziphatha. "Ukwehluka komuntu ngamunye kuzoshintsha iqembu," kusho udokotela we-neurolingwing kulesi siphetho.
"Hhayi nje ubuchopho kuphela obakhela wena njengobuntu, kodwa futhi thina sithinta ubuchopho bakho," kusho uTatyana CherniGavkaya, "kusho uTatyana Chernigangovkaya. Ukujula kobuchopho bethu kuncike kithi nakulokho esikugcwalisa ngakho. Kufanele sikugcizelele ubuchopho bakho ngolwazi olusha, funda izincwadi ezi-smart futhi uthuthukise ngokomoya, kungakhathalekile ukuthi uzumele ubuqiniso ngokomoya.