Ngemuva kwewindi lentwasahlobo, isimo esihle kakhulu. Ukuze uthole injabulo, owesifazane osemusha, okhangayo futhi onesizungu edolobheni, udinga ukujwayelana nendoda ethokozisayo. Futhi ukuze kube nenoveli enesivunguvungu enokuqhubeka okuthembisayo ...
Kepha uzokuhlangabezana kuphi lokhu?
Kubukeka sengathi, amadoda adumile awafanelekile kule ndima. Nokuthi ungathatha kuphi abanye? Ujwayele kuphi? Kanjani futhi nobani ababengadumazi futhi?
Ukuba yindoda esesimweni esifanayo kulula kakhulu. Akayedwa, ukhululekile, useseshweni. Lokhu kuguquka ngokuphelele. Isimo sengqondo ngomuntu - kufanele ufezeke naye, ukuze udlale, uthanda, kufanelekile. Kodwa esimweni sowesifazane onesizungu. Kusukela munye, kusho ukuthi kukhona okungahlelekile naye: hhayi ngesidingo sabesilisa.
Kodwa-ke, isizungu noma ubudlelwano yimiphumela yezenzo zethu. Lokhu ukukhetha okuqaphelekile noma okungazi lutho.
Nazi ezinye izibonelo zezizathu zokuthi kungani abesifazane benayo yonke imininingwane yabo yangaphandle kanye nomlingiswa omuhle kakhulu uhlala yedwa.
munye. Okulindelwe kakhulu okuvela kumlingani. "UVasya utshele kuphela" Sawubona ", futhi uKatya usevele emcabangweni wawugubha umshado wamnika izingane ezintathu." Leliqiniso Elibuhlungu yile nto akunakwenzeka kanjani ukukhombisa okokuqala nomunye wezimbangela ezivame kakhulu zokwehluleka. Owesifazane ulindele indoda isikhathi eside. Futhi lapho othile etholakala, khona-ke wonke ama-steamer aqoqiwe, amaphupho namathemba awela kuwo. Esikhundleni sokujabulela umphakathi ngamunye, lona wesifazane ulawula ngokucophelela ukuthi umlingani ongaba khona ubhekana nendima yomlingani walowo oshade naye - uyise wezingane zawo zesikhathi esizayo ungumngane - isithandwa - Ukusekelwa komsekeli ophanayo. Indoda eyazingazi ukuthi intaba enjalo yokulindela yanikezwa yena, kunzima kakhulu ngabo ukuba balingane. Ngenxa yalokho, ungezwa into efana nokuthi: "Uyamangalisa, angikufanele." Futhi uhlale wedwa.
2. Ukubalekela isizungu. Abantu abathandi lapho bebajabulela. Futhi awuthandi. Kepha ebudlelwaneni 'nebanga lesithathu akuyona umshado.' Emzamweni wokubhekana nokwesaba okunjengokuthi "Ngizohlala ngingedwa", "Akekho ongithandayo futhi engathandi," abesifazane banele ithuba lokuba sebudlelwaneni, njengotshani bokugcina. Icala alikho nakancane endodeni. Kuyadingeka ukuthi othile abe yize ububi bungebubi bungebuhlungu futhi uFrank. Indoda kungenzeka ingathandeki nhlobo, ayithandwa. Konke okudingayo kuye kungukuthi ube seduze nje. Awuzange ufune ukunqamula izimbobo ezingokomoya ngokulindela izinketho ezinhle kakhulu. Lawo madoda awakuthandi. Futhi uhlala wedwa futhi.
3. Ubudlelwane obungapheli. Mhlawumbe uthando nokusondela kwangempela sekuvele kwenzeka empilweni yakho. Ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukahlukene, kwaphela ngonyaka noma ezimbili noma ezintathu ezedlule. Ngisho neshumi noma ishumi nanhlanu. Iphuzu aliguquki. Isikhathi izinkinga ezinjalo aziphili. Uma ubuthanda umuntu, futhi ubuhlobo bagcina ngokungafanele, leli nnaba emphefumulweni namanje alisavala. Uyiphatha nawe, ngisho nezinhlungu ezithintekile. Kodwa-ke, nomaphi lapho uya khona, nanoma ubani ukuzama ukudala ubudlelwano kabusha, esigabeni esithile sezinkumbulo zokusondela okuhle ku-OS OUS noma yikuphi okungokoqobo. Ngqo, namanje awukaphumulanga futhi awukaqedi ukuxhumeka kokugcina. Mhlawumbe akubuhlungu, kepha okuyisibonelo. Akekho noyedwa wawo amadoda angakufaka esikhundleni sakho, futhi akekho ongavusa umuzwa! Ubudlelwano obungalungile - into evame kakhulu. Izibonelo zokwenza kwami iMassa: Uthando lwabesifazane ngomyeni wokuqala ekuseni ukuze bafe noma bashiye. Kusukela lapho, uLoti wakhe ube yimpilo yomndeni eyisidina enomlingani wesibili ongemuhle, obanda ngokwanele futhi asuswe, futhi azenze sengathi akamboni iminyaka eminingi yokulila. Noma umfazi osemusha oweza ukuzobonisana muva nje. Uthando lwakhe lokuqala nolukuphela kothando ngumngane wesikole owaya kwelinye idolobha eminyakeni engu-15 edlule, naphezu kokuthi babefuna ukuba ndawonye futhi ezikoleni eziphakeme bakha amapulani omshado. Lona wesifazane akazange asinde asothukile lapho ehamba futhi ngokushesha ngemuva kokuthweswa iziqu ngazithola ngiyintombi entsha. Wakha umsebenzi omangalisayo, wazinikezela, wazivumela noma yiluphi uhambo. Kepha angikaze ngihlangane nanoma ngubani. Sengathi uzinikezela isithembiso sokungamthandi muntu.
Kodwa-ke, ubuntwana bekusasa buyizifundo ezithile kuphela zomphefumulo wethu. Ukuba nesizungu akusona ukucacisa kwezimo, lokhu kungukukhetha kokunye. Lokhu kukhetha ezimweni eziningi kwenziwa ngokungazi, kepha lapho-ke yilowo nalowo uthola incazelo ethi "enengqondo" yona. Eqinisweni, asikho isizathu sokuqhubeka emthanjeni ofanayo. Umuntu angavuma kuphela ukuthi ukuholele emiphumeleni enjalo manje, bese uqala ukuhambisa kwelinye uhlangothi.
UMaria Dyachkova, isazi sezengqondo, udokotela wezokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholayo kweSikhungo Sokukhulisa Ukukhula KwaMarika Khazin