Ngemikhuba yomlingani kanye nemikhuba yokucasulayo, wonke umuntu abhekene nayo, ngokushesha nje lapho isikhathi se-charm ekhethiwe sidluliswa ngemuva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa zobudlelwano. Yinye kuphela into engavali ukuvala isembozo sendlu yangasese kanye ne-cap evela kumazinyo futhi ehluke ngokuphelele - ukukhombisa ukuhlukunyezwa noma ukunganaki izicelo ezikhethiwe. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukungezwani okungokomzwelo kuyanda, futhi isithandwa sakho singahamba - isizathu uma ubonakala ngamaphethini achazwe ngezansi, wena, kunjalo, ungabheki. Nansi imikhuba emihlanu engacindezela umlingani wakho futhi yakhe ibanga elingokomzwelo:
Ukugqamisa kwabagxeki
I-Psychologist Guy Vinci engxoxweni ne-Psychology namuhla ithi amaphesenti angama-80 eqiniso athi uhlobene nobunqunu, kufanele abe namandla, nakanjani (ngokwesibonelo, ngaphandle kukadoti "). Kwabanye ababili, lesi silinganiso sakhelwe ngokuhlukile: Ngeke uphinde utshele indoda futhi, njengoba inephunga lemimoya noma ukuthi wajabula kanjani ukuthi ulethulwe imibala, kepha qiniseka ukuthi uyabona uma uhlela ukungcola kudeskithophu. Lapho ilungu elilodwa lababili libonisa ukungagculiseki kwabanye, lingadicilela phansi umlingani aqala ukudicilela phansi ukungabi nalusizo futhi alunasidingo kuwe.
Ukugxekwa okuvela kubathandekayo Kuthukwa imizwa yomuntu
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Isango elilodwa lidlala
Ukuxoxa ngezinkinga futhi kuveza ukungagculiseki ngokushesha lapho kuvela, kufanele wonke umuntu. Inkinga ukuthi akuyena wonke umuntu owaziyo ukwenza lokhu: Ku-pair, lapho umuntu enobuhlakani obungokomzwelo, kanti omunye uyakhulisa kuphela, umlingani wesibili uzizwa zero ngesikhathi sezingxabano. Nakisisa ukuthi othandekayo wakho uyayibona imizwelo futhi ukhulume ngokweqiniso ngabo. Uma kungenjalo, phakamisa ukuthi uye kudokotela wezengqondo noma ukuvumela ukuthi uqonde ukuthi ngeke usilahle ubuthakathaka, kepha usekele isifiso sokwembule. Kunzima kakhulu ukungenisa amadoda ukuthi bathukuthele, banomona, umona, odabukisayo nokunye, njengoba beyingcindezi yezenhlalo eqinile yesithombe sendoda yamatshe, engafani nemizwa enjalo. Uma ungasebenzisi umsebenzi onjalo, umlingani ngemuva kokushayisana ngakunye uzozwa abalahlekile, futhi lokhu akufanele kube - iqiniso linqotshwe engxabanweni, hhayi igunya.
Akunakuzwela ngokucindezela okungokomzwelo
Lapho umlingani oyedwa enesikhathi esinzima, kanti omunye akakuboni ukuhlupheka kwakhe noma, okubi kakhulu, adambise, afune ukukhathazeka ngama-trifles "noma" zibathathe ngesandla ", amabutho asebekancane. Hhayi kusuka kubangani nemindeni, okungukuthi, kusukela kothandekayo wakho, silindele kakhulu ukubonakaliswa kozwela, olungakholelwa emandleni alo. Ukubona ukunganakwa, umuntu unomphumela onengqondo wokuthi awunendaba naye futhi ukhathazekile ngempilo yakho.
Ukunganaki izikhalazo ezibalulekile
Yize ukugxekwa njalo, njengoba sishilo ngenhla, kuthathwe ngokungahambi kahle, noma kunjalo ungazinaki izikhalazo ezibalulekile zomlingani ngeke. Kuzomenza azizwe alahliwe futhi ashiywe ngaphandle kokunakwa. Uma izimiso zakho zingaphikisani nalokho okucelayo othandekayo, kwenze futhi kwamnikeza induduzo engokomzwelo. Uma ungavumelani nesicelo, ingabe uxoxa ngalo mzuzu nomlingani futhi umenze aqonde lokho ongakukhathaleli, kepha unombono ohlukile.
Kwanele ukulengiswa ocingweni
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I-Technonninger
Abaningi kakhulu bethu bancike kumagajethi futhi bawakhokhele ukunakwa kakhulu kunama-halves abo wesibili. Ukuxhumana okungapheli kunethiwekhi nabanye abantu kutshela isithandwa sakho ngalokho okunesithukuthezi naye. Zama ukucisha umsindo wezaziso zenethiwekhi yokuxhumana nabantu okungenani kusihlwa lapho uchitha isikhathi ndawonye. Ngikholwe, izokutshela ngenhlonipho yakho kumuntu ongaphezulu kakhulu kuthayipha ngezipho noma inombolo engenamkhawulo yezithombe ezinama-bouquets kusuka othandekayo wakho.