Lapho sicabanga nge-daffodils, isithombe esivame ukufika emqondweni ungumuntu othanda ukuba yisizinda sokunakwa, ukuhambisa okuyize nokusobala kudingeka ukwazisa. Kungakhathalekile ukuthi banjani iminyango evaliwe, bangahle bakhanye futhi bahehe abantu. Lolu hlobo lwe-narcissus luyi-narcississist "enhle". Nokho, kunolunye uhlobo lwe-narcissus nguyena ongalingani nomfanekiso weqiniso lokuthi iningi lethu libheka i-narcissist nhlobo.
Ngaphandle ama-daffodils asengozini yangaphandle aze afike emngcwadzini, imvamisa aqine futhi avale kakhulu. Yize zingaqondiswa yizinkolelo kanye nezidingo ze- "Grandiose" Narcissists, umsuka wawo wangaphakathi ufihlekile ngaphansi kwegobolondo elivikelayo. Ngenkathi i-narcissist enkulu ibonisa umlingiswa wayo emphakathini futhi ikuvikele ngokwesimo ekuhlanganyeleni naye, i-narcissus ingahle isebenze, ukuzivocavoca umzimba okunolaka nokususwa ngolaka. Njengama-narcissists amaningi okufisa, i-narcissus engozini ine-ego entekenteke, futhi umthelela wokugxekwa noma ukubiza ungaba nomthelela ojulile kukho. Zonke lezi zici zingenza kube nzima ngokwebudlelwano nama-daffodils asengozini:
Uhlala usendaweni yesibili
Uma ubudlelwane ne-daffodil esengozini, ziyohlala zisendaweni yokuqala. Bangagxila kakhulu futhi kuzofanela banelise izidingo zabo. Izidingo zakho zingaba eceleni futhi zinganakwa. Ungathola ukuthi ebudlelwaneni yonke into ihamba kahle uma ukhokha uthando lwakho nothando futhi unaka lapho edinga khona, kodwa lapho izindima zishintsha, futhi unesifiso sokugula, futhi udinga usizo esimweni esinzima, umlingani wakho angakwazi ukukunikeza. Lokhu kuzazi okuza kuqala kusho ukuthi ungathola ukuthi umlingani wakho akakulaleli ngempela noma akaqondi okushiwo yilokho ozama ukukudlulisela, futhi konke lokhu kungaba yingozi, okudumazayo nokuqina kwengqondo yakho.
Ungayenethemba ukuthi uma umuntu ezosola
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Imfucuza engenalutho yamandla
Ukuthola ubudlelwane ne-daffodil esengozini kuncishisiwe ngoba kufunwa ngokomoya. I-narcissist esengozini ikudinga ukuba uzithande futhi isekele umuzwa wawo obuthakathaka wokuzibonakalisa. Bazodinga njalo ukuzethemba nokunakwa - ngenkathi useduze bese uyondla ngemizwa yakho, uzoziphatha ngokujwayelekile. Kepha kufanelekile ukuya ephathini nabangane noma ukuhamba ngempelasonto yedolobha, njengoba ezofuna ukuhlanganyela kwakho empilweni yakhe, futhi ngeke anikeze isikhathi sokuphumula.
Ukubuyisa kumanethiwekhi wakho ayinkimbinkimbi
Abasengcupheni ama-daffodils ababandakanyeka ebudlelwaneni obuningi obukhohlisayo nobunzima nomndeni nabangane. Futhi ngaphandle, ukuxhumana kwazo kuzobukeka kuqinile, kepha ngengxoxo esondele kakhulu phakathi kwakho uthola ukuthi umuntu owayengabungani ephendula abathandekayo bakhe - ugxeka izenzo zabo, izinhloso zokuphila, ngamazwi, konke okungamname. Ngeshwa, indlela enjalo yokuziphatha ivame ukubonwa emindenini yobulili obufanayo - lapho ingane iphakamisa khona umama noma umama nomama omncane, ngakho-ke ayinayo imodeli yomndeni nobudlelwano phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane. Lokhu kuvuka nhlobo ngenxa kamama "omubi", kepha, kunalokho, kusukela esifisweni sowesifazane ukunikeza ingane okuhle kakhulu. Uvumelanisa le modeli ebudlelwaneni bakhe esizayo, bekholelwa ngokweqiniso ukuthi lona wesifazane kufanele amkhonze. Ngabantu abasha banamuhla, kukhona ukungakhethi phakathi kwamadivayisi esimweni senhlalo kanye nokumelwa kwawo okungazi lutho. Intombazane kufanele azimele, futhi incike kuye, futhi ibanda, futhi ngasikhathi sinye ngokomoya - ngegama, inhlanganisela yalokhu kumuntu oyedwa ayinakwenzeka, ngakho-ke abantu abanjalo bayobe besesha umngane.
Kwesinye isikhathi uthando lwamama luningi kakhulu
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Kusetshenziswa amandla okukhohlisa amaqhinga
Ukuxhumana nge-daffodil esengozini kungaba yinto enothando nolwazi olunzulu. Bangakuvuma othandweni lwaphakade futhi basho ukuthi udinga kanjani. Yize sonke sithanda ukuzizwa sibaluleke, ungazizwa ngasikhathi sinye esibaluleke kakhulu kumlingani wakho - kunokungqubuzana kwamagama nezenzo. Umlingani wakho angahlenqaba uthando nokunaka futhi acasuke uma ungavumelani nakho konke akushoyo. Bangenza ngemishwana enjalo ngokuthi "ngiyazi ukuthi empeleni awungithandi," Uma ngingakudingi, ake sihlukane "ukukukhuthaza ukuthi uhlele futhi wenze lokho abakufunayo. Ngamanye amagama, zizokukhohlisa ngokomzwelo ngezindlela ezihlukile zemfihlo.
Esele esele yokuhlukana
Ama-daffodils asengozini azwela kakhulu ekugxekeni kakhulu ukuthi noma yiliphi igama lakho ezingxabanweni angabahlukumeza ngasikhathi sokuthi bazoqubuka ngokomzwelo - noma ngabe ukuphawula bekungalungile futhi kufanelekile. Ekuqaleni, abesifazane bafana nokubonakaliswa kwemizwelo, ngoba ekhanda labo kuyalingana nokuqonda endodeni. O, baphutha kanjani ... ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile ebudlelwaneni obunjeyo uzothambekela ekuhlolweni konke ongakusho ngaphandle kokubeka engcupheni yokusabela ngokweqile. Lokhu kuphendula akuyona inkomba yobudlelwano obunempilo - ekuxhumaneni nendoda ejwayelekile ungathembeka futhi ungesabi ukuthi noma yimiphi imishwana yakho izosondela enhliziyweni yakho.