Baba yimbangela yezingxabano, ukuwa kwemindeni futhi benza abantu abathandana nabanye baye ngezindlela ezihlukile. Bazonda abesifazane nabesilisa ngezikhathi ezithile bacabanga ngabo. Namuhla sikhuluma ngemikhuba. Yini ehehayo, abanye besifazane benana nomona abaphathi (uma bengahlaseli, ingabe bengahlaseli umndeni wabo), njengombuso, intombazane iba yindawo yomona, ekwazi ukweqa inoveli yomuntu ovikelekile ongazihluphi Izipho ezibizayo kanye nokushukuma komzimba okubanzi. Kodwa kunengqondo yini ukumona ngomuntu wesifazane uma kufanele alawule imizwa yakhe futhi asungule zonke izindaba ezintsha zabangane nezihlobo? Ungacabangi. Sizokhuluma ngezizathu ezine ezizokubulala eqinisweni lokuthi isiphetho sesithathu ebudlelwaneni asinabunosi.
Isikhathi esiphuthelwe ukungabuyi
Akunandaba noma ngabe lona wesifazane akazange aqinisekise ukuthi umfazi uma kuqhubeka iminyaka, amathuba okuba umndeni uzohlukana naye ukuze le ndoda yokwakha umndeni ngenkosikazi yakhe, incane kakhulu. Njengomthetho, owesilisa wanele ahlala enendawo ahlala ekhona lapho angayixosha khona indlu uma kuvela ukungaboni ngaso linye nomkakhe. Kepha ngokukhululeka okufanayo, indoda izobuyela ekhaya, ishiye inkosikazi ukuba ilindele umhlangano olandelayo. Kungenzeka umona ngomonakalo wokuchitha isikhathi ngokukhohlisa?
Impilo ngezindima zesibili
Indoda inobudlelwano ohlangothini, lapho impilo kanye ne-monotony yempilo iqala ukumunca ngokushesha. Unkosikazi emehlweni owesilisa ungowesifazane lapho kungenzeka khona ukugwema le mpilo futhi uphumule ngoba akunakwenzeka kumkakhe ngezizathu ezahlukahlukene. Indoda ayikhi amacebo amakhulu, ngakhoke umfazi nezifiso zakhe ziyohlala zibaluleke kakhulu. Inkosikazi ihlala i-pickup, futhi isimo esinjalo sizohlela owesifazane omncane.
Ukungaphenduki ebudlelwaneni kuholela ekucindezelekeni okungapheli
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I-neurosis engapheli
I-minsus eyinhloko esikhundleni senkosikazi - ayinasimo. Akuwona umndeni noma abangane noma ozakwabo abangazi ngobukhona bayo, kepha kuzodingeka futhi bacashe, bagweme izithombe ezijwayelekile ofuna ukumgodla kuyo, kepha akunakwenzeka. Kubalulekile ukuthi noma yimuphi umfazi aqonde ukuthi unokwesekwa, kepha indoda eshadile ayikwazi ukukunikeza ngoba kuncike ngokuphelele emndenini wakhe, okusho ukuthi noma yimuphi umzuzu ukuzosiza intombi yakhe eceleni angeke. Lapho umuzwa wokungavikeleli uqala ukuthola umfutho, konke kungaqeda ukuwohloka kwemizwa kanye nengxabano enkulu, okuzoholela ekuhlukaniseni nenkosikazi yakhe, kodwa ngeke kucashunwe le ndoda - umuntu oyedwa ongafakwa esikhundleni somunye.
Ukungakwazi ukukhombisa imizwa
Okomuntu, inkosikazi ihlukile kumkakhe, ongakhononda, aqondwe ngokulinganisela, ngezinye izikhathi ukuze abukeke njengomyeni wayo. Ukuziphatha okunjalo okuvela kwinkosikazi kuzomisa umuntu ngokushesha. Ngenxa yalokho, konke ukusinda kwakhe emnene, inkosikazi iyaphoqeleka ukuba icashe futhi izame ukungacasuli indoda efuna ukuphumula ezandleni zowesifazane wayo wesibili. Uma owesifazane evuma ubudlelwano "ngokungemthetho" ngokungemthetho ", kufanele alungele iqiniso lokuthi kuzohlala kuthonywa umoya kanye nezifiso zendoda. Akunakuphela okubangelwa kakhulu, ungatholi?