Ukube bengifuna ukuba ngumqondisi we-movie ethile, nakanjani ngingeze emcabangweni wesakhiwo samaphupho engikwazile ukufika ekuhumusheni kule kholamu.
Ukucacisa leli phupho, ngidinga ukudweba prehistory. Ngifundise indlela umndeni wethu, ifa lakhe elinhlekile lithinta kanjani inzalo. I-Anselyn Schrzzidolemger encwadini ethi "I-Syndrome of Okhokho" ichaza kahle inqubo ethokozisayo yethonya lomndeni komunye nomunye, noma ngabe hlobo luni lwamalungu omndeni alusekelana noma alusekeli nhlobo. Ukulandela, ukuthembeka emasikweni emindeni nasemibusweni yomndeni, kuvame ukulandelwa izimpumputhe, kubizwa ngokuthi ukuthembeka. Ukwethembeka ukuxhumana kwethu nomthombo, lo umuzwa wokuhlangana okuyisisekelo kwesitaka sakho.
Ukuxhumana "namaphakethe", nomndeni, awudingi ukuba muhle nhlobo. Enqubweni yokulandela izesekeli zomndeni, akunandaba ukuthi ubudlelwano bethu nomndeni butholakala kanjani ngendlela engcono kakhulu. U-Anselyn Sharezzberger uholela ezibonelweni ezimangazayo zezehlakalo ezifanayo empilweni yemindeni: izifo ezifanayo eziyingozi eminyakeni efanayo nale minyaka yokhokho kanye nenzalo eyayazi uqobo. Imicimbi efanayo namadrama, ukuzalwa noma izingane zezinzwa, inani labashadikazi nesehlukaniso. Kwesinye isikhathi kubukeka sengathi umndeni umane uphinda imicimbi yangaphambilini ngaphansi kwemoto. Mhlawumbe, ngohlobo lwethu, okuphindwayo, kunencazelo eningi. Mhlawumbe le ncazelo ayibonakali ngokwahlukana okuthathwe yilungu lomndeni, kodwa ngokujwayelekile isimo somndeni sishukumisela lolu hlobo luhlonze. Futhi ngaleyo ndlela bathola ukuxhumana okunamandla nokhokho.
Inqubo yethonya elihlanganyelwe lamalungu omndeni komunye nomunye linelukuluku kakhulu
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Lapho umuntu ehlakaza umlando womndeni futhi ethola ukuxhumana phakathi kwawo kanye namafa awo omndeni, kubonakala kuyindlela enzima. Ungawenza buthaka ubuhlobo nomndeni, ukuze uthole lokhu ukuthola inkululeko yokukhetha umlando wayo, ongase angahloli emndenini.
Mhlawumbe ube yindoda yokuqala ecebile lapho izizukulwane eziningi zibuyela emuva, zisindisiwe futhi zinomucu olwelule, ziye zabhekana nobuphofu bonke.
Kungenzeka ukudala ubudlelwano besikhathi eside lapho kungekho zindaba zobudlelwano obujabulisayo emndenini, kepha kunomlando wokulahleka, ukulahleka, ukukhaphela. Kepha-ke kuzodingeka ukuthi ushiye umzamo wokwenza ukuxhumana okukhulu nendlela yakho yendabuko ngokugcina ukuthembeka okuphezulu.
Umuntu owaziyo ubudlelwano bakhe nomndeni wakhe uyazi ukuthi lokhu kuxhumana akunakukhululekile ukuthi kuyadingeka ukuthi uvame ukwanela ngokwehlukile isipiliyoni somndeni esinzima, ngokwethembeka, hhayi ukwethemba amadoda; Njengobaba, zama ukwakha ibhizinisi lakho ngempumelelo futhi uphile ezikweletini.
Futhi manje, njengomfanekiso wale ndaba, obambe iqhaza le nkulumo utshele iphupho. "Ngihola iqembu le-zombie. Bakhiqiza igazi emithanjeni bese bethola ukwanela. Akukho lutho oluyingozi kwabanye abenzile, kepha qala ukukhombisa amandla abo: Suka, ukhwele ezindongeni, gijima ngejubane elikhulu. Ngingafana, kepha ngiyesaba la mandla. "
Ukuchazwa okuncane: kusuka endaweni yokubuka yemvelo, igazi lingukuxhumana nomndeni. UBulgakov wabhala: "Umbuzo wegazi umubuzo onzima kakhulu, indlovukazi '.
Cishe, ubunzima ukubona ubuhlobo bayo obusemqoka nomndeni futhi, kanye nalokhu, ilungelo lokuzimela lapho kudingeka khona ukukhokha okubuthakathaka kwalokhu kuxhumeka.
Iphupho lamaphupho ukutholwa kwamandla akhe ngaphandle kobuhlobo obuqinile nomndeni. Uma efuna ukufunda ukuyisebenzisa, khona-ke ukuxhumana nokhokho, namasiko abo, umbono wabo ngokunemba kwempilo kuzodingeka ubukeze futhi, okungenzeka ukuthi awenze buthaka.
Ngiyazibuza ukuthi uphupha ini? Izibonelo zamaphupho akho athumela ngeposi: [email protected]. Ngendlela, amaphupho kulula kakhulu ukuwaveza uma encwadini eya kumhleli uzobhala izimo zokuphila okwandulelayo, kepha okubaluleke kakhulu - imizwa nemizwa ngesikhathi sokuvuka kuleli phupho.
UMaria Dyachkova, isazi sezengqondo, udokotela wezokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholayo kweSikhungo Sokukhulisa Ukukhula KwaMarika Khazin