Noma ungenawo umngani onjalo, kungenzeka wazi okungenani owesifazane oyedwa omuhle ngaphandle kombhangqwana. Kungenzeka kanjani, ngoba inalo lonke ithuba, abaningi bacabanga. Amantombazane abukeka ngokujwayelekile ngokugcwele ngezikhathi ezithile abheka umona ngomona kulabo bantu bemvelo abanikezwe yimininingwane emangalisayo yangaphandle: Kubukeka sengathi owesifazane onjalo vele azikho izinkinga empilweni yakhe, amadoda kungenzeka ambone, futhi kukhona Akukho ukususwa kubo. Ngasikhathi sinye, amantombazane amahle kakhulu ayamangala ukuthi kungani umakhelwane enedatha ethobekile esele umyeni wesibili nezingane eziningana. Kunzima ukuba izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zichaze lesi simo esimangazayo, kepha zisekhona ezinye zezizathu zenhloso.
Kukholakala ukuthi lowesifazane omuhle kakhulu, "kubanda kakhulu"
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Ukulimaza stereotypes
Uma kukhulunywa ngentombazane enhle, umcabango uvela ngokushesha nge-Madame ekhanyiselwe, engenakunqotshwa, ongakhathaleli uma kungelutho ngaphandle kwenqubo elandelayo e-salon salon. Yebo, lokhu kutholakala, kepha hhayi njalo. Abesifazane abahle bavame ukuba nabangane, futhi akunakwenzeka ukuthi laba bantu babe eduze kwentombazane enobugovu, engenalutho. Umuntu ngamunye unezithiyo zawo, kepha ubuhle bazo kuthiwa kwesinye isikhathi.
Inganekwane yesibili: intombazane enhle - intombazane eyisiphukuphuku. Kepha ngeke sikhohlwe ukuthi amantombazane ahlakaniphile abuye ahlupheke ngokuntuleka kokunakwa, ngakho-ke kusobala ukuthi kuncike kancane kuncike engqondweni lapha.
Uma intombazane ihlanganisa ingqondo nobuhle entombazaneni, kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi inikele isikhathi esiningi sesikhathi sokuzifundisa nokukhula komuntu siqu. Abafuni ukuzinikela emndenini osemusha. Kodwa-ke, i-Quary emsebenzini iyinduku emaphethelweni amabili: lapho intombazane enhle ifinyelela esimweni esiphakeme, iba nzima ngokwengeziwe ukuthola umbhangqwana, ngoba manje umbuthano wabalingani abangaba khona mncane kakhulu.
Enye inganekwane ephilayo, kulokhu kufiswa kwabesilisa: Uma intombazane inhle, unomuntu othile. Amadoda amaningi azophuthelwa yintombazane enhle kangcono kunengozi yokuzwa ukwenqaba. Kulokhu, ungaluleka noma ujwayelane kuqala, noma ubheke umbhangqwana ngabangane abajwayelekile.
Ngokusho kwezibalo, amantombazane anesizungu abukeka njengento evamile awaphansi kokuhle, ngakho-ke kuphephile ukusho ukuthi impumelelo empilweni yomuntu siqu incike kuphela ekubukeni. Kubalulekile ukwenza ezinye izimfanelo ezidingekayo zokwakha ubudlelwano obuvumelanayo.
Thuthukisa izimfanelo zobuntu obuhle
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Amantombazane amahle esaba. Ngani?
Ochwepheshe bakholelwa ukuthi ukwesaba indoda phambi kwentombazane enhle kuqinisile. Kunegama lesayensi lale ukwesaba - i-hynophobia. Indoda yesaba kakhulu ukuthola ukwenqaba ukuthi ngeke akwazi ukwedlula amandla.
Isizathu esiyinhloko salokhu ukwesaba kwabesilisa akuqinisekile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, asikhulumi ngabamele amadoda ahlanganisiwe, kepha ngamadoda anokuzithemba okuhle impela, kepha ngisho nalapho alahlekile phambi kobuhle. Kunzima kakhulu kwabesilisa ukuthi umbono wokuthi intombazane enhle ayinakuba njalo.
Indoda isaba nje ukuza kuqala
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Elinye iphuzu: Amadoda akholelwa ukuthi umlingani wentombazane enhle kufanele abe yisicebi. Uma bengazibheki njengabo, balahla ngokushesha noma imiphi imicabango ngaye ejwayelene. Isizathu sitholakala ekunqobeni okujulile kobudlelwano obuqondile lobuhle kanye nempumelelo yezezimali. Izizukulwane ezihlangene ziphila nomcabango wokuthi indoda ecebile kufanele ibe nomngane kanokusho, naphezu kokuphambene - owesifazane omuhle akasoze abheka endabeni ephakathi.
Izimbangela zesizungu sabesifazane
Ngaphambi kokubhekana nenkinga, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka. Owesifazane kudingeka aqonde ukuthi eMhlabeni wanamuhla sizama ukuphoqelela umbono wamanga ngobuhle obubaluleke kakhulu ngaphandle, ukunakwa kwangaphakathi kukhokhwa ukunakwa okuncane.
Akubona bonke abesifazane abaqonda ukuthi ubuhle obunye akuyona idiphozi yezokuphepha. Yebo, umuntu 'uzogoba' ukubukeka okuhle, kodwa kuzofanela aphile nomlingiswa wakho, ngakho-ke, naphezu kwemininingwane yemvelo, akumelwe ukhohlwe ngokuthuthukiswa kwezimfanelo ezinhle zomuntu siqu.
Enye imbangela engenzeka izidingo ezenzelwe kakhulu izidingo zakwa-satellite. Kukuthi abesifazane abanjalo abesaba amadoda angenhla. Owesifazane onjalo uvame ukungabonakali futhi akuvamile ukuhlangabezana nokubuyisana kwabani abangakubheki okubhekwa njengokufanele ukunakwa kwakhe.
Uma isizungu sikunikeza kuwe futhi ufunde encazelweni yakho, ubuyekeze isimo sakho sengqondo kwabanye, mhlawumbe empilweni yakho kuzoba nezinguquko ezishayayo, futhi ekugcineni uzothola injabulo yakho.