Ngeshwa, akuwona wonke amadoda asemandleni okugcina ukuthembeka kowesifazane oyedwa. Ukunquma ukuvukela umbuso, umuntu uqala ukuziphatha njengenjwayelo, kufanele alawule njalo inkulumo yakhe, lona wesifazane uqala ukubona ukuthi okhethiweyo enza izikhathi ezithile futhi balalele ngokwengeziwe kusukela endlini. Kodwa-ke, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zithole ukuthi umlingani angazange azame kanjani ukuze alondoloze ukuzola, kunesethi ethile yamabinzana efaka umfazi ophilayo empilweni yakhe, noma ngabe kukhona abesifazane abambalwa.
"Ungathinti izinto zami, mina uqobo"
Uma uhlala ubhekana nokugeza nokuhlelwa kwezinto kumbhangqwana wakho kuphela, ushintsho olubukhali lwezindima kufanele lukwazise. Njengomthetho, owesilisa owaziyo ukuthi lona wesifazane uzonakekela zonke izikhathi zasekhaya, ngeke ahlaze kancane ukungena kule nqubo. Ukwesaba kuphela kokuvezwa, kungahlanganisa le ndoda ngokweqine ngokujulile ukugeza, ukuhlunga izinto, kanye nokwabo kuphela. Kunesizathu sokuqwashisa. Kodwa-ke, phawula ukuthi izinsolo kufanele zizalwe kuphela uma lokho kuziphatha ungakuboni sonke isikhathi sobudlelwano.
"Ngizophinde ngihlale namuhla, ungangilindi"
Futhi, sibheka njalo kwezinguquko ekuziphatheni komuntu. Uma kusukela ekuqaleni kobuhlobo "Iqhawe lenoveli yakho" libambezeleka emsebenzini, futhi nabangane bakhe bakhononda ngokuhleleka ngokuzilolonda komngani wabo, konke kuhamba kahle. Imodi "Ukuphelela" Ukuvula Lapho indoda iqala ukuncika emdlalweni ohlanganyelwe, ikakhulukazi, kuphakama izinkinga esikhathini lapho inhlekelele ifika ebudlelwaneni bakho, xhumana kakhulu uma umkhathi use-Psycholo uzakwethu.
Indoda iqala ukukunikeza ukunakwa okungalindele kakhulu
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"Uyangiguqula ngezikhathi ezithile?"
Amadoda ane- "Skeleton" ngesimo sokumangalisa, noma eyodwa, iqala ukusola wonke umuntu ezungeze nokokuqala - owesimame wabo. Uqala ukuvela kangangokuba wanquma 'ukuya kwesobunxele', okuvimbela umlingani wakhe? Ngeke uvumele imicabango enjalo, kepha indoda ayiyeki. Imvamisa, ngale ndlela indoda izama ukudala umuzwa wecala kowesifazane ngisho nangaphambi kokuba iqale ukusola okuthile. Ungavumeli ukuchitha.
"Akufanele ngichaze lutho"
Uma ucishe ukuqiniseka ekuvulekeni kozakwethu noma waze wathola ukuxhumana nomunye umuntu wesifazane, hhayi iqiniso lokuthi othandekayo ugijimela kuwe ngiyaxolisa. Umuntu angaya "ekuhlaselweni", asho ilungelo lakhe lokuthula. Ungaqala ukusola ngokuthembana, izinsolo ezingadingekile ngisho nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo, uma ngabe uzenzele yonke indawo lapho. Kodwa-ke, umuntu ongenalutho angakufihla kufanelekile ukuchaza ukuthi lo wesifazane owenza ngayo izincwadi nokuthi yini ebudlelwano obuhlotshaniswa nabo. Ukusabela kwesivunguvungu emibuzweni yakho cishe kufakazele ukungathembeki.
"Konke"
Ngesimo esiseduze uqobo, uthole ukuthi ukukhashelwa kwakusekhona, futhi futhi indoda kungenzeka ingakuboni unecala. Ukumangalelwa 'komuntu wesithathu' kuzongena esifundweni, bathi, "Bengingenacala, sangingenga." Kunengozi yokuzisola ngomuntu futhi ukholelwe ebuqili benkosikazi, kodwa akudingekile ukukhombisa i-naivety - indoda ethile iqonda kahle ukuthi nokuthi wayezokwenza, futhi, wazenzela yena, ngakho-ke, azinikele ezandleni zakhe angazenzi kunqotshwe ukudideka okudidekile okungasenzekile.
"Konke wena"
Enye inguqulo yokuthuthukiswa kwemicimbi ukukusola. "Uhlala umatasatasa", "unekhanda" bese kusohlwini. Indoda ikholelwa ngokweqiniso ukuthi ukucindezela kwakhe endaweni yakho kuyomvumela ukuba aphume 'emgodini wamanzi', ngoba ngombono wakhe, nguwe kuphela okufanele asolwe. Nguwe kuphela okufanele asolwe. Nguwe kuphela okufanele asolwe. Nguwe kuphela okufanele asolwe. Nguwe kuphela okufanele asolwe. Nguwe kuphela okufanele asolwe. Nguwe kuphela okufanele asolwe. Nguwe kuphela okufanele asolwe. Nguwe kuphela okufanele asolwe. Nguwe kuphela okufanele asolwe. Nguwe kuphela okufanele asolwe. Nguwe kuphela okufanele asolwe. Nguwe kuphela okufanele asolwe. Nguwe kuphela okufanele asolwe. Nguwe kuphela okufanele asolwe. Kuphela wena kuphela okufanele usolwe. Kulula futhi ukunqotshwa ukucasulwa futhi uhlangabezana necala elijulile lecala, ikakhulukazi uma kunokuxineka ebuhlotsheni bakho. Futhi nokho isimo sakho nokwenqaba kokusondelana akusoze kwaba "ukukhanya okuluhlaza" ngenxa yokuvukela umbuso.
"Ngiyakuthanda kuphela"
Kepha emuva esimweni lapho kusekuseni ukukhuluma ngokuvukela umbuso. Umuntu angavele aqale ukukhombisa ukunakwa kakhulu kuwe, kuyilapho ethi okuwukuphela, uyakuthanda wena kuphela, abanye besifazane abanayo injongo yakho phezu kwabenye abesifazane. Cabanga ukuthi kungani kungazelelwe wakwazi ukugcwaliseka kwalokho futhi okungaka okushiwo ngaso sonke isikhathi sobudlelwano bakho? Ingabe sasikhona isizathu sokuqhathanisa? Khombisa Ukuqapha.