Umuntu kuqala ubhekene nenkinga ngesikhathi sokuzalwa. Cishe uzomangaza yilokhu, kepha okuthe xaxa kuzokwenza ucabange ukuhunyushwa kwenkinga yobudala uqobo. Kukholakala ukuthi le nkinga yisikhathi lapho umuntu enolaka kakhulu, ngobugovu futhi engenabungani maqondana naye nabanye. Eqinisweni, lezo "zimpawu" zikude kubo bonke - labo abazokwazi ukubhekana nazo "Mina", ukuba bakwazi ukuyilawula, bazokhishwa esihlalweni sokuqalisa kabusha okuwusizo. Siyasho, ukuthi abantu bahlangana kanjani nenhlekelele nokuthi bangasinda kanjani ngaphandle kobuhlungu.
Inhlekelele iminyaka emi-3
Kwi-Psychology, inhlekelele yalonyaka ihlotshaniswa nokwakhiwa kokuqala kwe-ego - Ukuqwashisa ngokuthi "Mina" njengomuntu ohlukile. Ingane namanje asazi ukuthi ungayinqanda kanjani imizwa, ngakho-ke ingakhombisa ngokukhanyayo izici zomlingiswa - ukuze inhlekelele, yenqabe ukufeza izicelo zabazali, zilwe nezinye izingane nokunye. Lapha, abazali benza njengababhali bemiphumela yesikhathi senhlekelele - emandleni abo okuziphatha ngokuzolile, ukuphindaphinda izicelo zabo ezipholile, baphikelela baphikelela izicelo zabo futhi babe nengane kubo. Kwenqatshelwe ukumemeza, ukusongela noma ukushaya - kungakuhlehlisa kokuqonda kwengane, okuzothinta nakanjani impilo yakhe yesikhathi esizayo kukhiye omubi. Izazi zezinkanyezi ziphawula ukuthi eminyakeni emi-3 ebalazweni leNatal elihlola ubunikazi bethu kwinqubo yezinkanyezi lithathelwa indawo uphawu lweSaturn, ngokulandelana, "ukwaphuka" kubhekwa - isigaba esisha sempilo.
Kubalulekile ukukhuluma nengane ezolile
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Usizi iminyaka engu-7
Manje ukuzazi kwengane njengomuntu ohlukile kubhekene nomphakathi - akusekho okukhawulelwe emndenini, izihlobo eziseduzane nabangane. Ingane ifakiwe e- "BIG World": iya esikoleni lapho abantu abasha begubha khona - ofunda nabo nothisha. Ukushintshwa kwezinga elisha lezemfundo manje sekuyisingane sinesibopho sokuthola ulwazi nokuhlola njengomphumela wokulinganisa kwabo. Ezinye izingane ezingavakasheli enkulisa noma ziseqenjini elithi "Grey Mice", zingabhekana nobunzima. Ababelethi bangasiza ekuhlanganeleni kwengane, babhale kwimibuthano, izigaba kanye namakilasi angeziwe ngolimi lwakwamanye amazwe nezihloko zemfundo ejwayelekile. Lapho uqhubeka emgqeni enganeni ngalesi sigaba, kuzovela ubuntu bakhe obucacile esikhathini esizayo.
Inhlekelele Eneminyaka engu-14-15 ubudala
Inkinga yeminyaka ye-Transinational isikhathi esinzima hhayi le nsizwa kuphela, kodwa nakubantu abaseduze kwakhe. Ngalesi sikhathi, osemusha uyakwazi ukuzimela kwakhe eqenjini - uma ngaphambili wajwayela ukuba yingxenye yakhe futhi wacabanga nabanye, manje usehlukaniswe. Imicabango yakhe iyakhula ezingeni eliphakeme, idonswa ngesisekelo somuzwa otholwe ngaphambili nolwazi. Futhi ngalesi sikhathi, uyakwazi ubulili bawo, isithakazelo esivulekile sobulili obuhlukile kanye nesipiliyoni esifanele sokusondelana ngokusondelana kubonakaliswa. Kubalulekile ukunikeza osemusha ithuba lokuveza izimo - egqoke izingubo ezingejwayelekile, izinwele upende futhi zisebenzise ukwakheka. Uma ingane yakho inengxenye yesibili - ungaphazamisi ebuhlotsheni babo, kuze kube yilapho umkhandlu ukubuza wena, futhi ungazivezi imizwa yakhe. Njengasezinhlekelele ezedlule, umsebenzi wakho ukusekela futhi uxhase, ukhulumisana nengane futhi ube ngumngane kuye, hhayi umphathi.
Osemusha uyazi ngobulili bakhe
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Inhlekelele 23-24 ubudala
Ochwepheshe bezengqondo baseNtshonalanga babheka lonyaka ukuthi uqhamuke esikhathini sokushicilela, yize phakathi kwezindlu ezifuywayo kujwayelekile ukuthi iminyaka yobudala iphela ngaphambili - eminyakeni eyi-16-17. Lesi sigaba se- "seroing" sihlotshaniswa nencazelo yezinhloso zempilo - umuntu uthole imfundo ephakeme, isipiliyoni sokuqala somsebenzi. Ulungele ukunquma ukuthi iyiphi indlela okufanele uhambe ngayo. Imvamisa kulo nyaka, abantu abasha baqala ubudlelwane bokuqala obukhulu, lapho kuqashelwa khona lapho abafuna ukukubona kumlingani, isikhathi esingakanani nomzamo ongawulungisi. Le yinkinga yokuqala umuntu aphila ngokuzimela kwabanye, okusho ukuthi iyakwazi ukulawula ukuhamba kwayo futhi ithonye imiphumela. Kubalulekile ukuchitha imikhuba embalwa - Bhala incwadi eya esikhathini esizayo iminyaka emi-5, lapho uchaza khona ukuthi ufuna ukubona lokho ofuna ukukubona, chaza amakhono okuphila alinganiselwe, chaza amakhono adingekayo ukunyakaza okuphumelelayo komsebenzi. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - hambisa endaweni ekhethiwe. Uma ukwazi ukubhekana nemizwa, le nkinga izodlula ngendlela.
Eminyakeni engu-28-31
Lesi yinkinga eyinkimbinkimbi engadluli ngaphandle komkhondo. Ngalesi sikhathi, umuntu angakwazi ukuguqula ukwazi kwakhe ngamadigri ayi-180, ashintshe ngokuphelele izimo zengqondo zokuphila. Kubalulekile ukwenza zonke izikhathi zangesikhathi esedlule, ikakhulukazi lezo ezibangela ukuqina okungokomzwelo - ukuhlukanisa, ukwehluleka emsebenzini, ukukhaphela kwabathandekayo noma ubudlelwano obubi nabazali. Kungcono ukufuna usizo kudokotela wezengqondo ozokusiza ukubhekana nezinkinga. Uma usebenza njalo kule minyaka, ungaya esigabeni esisha ngomunye umuntu - onemigomo yokuphila engathandeki efanelekile indawo ezungezile, ubudlelwane obufudumele nabathandekayo nothando lomlingani. Ngokuphathelene nalokhu, imvamisa yalawa madoda akhule athatha isinqumo sokuzihlanganisa nomshado womshado, bahlela ukuzalwa kwezingane. Kwabesifazane, isikhathi sesidleke singashintsha esikhathini esidlule. Kubalulekile ukuthola ibhalansi phakathi kobuciko kanye nokuzenzela cishe phakathi, ukuphambuka kunoma yimaphi amaqembu azothinta kabi ubuntu bakho.
Ku-30, ungumuntu ophumelelayo ngezifiso nokufakwa okuhlotshisiwe.
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UClis 36 kuya ku-38 ubudala
Ukuqaphela okuphakathi kwempilo futhi ubheke okwedlule. Uhlola ukuthi iyiphi iminyaka edlule etholile - isikhundla, impahla, umndeni, abangane, ukubukeka kwakho. Kulesi sikhathi, izingane zakho kungenzeka zifinyelele esikhathini sentsha - sifisa ukuhlukanisa nawe. Ukujwayela njengezingane, kubalulekile ukubona ukuzimela kwakho futhi ubanikeze inkululeko. Uma ungajabuli nganoma iyiphi i-Sheww yempilo, uyiguqule ngesibindi - umncane ngokwanele ukuze ukwazi ukwakha umsebenzi omusha, unaka umuzwa owedlule noma wenqabe ubudlelwano obuvumela umlingani omusha.
UClis 40-43 Oneminyaka yobudala
"Inhlekelele eneminyaka ephakathi nendawo, njengoba izazi zakhe zengqondo zibiza. Ngalesi sikhathi, uvuna izithelo zeminyaka yokugcina yamuva engu-4-5 ukusuka enkingeni yangaphambilini. I- "Self" ekugcineni iyakhana - "Mina" njengeyunithi elihlukile ngokufakwa kwalo, izifiso nezidingo. Ufuna ukuthola lokho okuphuphayo, mhlawumbe ngokushesha futhi ngaphandle kokuyekethisa ngezifiso zabanye. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi awuyena umlingo hhayi i-wizard ukuthola konke ekuqaleni - udinga ukuba semalini phakathi kwemizwelo yakho nemizwelo yabantu ebalulekile kuwe. Cabanga ngemibono yabantu abahloniphayo futhi ethembayo, banake okuncane kokunye. Unolwazi ngokwanele ukukwazi ukuthi "cha" futhi uthole ezinye izindlela.