Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa kamuva ehlobo zizofika ngokufanele - isikhathi sonyaka, okuthi, kanye nentwasahlobo, kubhekwa njengenkathi yezinsuku. Izinsuku ezifudumele nezishisayo ngakho-ke ufuna ukufudumala ngangokunokwenzeka, ngenkathi uhlala unesitayela futhi uyathakazelisa. Ukubutha ngosuku futhi ikakhulukazi ngezinsuku zokuqala, imvamisa amantombazane ahluthwa ethuneni lapho ephishekela umuntu, ukuze amthande. Kunezikopelo eziphakeme, iziketi ezimfushane noma izinkamba, amaphrinta akhanyayo, ubucwebe obuningi, abanye bazama ukulingana nezintshisekelo zale ndoda ethile. Kuyiqiniso, konke lokhu kwenzeka uma kungekho sivumelwano sangaphambilini ngosuku, ngokwesibonelo, edolobheni lentambo noma okunye ukudla okusebenzayo okuthe xaxa. Ngakho-ke kufanele ugqoke kanjani ngosuku lokuqala?
Kunemininingwane eminingi lapho kushiwo khona yiziphi izingubo okufanele zikhethe, kule ndatshana ngeke sikhulume ngakho.
1. Ukukhetha ingubo, khumbula: Ukuthi uzobheka kanjani kulobubusuku, kuzodala umbono wokuthi le yindlela ogqoka ngayo njalo. Uma uthatha isinqumo sokuhlangabezana nesimo sendoda bese uza, ngokwesibonelo, ecaleni lelicala, cabanga ngokuthi uzobukeka kanjalo njalo? Ngabe uzoba ntofontofo kulesi sithombe phakathi nemihlangano yakho? Umdlalo ngezindima ezahlukahlukene futhi isifiso sokufanisa kungaholela ekudumazekeni kumuntu nakubantu abanganamandla nawe, ngoba senza sengathi sinamandla amakhulu.
2. Khetha izicathulo nezingubo lapho ungeyena muhle kuphela, kepha futhi kulula, futhi futhi uzizwa "ngokuphakama." Ukwenza inhlolovo phakathi kwabesilisa, ngathola ukuthi iningi labo alibaluleke kangako ukuthi intombazane igqoke, kepha okubaluleke kakhulu, njengoba izizwa futhi ziveza futhi ziveza futhi ziveza futhi zibonisa. Uma ugqoke ingubo enhle ebabazekayo kanye nezimbadada ezinhle ezithendeni, kepha ngasikhathi sinye awunamsebenzi - ukuhlikihla imichilo yezicathulo, ibhlokhi elingathandeki, elivalekile emapuletini, - lizodala isihawu endodeni oyifunayo Ukuthanda, hhayi ngaso sonke isifiso sokuhlangabezana nawe okwamanje, yebo ngokushesha okukhulu. Yiba yemvelo, gxila ekunambithekeni kwakho, ukuze uvikele kamuva nendoda mayelana nendoda ngezingubo, khetha izingubo lapho uzizwa ufuna insikazi, nakuwo wonke umuntu wesifazane kungenye into.
3. Amandla wowesifazane kufanele akwazi ukubukeka ebuthaka. Sonke siyazi ukuthi abesifazane esemvelweni wabo baqinile, bangafinyelela abafiselekayo, ukwenza lokho abakudingayo. Kodwa-ke, ukuhlakanipha kowesifazane kufanele kunikeze indawo yakhe indoda eduze kwakhe, imvumele ukuba ayinakekele, avikele, azizwe enesibindi ngencwadi enkulu uM. Uma indoda yakho iqonda ukuthi inendawo eduze kwakho, yena ujabule ngaye futhi ungancintisani naye uzosala. Intombazane esiketi ifunda okwesifazane kanye nomsingatheli, ngifuna ukumnakekela, hamba ngezingalo zami nge-puddle bese uphonsa ijakhethi emahlombe uma sekupholile. Ungesabi ukuba sengozini eduze kwendoda, uyothanda ukuba yi-knight eqinile eduze kwakho.
Ngifisela wena izinsuku ezinhle zasehlobo, izingubo ezinhle nezicathulo ezintofontofo!
Karina efimova,
Isazi ekwakhiweni kwekhabethe labesifazane eliqiniso