Abaningi bethu basebenza eqenjini, kodwa ngeshwa, hhayi kuwo wonke umkhathi wamahhovisi kufanele bakwazi ukuxhumana nobungane. Inhlebo engapheli, ubuso obunovalo bozakwethu kungadala ukulimala okukhulu kwe-psyche. Futhi akekho ovikelwe umshuwalense ngokucindezela nokuxhamazela eqenjini. Kepha yini okufanele uyenze, uma ngabe usuvele waba yinto yokushushiswa kwengqondo? Sizamile ukuthola.
Oxhumana Nabo Abancane
Njengomthetho, i-buller izama ukukuyisa engxabanweni ngazo zonke izindlela, futhi kungenzeka ukukwenza kuphela ngokuxhumana njalo. Konke kuqala nge-encane: Okokuqala umsulwa wephule isikhala sakho, uzama ukusukuma nawe "ngokwezinga elilodwa", yize umuntu angakwazi ukuxhumana nabo bonke abanye ozakwabo . Lapho nje uqaphela izikhathi ezifanayo, zama ukudlulisa konke ukuxhumana ngefomu elibhaliwe, njengoba wehluleka ukulahla ngokuphelele ukuxhumana - usasebenza enkampanini eyodwa futhi, mhlawumbe emnyangweni owodwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma kwenzeka kwenzeka iphiko lokungahloniphi, uzoba nobufakazi obungokomfanekiso ngesikrini sokuxhumana kwakho.
Zigcine ezandleni zakho
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Ungavaleki kuwe
Imvamisa, utshani buqiniswa buqiniswa futhi buzuza umfutho uma isisulu sithule futhi asithathi isenzo. Kuyacaca ukuthi akuhlali kulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuvuma ukuthi unenkinga enjalo eqenjini, yize empeleni isimo sibi kakhulu. Uma uqonda ukuthi akwazanga ukukhuthazelela isikhalo esinjalo noma ubudlelwano obunobuthi nge-buller counter ukuphazamisa umsebenzi wabo, hhayi isikhwama sakha umhlahlandlela. Uma kwenzeka ukuthi umphathi akasebenzi, chaza lesi simo ngebhukwana eliphezulu.
Ungavumeli ukuncishiswa
Njengoba sishilo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi i-buller ifinyelele imizwa kuwe (Yebo, i-negative), ngakho-ke izolinda umzuzu lapho uzithola usesimweni esekela kakhulu. Kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi ube nalokhu engqondweni futhi ulungiselele iqiniso lokuthi lapho uxhumana nalo muntu, udinga ukuhlangana futhi uzigcine ezandleni zakho, noma ufuna ukunamathela emphinjeni. Ungalethi umhlukumezi wenjabulo enjalo.
Awusona imbangela yokuxhamazela
Izazi zezengqondo zivame ukuphakamisa ukuthi abanye abantu bagcina isisulu sokuziphatha kukho konke, yingakho umuntu onjalo ehlangabezana nengcindezi evela kuzo zonke izinhlangothi. Kodwa-ke, kuyadingeka ukuqonda ukuthi ubungeke ube ngumuntu ongeke ube ngumuntu, ikakhulukazi kuleso sikhathi lapho wena ungenzi khona ukukhuphuka e-rogger, akunakuba izaba zokuziphatha okunjalo kuwe. Khumbula ukuthi ozakwethu baphathwa kanjani emsebenzini owedlule, uma kungekho zimo zolaka ohlangothini lwakho, lokhu kungenye ubufakazi bokuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngeqembu lakho lamanje.
Yenza ngaphandle kokulibala
Lapho uzithola use "lileveli yokuqala" ye-heit, awukwazi ngisho nokunaka iqiniso ukuthi osebenza naye usanda kuhlaselwa ngendlela yakho, wenza amazwi amabi nakho konke okunjalo. Kubukeka sengathi kungcono ukuhamba, ungadali isimo sokungqubuzana. Eqinisweni, ungakhathali nje okonile. Uma ulwela ngaphandle kokulibala ngaphandle kokulibala, izinga lesifiso sokuphishekela uzoqhubeka nokuqhubeka, futhi mhlawumbe nomhlaseli uzoshintsha nawe ukuxhumana nawe, ngoba ungazimela.