Amaphesenti amakhulu abantu akholelwa ukuthi ukuba khona komlingani kuzokusiza umuzwa ocindezelayo wesizungu. Kodwa-ke, lapho umuntu ofisa evela empilweni, kuyavela, konke akulula kangako futhi nomuzwa wokulahleka kungenzeka ungashiyi, kepha futhi uyaqina. Sinqume ukuthola ukuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka futhi kungenzeka yini ukwenza okuthile ngakho.
Zinqume ngokwengeziwe
Uma uqhubeka 'ukhula' umuzwa obhubhisayo ngaphakathi kuwe, ngokushesha umaneli wakho uzokwehluleka, akekho owaziyo ukuthi kuzokwenzekani - lokhu kungaba njengokuphazamiseka kwemizwa nokunakekelwa ekucindezelekeni okujulile. Cishe noma iyiphi inkinga ebudlelwaneni ingaxazululwa, ihlwanyele etafuleni lokuxoxisana. Kuyaqabukela impela ukuze ukwahlukaniswa kwababili kuthola omunye wabalingani, okungenzeka ukuthi isigamu sakho sesibili sizwa futhi ukungaphatheki kahle. Chaza imizwa yabo, ngokubambisana uzoba lula kakhulu ukuthola izixazululo.
Ubudlelwano bakho buwukuhlangenwe nakho kwakho komuntu siqu.
Umthelela omkhulu ebudlelwaneni unikezwa umphakathi, futhi ikakhulukazi amanethiwekhi omphakathi. Ku-Ribbon sibona abangane, abantu obajwayele kanye nobuntu bezindaba abatshela ukuthi inyunyana yabo mihle kanjani nomlingani. Konke lokhu, ake sikubonile, kuthinta umbono wethu wobudlelwano babo. Kungase kuqale sengathi ingxenye yesibili ingalungile futhi ayikhokhi isikhathi esiningi ngokuthi "indoda ephelele ye-tanin, atshela ngayo kuzo zonke izinto ezithunyelwe." Yekani ukuguqula izithombe zabanye abantu, anazi ukuthi kuyiqiniso kanjani amazwi entombi yakho noma inkanyezi elandelayo ebudlelwaneni, kufanele ugxile kubudlelwano bakho, ukhumbule wonke amaphuzu amahle owabhekana nawo, futhi nangezinkinga eziqondayo Xoxa njengoba sikhulume ngaphambili ngokuxhumana nendoda yakho.
Ungagcini imizwa engemihle
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Awunazo izintshisakalo ezifanayo.
Yebo, thola umlingani ofanele futhi ngasikhathi sinye - indoda enomqondo ofanayo, akulula. Kunzima ikakhulukazi ukuhlanganyela lapho owesilisa nowesifazane besebenza ezindaweni ezihluke ngokuphelele futhi izintshisekelo zabo azikwazi ukuwela. Kulokhu, sisebenzela lokho okungukuthi, okungukuthi, ukuzama ukuthola amaphuzu ukuxhumana nalezo zinto zokuzilibazisa osuvele unazo. Ake sithi indoda yakho iyahlanya ngamaqhinga emvelo, futhi ungumthandi womzimba. Lapho bobabili abalingani bengabaza engxenyeni yesibili, izingxabano zivela kanye nokuhlukaniswa okungokomzwelo okufanele sibhekane nakho. Zama ukuvula okusha bese ungena othandweni lomlingani wakho kancane, futhi umnikeze ukuba enze okufanayo. Ake sithi, kanye ngenyanga ehlobo ungaya emvelweni ndawonye, futhi indoda ingavakashela ejimini amahlandla amaningana ngenyanga, ikhetha okungenani i-simulator eyodwa. Kodwa-ke, kuyadingeka ukukhombisa intshisekelo ngobuqotho, ukuwela, ubona nje ingcindezi enkulu kakhulu.
Samukela abalingani
Ekuqaleni kobudlelwano, ngenkathi siphuphuthekiswa umuzwa wokukhanya, kubonakala sengathi umlingani nje awunalo amaphutha. Konke kushintsha lapho i-paddle iwela futhi uqala ukwazi okukhethiwe okukhethiwe. Kulokhu, izikhathi ezingemnandi zingembulwa, ongazange uziqagele. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi indoda yakho ingumuntu ofanayo nezinzuzo zayo kanye nama-min dealantages kanye namaminithi, iqiniso lokuthi akakwazi ukukuqonda ngehhafu yegama akusho ukuthi akakwazi ukukwenza umbhangqwana ngokuqinile. Ukwenza okuhle komuntu kuhlale kuphenduka ukudumazeka okubabayo, uya kuwe, kubonakala sengathi awuqondi, kodwa empeleni awukakulungeli "ukuvula": kuvela ukuthi unezithiyo zawo. Zama ukwamukela umuntu njengoba kunjalo, imizamo yokukhumbula umlingiswa futhi ishintshe umkhuba wokuxabana kuphela.