Wonke amantombazane amaphupho azogqoka ingubo emhlophe bese ethi "yebo" indoda eyakwazi ukuyolanda ukhiye enhliziyweni yakhe. Sivale amehlo akho ebuhleni bomuntu okhethiwe ngethemba lokuthi zonke lezi yizinto ezincane lapho uthando luphakathi kwethu. Eminyakeni embalwa kamuva, ngiphendula imibuzo evela kudokotela wezengqondo: "Ensizwa kwakuyisiphukuphuku." Kepha siza eziphethweni ezinjalo kuphela lapho phezulu sekwethulwe: umshado, umshado, ukuzalwa kwengane, impilo, izingxabano, imicabango ngesehlukaniso. Futhi lapho sesiqinisekise abazali bethu: "Angithi phela, lolu uthando lweqiniso!" Masithole ukuthi hlobo luni lwamadoda okufanele alugweme, khona-ke hhayi ukwelapha isilonda kuchwepheshe.
Isigaba sokuqala ngabantu abanezinkinga ezinkulu zengqondo nabantu abahlushwa zonke izinhlobo zokuncika: Abadlali be-gamers, izidakwa, abalutha bezidakamizwa nokunye. Akusizi ngalutho ezinkombeni ongasindisa umphefumulo olahlekile. Ngokunokwenzeka, lo "mphefumulo" uzokuyisa phansi. Ungathathi umthwalo wemfanelo kumuntu okungenzeka angaze aguquke. Amadoda ajwayelekile emhlabeni anele, kufanelekile ukusebenza kancane kuwe, imicabango yethu kanye nezinto eziza kuqala kuwe empilweni.
Ukuhlaselwa kwentukuthelo - isizathu sokucabanga ukuthi kufanelekile ukudala umndeni umuntu onjalo
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Isigaba sesibili - Amadoda anomkhuba wokuhlukumeza kanye nonya empeleni, abantu abangenampilo ngokomqondo. Lapho umuntu engenasizathu esihle, ukuhlaselwa kwentukuthelo kwenzeka ngensimbi ethusayo. Wayenemoto efafazwe noma umlindi engalethi leyo pizza - futhi uyamemeza, kube sengathi wethulwa amabhulukwe akhe, kwathi amahora amathathu ngemuva "kwesigameko" aqhubeka nokuthukuthela futhi athukuthele. Vele, ungakwazi ukuthola izaba ezahlukahlukene: Unomsebenzi wezinzwa, ukhathele, njll. Noma kunjalo, akukufanele ngethemba lokuthi ngokuzayo unokubekezela okwenele ukulalela ukunganeliseki okungapheli. Lokho okubonayo esigabeni sokuqala sobudlelwano kungandiswa ngokuphepha ngama-20 - futhi uzizwa wokuthi isimo esizoba yisikhathi esineminyaka engu-5 somshado.
Ingabe wabelana ngemibono ngomndeni wesoka lakho olungahlelekile?
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Isigaba sesithathu singabafana ababi, i-marginal, eyenqaba amanani ajwayelekile, i-taboo, baphila emithethweni yabo kuphela futhi bakhafulela bonke. Abafana ababi, njengoba wazi, njengamantombazane. Kuyinto engajwayelekile, yothando, i-sexy. Kepha uqinisekile ukuthi imibono yomndeni wakho iyahlangana nayo? Uqinisekile ukuthi lapho umtshela ukuthi ukhulelwe, ngeke ayeke "iHarley" lakhe ebheke emkhathizwe, ngaphandle kokushiya amakheli, lapho ukubhala khona izinhlamvu? Akaphili ngokwemithetho evamile, ezweni lakhe, mhlawumbe yilokhu kanye amadoda angempela eza. Ngakho-ke, ungasebenzi kahle ngazo zonke izinhlobo zama-goths, ama-bikers, ama-panks. Okungenani, sikhipha ukuthi kungakanani okuvela, nokuthi singakanani isimo somphefumulo nendlela yokuphila. Iqiniso lokuthi izinwele zezinwele ezisobekile ezinde ezindlebeni aziyona inkinga uma edala inkampani yakhe yamakhompyutha yaba yinkampani eneminyaka engama-30 ubudala, yakha indlu kubazali bayo futhi isilungele ukudala umndeni. Le yinkinga kuphela uma engazange adale lutho ngempilo yakhe, uphila ngokulahlekelwa ngabazali bakhe futhi ngeke agule ngentokozo.
Bheka ukuthi okhethiweyo wakho uthini ngonkosikazi wakhe
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Isigaba sesine singamadoda ashadile. Kungenzeka yini ukuqala ubuhlobo nabo? Isayensi yaziwa lapho i-banal adulter iguqulwa ibe umshado wesibili. Ngisho nezindaba ziyaziwa lapho umshado ujabule. Kepha kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi inani elikhulu lamadoda ashadile liphenduka amangalikazi nhlobo ukuze libashade. Kodwa-ke, lesi simo asibavimbeli ukuba bafunge othandweni nasezithembisweni zokuhlakazeka. Uma uyazikholelwa lezi zithembiso ngesizathu esithile, zikhumbula ukuthi, ngokwezibalo, uma umuntu oshadile engahlukanisi nomkami unyaka owodwa, "naye akasehlukanise naye. Lalelani ukuthi uphendula kanjani imibuzo ngonkosikazi wakhe. Uma ebakhuthala kakhulu, ngokushisa kukhona izikhalazo zakhe, zikukhuza - zithi azisho lutho ngalabo abafuna ukuhamba, kodwa ngalabo abathandayo futhi bazame ukubuyisa. Izinkinga zomoya ezisazisa ubudlelwano obudlule, noma ngabe zisinda kangakanani. Uma engakhumbuli ngomkakhe, futhi aphendule imibuzo ngendlela eyodwa, evusa isandla, isivele isibonakaliso esihle kunazo zonke, kusho ukuthi akumjabulisi kuye. Kepha akukufanele ukwaba: Ukungabi nandaba nomkayo akuseyona isizathu sokuyiphonsa. Uma ethatha njalo ngempelasonto eDacha, ehamba ngomshado kumfowabo womkakhe, ahambe nomkakhe nezingane ukuze aphumule, kepha uqiniseka ukuthi ungumuntu okwaziyo ukujabulisa wena ?