Emhlabeni wanamuhla kunesisindo sezindlela zokuthola umfana kusuka kwelinye idolobha noma izwe. Sixhumana ngenkuthalo ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi, hamba uhambo, qhubeka nohambo lwebhizinisi futhi ube nethuba noma kuphi lapho uhlangabezana nalowo ozodala uzwela ngisho nothando.
Kukholelwa ukuthi imizwa enjalo ayinazo amathemba, ngoba ngenxa yokuvuselelwa kwenhliziyo, abantu abakwazi ukuba abanye izihlobo. Kodwa-ke, amacala lapho inoveli yaphenduka khona ijabule impela, kusenzeka.
Ubudlelwano bokuphromotha bungasebenza ngezinguqulo ezimbili. Okokuqala, amathuba empumelelo alungile uma omunye wabathandi engakhathaleli ukuhambisa futhi aqhubeke ngefomethi yesikhathi esigcwele. Okwesibili, ukuba umbhangqwana ojabulayo, ohlala emadolobheni ahlukene, mhlawumbe labo abangafuni ukuhlangana ngokuhlanganyela, imindeni kanye nezingane, futhi bakulungele ukwaneliswa ngokuxhumana ngokuxhumana, izingcingo nangezimpelasonto ndawonye.
Ngakho-ke, uma unomuzwa wokuthi umuntu embhedeni welanga ongomakhelwane olwandle umnandi, ungagijimeli ukwenqaba umnikelo wakhe wokudla. Kungenzeka ukuthi lesi sidlo sakusihlwa sizobe sisekuqaleni kobudlelwano obuhle kakhulu.