Izazi zezengqondo zivame ukubhekana nezikhalazo zabazali mayelana nokuthi indodana noma indodakazi yabo enkulu ayisakwazi ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo: iyaqhubeka nokuhlala nabazali bayo, yize sekuyisikhathi sokwenza umndeni wakho, akunandaba nanoma yini. Kungani kwenzeka, futhi ngubani okufanele asolwe? Ake sizame ukuthola.
Masikhumbule ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani ngaphambili (kufanelekile, uma ngabe uneminyaka engama-40 manje): Baya emsebenzini, izingane zisebenzise isikhathi esiningi emagcekeni abo noma zivakashele abangane babo. Ngokuvamile, abazali banokuphila okukodwa, ezinganeni - omunye. Ezikhathini zaseSoviet, kwakukhona ukusinda okubaluleke kakhulu, funa isisebenzi esijwayelekile esichithe isikhathi sakhe sonke sokwenza imali nokuthola izinqumo ekuqhubekeni kwezingane ezemfundo. Njengoba wena uyaqonda, abantu abadala babengenaso isikhathi sokunaka inhlangano yezengqondo kanye nezinkinga zengqondo zezingane. Akumangazi ukuthi lezo zingane manje zinempumelelo impela yabantu abadala, ziye esifundeni isazi sezengqondo, zilwa nokwesaba isizungu nokungaqondi kwazo.
Vumela ingane ukuthi ikhethe isifundo somphefumlo
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Abaningi abanakuthethelela abazali abathi, ngokwezingane, abanakanga kakhulu kubo njengoba bethanda. Ngakho-ke, baphakamisa izingane zabo ngaphansi kwesiqubulo esithi "Ubuntwana babo buzohluka." Inengozi yayo lapha, ngemuva kwakho konke, ifuna ukunika izingane zakho ukuthi ziyini ngokwazo, singakwazi kalula "ukuwela induku" - futhi lapha ingane iyaqhubeka ijabule, kepha nansi imfuno.
Akekho othi kuyadingeka ukugcina i-Chado ku-ror, kodwa futhi nokubonakala kuyingozi eyingozi, okokuqala, ngokwakhe, ngoba umuntu onobunzima uzoba nobunzima obuningi mayelana nesethulo sakhe esihle somhlaba.
Ngokusho kwabathile bezengqondo, kubalulekile ukungabi ngumama ofanele, kodwa okuhle. Kusho ukuthini? Chaza.
Osemusha uzohlala alinde usizo lwakho
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Lapho umuntu efika eneminyaka yobudala esemusha, imvelo ihlinzeka ngokwahlukana kwayo kubazali abantu abadala, kodwa-ke, kwabazali banamuhla badala izimo "zokugcina ukushisa" lapho osemusha akabonanga iphuzu lomqondo. Okwani? Umama uzohlala elungiselela, agoqa, imivimbo, azophonsa imali. Uma edlulela ngalé kwemingcele yendlu, kuzoba nempilo embi, engaziwa, lapho izoba ngedwa ngokuphelele.
Ukuphela kwesisombululo esifanele esimweni esinjalo kuzoba ukwakhiwa kwezimo lapho ingane yakho ethandwa ngayo umuntu afuna ukuzishukumisela khona. Futhi asikhulumi ngezindlela ezinobudlova, vele uvumele ube ngumzali ongahambi kahle: kwesinye isikhathi ungapheki, ucele ukuthi yenze ingane yakho, ungavumeli imali uma ikwazi ukuhola. Kancane kancane kuzosuka endaweni efile, futhi yena uqobo ufuna ukuhlukana nawe.
Enye inkinga iba yisikhuthazo ngokweqile, esiqala kakhulu ebuntwaneni: ekuphishekeleni ukulinganisa okuhle nempumelelo emisebenzini ehlukahlukene, abazali ngeke bathengwe ngokuholelwa kwezingane zabo. Ngenxa yalokho, ingane isivele ivela esikoleni samabanga aphansi iyazi ukuthi umzali (futhi ngokuzayo kanye nomlingani) bayohlala behlinzeka ngakho njalo, ngakho-ke zonke izifiso zizodidiza nganoma yini. Okungukuthi, ukuzama ukuhlanganisa ingane ukufeza, abazali benza okubi kakhulu.
Ingane kumele ifunde ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo, ngokwesibonelo, ithola umsebenzi ngokuzimela
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Okufanele ngikwenze? Okokuqala, ungagijimeli ukunqoba wonke ama-vertices. Nikeza ingane isikhathi sokunquma ukuthi yini okuhehayo kuye nokuthi wayefuna ukukwenza. Intshisakalo yemvelo izonikeza imiphumela eminingi kakhulu, njengoba ingane izoba yizinyathelo ngokwakhe. Esikhathini esizayo, ngeke abe nesisusa sokulinda abazali, ngokwesibonelo, aphonse uhlobo nomsebenzi, ngoba umkhuba wokufunda uzothuthukiswa vele kusukela ebuntwaneni.
Wethemba izingane zakho ngokwengeziwe, zisekele imizamo yazo futhi zingabeki izifiso zakho ezingafinyeleleki. Kulesi simo kuphela ingane ezothuthukisa umuzwa wokuzibophezela empilweni yabo.