Yiba ngumlimi - isiqubulo, ngaphansi kwawo angeniswanga esizukulwaneni sabafana. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umehluko phakathi kwe- "ndoda yangempela" ne- "ndoda yangempela" wonke umuntu uyaqonda: owokuqala - okunesihluku sangempela, okuwubungozi kuye ngomgwaqo omncane - awusoze wazi ukuthi yini, futhi umzuzwana uxazulula zonke izinkinga nge usizo lwezingxoxo. Ubukeka kahle, uyanuka, awenamahloni okuphuma naye. Uma ungabheka ingane. Njengomthetho, abafana abanjalo badelela labo bantu abavela entweni yokuqala: bakholelwa ukuthi zonke lezi zitolo ze-barber nezinkambiso zowesilisa zingamaqhinga abesifazane abanobuqili abafuna ukuthatha indawo yabo. Ama-prerogatives "wamadoda" alahlekelwe yindawo yawo emphakathini asesabi emahlaya, ngakho-ke azama ukufakazela i-masculin yawo ngazo zonke izindlela.
Kodwa-ke, empilweni yangempela, ngeke uhlangabezane nommeleli we- "Purebred" walezi zinhlobo: Amadoda amaningi ahlanganisa ngempumelelo izici zombili. Ngezikhathi ezithile, "umuntu" wangaphakathi esekelwa ekubonweni kwe- "proplomat", kulesi simo, le ndoda iqala ukukhombisa ulaka ukukhombisa ukuphakama kwayo. Le nto ibizwa ngokuthi ubutha obunobuthi. Kumiswa kakhulu ngumphakathi, odala ama-stereotypes ngokuthi "umuntu wangempela" kufanele abuke futhi aziphathe futhi aziphathe kahle.
Emcabangweni we- "Men Real" Izitolo zeBarber kanye nezindawo zokuphumula azikho
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Kepha cishe njalo ubutha obunobuthi obunobuthi buletha umuntu othile ohlupheka, ngoba ufihla ukungahambisani kwakhe, okunamahloni okuvula abantu. Amadoda anjalo athambekele kuzo zonke izinhlobo zokuphazamiseka, ukucindezelwa kanye nokudangala. Ngemuva kwesikhashana, baqala ukuphazamisa ngisho nomndeni wabo.
Ngakho-ke yini enikeza lo masculin "ohlangothini" kakhulu endodeni? Kunezimpawu eziyisithupha lapho uzoba lula ukubala khona owesilisa bese unquma ukuthi kufanele ungene kuye:
Babelana ngemisebenzi ngokuqinile kwabesilisa nabesifazane
Indoda enjalo iqinisekile ukuthi le ndoda inemisebenzi eminingana imvumela ukuba afeze, kanti abanye awekho. Sekubi. Yize kunjalo, kuvela ukuthi le stereotype ibeka owesilisa ngaphambi kokuthi akwazi ukuphonsela inselelo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, indoda ayisetshenziswanga ukubhekisisa ngemivimbo. Isimo esinjalo siphakamisa ukungalingani okukhulu emphefumulweni wakhe, okungaholela ekucindezelekeni okuvela, uma kungaxazululeki ngokushesha okukhulu.
Akukho lutho olubi uma owesilisa wakho ebiza inkosi, futhi engasebenzi endlini uqobo
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Unganaki imizwa yowesifazane wakho
Hhayi into yowesilisa ukusabela izinyembezi zabesifazane kanye nokukhala. Indoda ayifuni ukuxhumana lapho owesifazane edinga ukukhuluma, lapho umuntu eba imbangela ye-tangler iyaxabana nokungaqondi. Futhi lokho kungaholela ku-pair, wena ngokwakho uyaqonda.
Phikisana nokuthi isithembu sijwayelekile
Emphakathini wabesilisa, "umuntu wangempela" empeleni uyasebenza ngokobulili. Makube nje ngamazwi, kepha ukusho lokhu enkampanini yabanye "amadoda" kungenjalo angcwele.
Uma umuntu empeleni ekhombisa intshisekelo yobudlova kubobulili obuhlukile, yena, njengomthetho, awunakekeli impilo yakhe, futhi kunzima ukuyixosha kudokotela ukuze ayohlolwa.
Banokuzilibazisa kwangempela kwabesilisa
Amanye amadoda aqoqa ngokuthukuthelisa kuvulandi emimeyeni yokuzingela, izingqinamba zomagazini bamadoda abadumile kule minyaka eyishumi edlule, amasethi wamathuluzi weseluleko somngane omkhulu. Futhi abadingi njalo izimfanelo "zowesilisa". Indoda ingabhekana nomqondo wokuzingela, futhi isikulufa simphuca ukulangazelela.
Makaqonde ukuthi akukho lutho olusolwa ukuthi uhehwa ifilimu lomlobi noma ukutshalwa kwama-orchid.
Ukugwema Izinkinga Zomndeni ngeke kukwenze ube nesibindi
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Owesifazane weqiniso akayona isimemezelo
Imvamisa lesi simo sijwayelekile semindeni lapho abantu bengazi ukuthi bahlela kanjani isikhathi futhi bahlanganise indawo yomuntu siqu ngemisebenzi ezungeze iNdlu. Kulokhu, indoda iqala ukufuna inkululeko eyengeziwe kumkayo, noma ngabe asikho isizathu sokufuna.
Owesilisa unzima njenge-flint
"Indoda ayikhangi" - elinye ibinzana eliveza inqubo ebhubhisayo le-psyche, njengoba owesilisa egcina yonke into ngokwakhe futhi ayinikezi imizwa yokuphuma. Ngokusho kochwepheshe, imbangela evame kakhulu yokufa kwabantu e-United States bangukuzibulala kwabesilisa. Konke kumayelana nemizwa ecindezelekile ezoguqulwa ibe ukudangala, okuholela ekugcineni okudabukisayo.