Umbhangqwana odumile kakhulu ezindaweni ezingokoqobo zaseRussia - umkhwenyana noma umkhwekazi. Futhi uma ukungqubuzana kwengxabano kuhlangene, khona-ke empilweni yalababili ayevame ukungahambi kahle ngaphambi kokuhleka: ngesinye isikhathi ukuxabana nokungaqondi kuholela ekuphuleni komndeni. Futhi uma umbhangqwana uhlala nomkhwekazi womamezala efulethini elifanayo, ubuhlobo buyanda emkhawulweni. Ngakho-ke kanjani ukwenza lokho hhayi ukwenza ukukhetha phakathi kukanyoko nomyeni wakho?
Kungani umkhwekazi wezimpikiswano
Kumama, ingane nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ihlala isidalwa, futhi, ngokusho kwabazali, idinga ukunakekelwa nokusiza ekwenzeni isinqumo. Abesifazane abancane kuphela abanokuqonda okwenele ukuthi indodakazi yabo kade yaba yindoda endala ngokwakhe abakwaziyo ukukhetha indoda nokwakha ubuhlobo naye ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka. Yiziphi izimangalo ezingase zenzeke eduze komkhwekazi?
Owesifazane ukholelwa ukuthi ngendodakazi yakhe, akekho, noma omunye umuntu akwazi ukuthatha isinqumo esinesisindo kulokhu noma leyo ndaba, ngakho-ke ukungenelela kuyadingeka. Esimweni esinjalo, owesilisa kufanele afakazele umkhwekazi wakhe ukuthi indodakazi yakhe yathola isinqumo esifanele, ithembela kumuntu onokwethenjelwa. Kodwa-ke, kwezinye izimo, "ama-featue" akho kungenzeka angathinti umfazi oyisisekelo.
Umamezala umama ungangabaza ngamabomu ngezenzo zoMkhwenyana, ngoba ngokwakhe uthi igunya lakhe ngamehlo endodakazi yakhe. Kunzima kuye ukwamukela iqiniso lokuthi indodakazi endala manje isibona umsizi kanye nomeluleki lapho ebhekene nomunye umuntu.
Kungenzeka kungathandeki ithuba. Ngemuva kwalokho uqala ukuphikisana nakho konke okuzokwenza umuntu. Owesifazane ukholelwa ukuthi yibona kuphela ukuthi uyakwazi ukukhetha indodakazi yakhe umbhangqwana wayo, kodwa lokho akuthola akukuhle noma kuphi. Indodakazi iqala ukuthukuthela, yavezwa umama wayo ekungamukelweni kwakhe, ngaleyo ndlela abhekane nabantu ababili ababiza kakhulu.
Umama angamongela indodakazi yakhe. Uma umgodi omkhulu ukhala empilweni yomuntu siqu kamama, uqala ukonakalisa impilo nalokhu kanye nezihlobo zakhe futhi aqala, abeseduze kakhulu.
Abesifazane abaningi kunzima ukwamukela ukuthi indodakazi isivele ikhulile
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Kungani Ukuxabana Nomkhwe
Imvamisa, isizathu sengxabano siba ngumkhwenyana. Umuntu ngamunye unemibono nemibono yawo ezimweni ezithile nalapho umbono wakhe uhlukile kakhulu komunye umbono, esimweni sethu - umamezala, ukushayisana akunakugwenywa. Yiziphi izimbangela amadoda?
Uma owesilisa enobunzima obunzima, ake sithi, umama uhlala ecindezelwa noma ebeka imibono yakhe, noma yikuphi ukunyakaza okufanayo komkhwezala abona kabi kakhulu, adlulisela isithombe esingesihle sikamama.
Isifiso sokubusa. Kuyiqiniso, emhlabeni wabesilisa ngaphandle kwawo, kodwa empilweni evumelanayo yomndeni, ukuguquguquka kubalulekile. Lapho bobabili umkhwenyana, nomkhwenyana niba nesisekelo nangobunzima, futhi nabo bahlala ensimini eyodwa, kungekudala bazoqala ukwehlukanisa le nsimu.
Ukungahloniphi umama. Isizathu sokushayisana okuqinile kungaba ubutha uqobo, lapho indoda ngezizathu ezahlukahlukene iqala ukuzonda umama womkakhe, futhi ikwenza obala.
Kwesinye isikhathi "uthando" omama nomyeni luphela ngosuku lomshado
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Lapho unkosikazi ephazamisa
Kwesinye isikhathi amaqembu womabili angaba khona ngokuphelele ngokuthula kuze kube yilapho umfazi engenela. Amacala anzima kakhulu - lapho unkosikazi esephila impilo yeningi nonina futhi akakwazi ukwenza izinqumo ngokwakhe, ngoba imvamisa yenza umuntu ogunyaziwe. Manje, ukuba ngowesifazane oshadile, uhlala engelutho futhi kunoma yisiphi isimo esingaqondakali esinxusa kuMama, yize kungafiseleka kumyeni wakhe. Ngenxa yalokho, lo mbhangqwana uphila ngokwemithetho yoMkhwe kamezala, yize le ndoda yashada nomunye umuntu wesifazane, umama wakhe "eMbusweni wakhe. Kulokhu, unkosikazi uyacelwa ukuthi abonane nodokotela wezengqondo, kepha lokhu kungenzeka kuphela uma ngokwalo uqobo ebona ubukhona benkinga enjalo.
Uma ukungqubuzana kungaxazululwa, kuzoholela ehlukanisweni
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Ukungaqondi emndenini kuguqula indlu ibe yimpi yaphakade yempi, yephula inkambo yokuphila ejwayelekile. Endlini enjalo akukubi ukubuya, bonke abakhileyo benovalo, noma yiliphi igama elinganakekeli lingakhula libe yisakali esihle.
Kwesinye isikhathi umfazi kufanele enze ukukhetha: ukuhlala nomyeni wakhe, kodwa kuze kube phakade ukuwa nomama, noma isehlukaniso. Azikho izinketho ezizofanele. Kubalulekile ukugcina ubudlelwano ezinhlangothini zombili bese uzama okungenani okuncane, kepha ukubuyisana.
Uma izingxoxo zingasizi, futhi umkhwekazi udlulela esigabeni esivulekile senzondo evulekile, esikhathini esizayo esiseduze kakhulu udinga ukuthumela "umbhangqwana" kudokotela wezengqondo, ngoba uchwepheshe kuphela ongqubuzana naye kuholele emkhunjini odabukisayo.