Izingxabano ziyingxenye ebalulekile yempilo yethu yansuku zonke. Kunzima ukucabanga ukuthi ngisho nasemndenini ojabulisayo futhi ovumelanayo azange zenzeke izingxabano, yize ziphikisana nezinkinga zasekhaya. Ngasikhathi sinye, kweminye imikhaya babilisa "izinkanuko zase-Italy", kepha zihlala ziqinile nemishado enjalo amashumishumi eminyaka, ngisho nezingxabano ezingezinhle kunabo bonke ziye ziholele isehlukaniso ngokushesha.
Eqinisweni, izingxabano zomndeni zihlala zinezizathu zazo. Imvamisa, bangenhla kuphela e-Iceberg of mutual infverbity kanye nokuphikisana. Uma emiphakathini yendabuko, amasiko omndeni alawulwa ngamasiko aneminyaka yobudala, izindinganiso zenkolo, manje imindeni yadalwa ngabantu abanemfundo ehlukene ngokuphelele, amazinga amasiko, amamodeli ahlukile wokuziphatha kwasekhaya. Iningi lomshado selivele linokuhlangenwe nakho kwempilo yomndeni yangaphambilini noma yokuhlangana, okucishe kuqinise ngaso ukuba khona kwezinye izitembu ezisunguliwe kanye nama-stereotypes, okuhlobene nezimo ozifunayo zokuziphatha emndenini nakule yansuku zonke.
Isimo sokuqala nenhloko sokuvimbela izingxabano zomndeni ukuphikisana kwabashadikazi komunye nomunye kanye nenhlonipho enambana. Intukuthelo efihliwe, amanga, ukunganele okuqhubekayo nezenzo kanye nobuntu bomuntu wesibili - isinyathelo sokuqala sokuya ekukhuphukeni kwezimo zezingxabano futhi, noma ukuncibilikisa umndeni, noma ukuguqulwa kobudlelwano bomshado ku Ukuqamba, ukuqaqakala lapho abashadikazi empeleni bephendukela ezindaweni ezijwayelekile, hhayi kubantu abaseduze kakhulu kwabantu.
Lapho enye inkinga ivela emndenini, into enengqondo kunazo zonke abangane abashadikazi ukuthi bayixoxe ngokuthula, ngaphandle kokuhlanjalazwa, ukuthuka kanye nokuguqukela kubantu. Cabanga nje ukuthi sixazulula inkinga evuka emsebenzini - enkampanini noma esikhungweni somphakathi: ozakwabo abanele abasoze bagqashula ekukhaleni nasekuhlaselweni. Ngokwesikimu esifanayo, izinkinga kufanele zixoxwe ngempilo yomndeni ngamunye: ngezezimali zokukhulisa izingane futhi zisondele kakhulu. Lapho efunde ukukhuluma iqiniso ngokukhululekile, lalelani omunye komunye futhi niqondane, ungakugwema izingxabano eziningi futhi usindise umndeni ekubhujisweni.
Vele, isici esibaluleke kakhulu yikhono lokuzwelana nabalingani babo bobabili. Uma kungekho kuzwela, khona-ke ukuxhumana okugcwele, okuqotho akunakwenzeka: Oshade naye nje ngeke aze acabangizise endaweni yomunye umuntu oshade naye futhi uzizwe nje ukuthi umlingani wakhe womshado azizwa.
Amandla okuzitholela, isifiso sokuthuthukisa ubuntu babo bobabili nobuhlobo babo noshade naye / owakwakheni kuyindlela ebalulekile yokuvimbela izingxabano zomndeni. Ngeshwa, iningi labalingani linamathela isikhundla sengcindezi kumlingani wesibili ukuze silishintshe futhi senze imithetho yabo yomdlalo, kepha ingasebenzisi lesi sikhundla kubo. Ngaleso sikhathi, indlela enjalo yokuziphatha "ihamba kancane" ngaphansi kwesisekelo sobudlelwano phakathi komuntu emshadweni noma ekuhlanganeni. Kuyadingeka hhayi nje ukulindela noma yiziphi izinguquko zaba ngcono kusuka engxenyeni yesibili, kodwa futhi nokushintsha kakhulu (ngokwakhe), eveze izenzo zabo ezingezinhle futhi zifuna ukuzinciphisa. Uma omunye ophilayo omunye anamathela emodeli ebugovu futhi edinga ukuthi ayithathe njengoba kunjalo, khona-ke izimo zezingxabano zizongenakugwenywa futhi umndeni onjalo uzophenduka ekuhlanganeni kwabantu okuke waphikisana.
Kumele siqonde ukuthi inkhulumomphendvulwano evulekile, uzwela nokuzimisela ukulalela nokuhlonipha umlingani kuyizinto eziyisisekelo zokuphila komndeni okujabulisayo, izingxabano ezingaba khona, kepha ngeke zibe namandla okubhubhisa.