Imizwelo ingumthombo onamandla ngamunye wethu. Kepha kungani bedingeka nokuthi ungabenza kanjani basebenzele kithi?
Ngiseyingane, abaningi bethu bathi: Ungakhali, ungahleki kakhulu, ungafuni kakhulu, awukwazi, udle okudingayo noma cha .... Izidingo ezinjalo zivame ukuholela eqinisweni lokuthi umuntu uyayeka ukuqonda imizwa yakhe, azicindezele noma okuphambene nalokho akulawuleki. Kukhona amantombazane athi "amahle" ajwayele ukuthi bonke abazali bazinqumele bona, futhi emadodeni amadala amadala, akaziqondi lokho akufunayo, nasemnyakeni owengeziwe aqala ukuzisola ngamaphupho amaphupho. Kwabesilisa, ukuqonda okufanayo kwemizwa yabo kubaluleke kakhulu kunobulili obuthakathaka. Ngosizo lwemizwa, ungakha ubuhlakani obunamandla ngokomzwelo ozosiza ekutholeni imali, ukuphatha abantu futhi ujabule abathandekayo bakho. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izwe elingokomzwelo lihlotshaniswa kakhulu ne-psychoshomatics, futhi uma ucindezela imizwa yakho, kungahle kungathinti impilo. Umzimba wethu uvumelana nezimo zethu, imicabango, imizwa, kanye nemizwelo ebaluleke kakhulu.
Umphumela wokulungiswa okunjalo uvame ukuvela kwezifo ezahlukahlukene. Izifo ze-Psychoshomatics yizifo zezitho zangaphakathi zezinhlaka kanye nezinhlelo zomzimba ezivela kumthelela wezinto ezingokwengqondo noma ezingokomzwelo. Izifo ze-Psychosomatic zingu-Asthma, isifo se-asthma, isifo se-ulcerative yesisu ne-duodenum, i-migraine, isifo sikashukela, ukuphazamiseka kwezocansi, kanye nokuphazamiseka komjikelezo wokuya esikhathini kwabesifazane nokunye okuningi. Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi zonke lezi zifo zihlukile, kuzona izici eziningi ezijwayelekile. Ngakho-ke ukuqala kwalesi sifo kucasulwa yizici zezengqondo, isenzo esingaba yisikhathi esifushane (ukufa kothandekayo, ukudangala), isikhathi eside (ukungqubuzana emndenini, esimweni somuntu esimthandayo) noma okungamahlalakhona (ukuba khona kwezinkinga ezingenakunqotshwa ngenxa yezici zomuntu, okuyinkimbinkimbi engapheleli). Ezinye izifo ziyifa. Ukucindezelwa okufanayo ngokomzwelo kubangela ukusabela okuhlukahlukene nezifo ezivela kubantu abehlukene.
Lo mehluko uzimisele kufaka phakathi izici zobuntu. Uma ubuntu bunomqondo wokuphikisana, ovuthazayo, othambekele ekuvuseleleni ngolaka futhi uphoqelekile ukubanqanda ngokuvamile umfutho wegazi, khona-ke umuntu unamahloni, ogqamile, ecashile. Umzabalazo wempilo yabo uzosiza ucwaningo kanye nokuphathwa kwemizwa yabo.
Kepha ake sibheke ukuqala, okuyini imizwa? Futhi ngakho-ke ngokwayo le nqubo yengqondo ibonisa isimo sengqondo sokucabanga ngezimo ezikhona noma ezingaba khona. Umthombo umzwelo-subconscious, kanye nemizwa kungaba yikhono lokwazi. Imizwelo iphakathi komhlaba wonke, futhi isimo sikubantu kuphela. Ngakho-ke yini okufanele uyenze ngabo nokuthi baphinde bafunde kanjani ukuqonda imizwa yakho, bawaphathe futhi bakwenze kubenzele bazisebenzele? Le nqubo ende ingeyekunye. Udinga ukuqala ngokulungiswa kwedayari. Nsuku zonke, uhlela zonke izehlakalo ezibalulekile zansuku zonke, bese ubhala phansi ukuthi uzizwa usesikhathini somcimbi nangemva kokuphothulwa kwawo. Lokhu kuholela ekushintsheni enkambweni yokucabanga nokukhululwa kusuka ekuphendukeni okuzenzakalelayo nemikhuba.
Ukuqapha njalo kobuchwepheshe bawo obuhlukile - obuhlukile ekuthuthukiseni ubuhlakani obungokomzwelo. I-Emotional Intelligence ukuphathwa okuqondayo kwemizwa ngokuqalisa kabusha imizwa engemihle nokuqapha imizwa emihle. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuzokusiza uzikhuthaze. Imizwa izoqala umsebenzi kuwe, empilweni yakho, ikhwalithi yempilo kanye nengcebo yezezimali. Ungesabi imizwa engemihle, udinga ukufunda ukubaqonda, ukukhathazeka futhi ushintshe, noma ngabe kuzothunyelwa noma yini.
Ziqonde, kulula ngawe ukuba uqonde abanye abantu abavela emiphakathini ehlukahlukene futhi ubaphathe.
Uma ungumholi, kulula ukwakha iqembu enhlokodolobha engokomzwelo.
Ukusebenza ngokwakho kuphela ozonikeza umphumela, khumbula ukuthi imizwa yakho, njengempilo yakho ezandleni zakho. Funda ukuguqula imizwa ubuhlakani obungokomzwelo, futhi uthole imali ngaleli khono lokwenza imali, ukuqashelwa komphakathi, uthando nokuhlonipha abantu ababalulekile.