Esihlokweni esidlule, saphikisana ngokuthi kungani kunzima ukuthethelela abazali lapho bedala. Futhi ngokuphelele ukuthinta ngokuphelele esihlokweni esinjalo, wehlise uhlangothi lwayo olubuyela emuva. Kothile, abazali bayizilo, futhi kothile - izingelosi, azikho ngaphansi. Okuhle, okungenamqondo, okunothando futhi kuthandekayo, ukubuka okuhle kakhulu nokukhululwa kwabo.
Ukuba ngumzali uqobo, ngingasho ukuthi lokhu kunjalo, kuyiphupho. Iphupho ukuze izingane zami zingaze zethule "ukulandisa" ngamaphutha ami. Ukuze abheke kubo, njengasesibukweni sokuba ngumama wakhe, ngangithi: "Konke kwenziwa ngendlela efanele." Inganekwane enjalo engavuthiwe esiza ukwehlisa amandla okuba necala.
Ubuzali banamuhla nalo muzwa buhlangana kakhulu. Kuqala ukukhulelwa, uhlangothi oluvukelayo lwenjabulo yiwayini, lilele ngokuphelele kumama nokuncane - kuYise. Ngobudlova, ukukhuliswa, ukuziphatha, kamuva, ukubuka komhlaba nezenzo zengane zasola abazali. Umphakathi ohlelwe kanjalo. Ngokuthuthukiswa kwe-Intanethi, izihloko ezikhuluma ngecala labomama nobaba baba phezulu engxoxweni. Ukuphawula ngeHesteg, iJazhem, kwaqala ukwenza ukukhathazeka okuhlekisayo ngezingane, okuthunyelwe mayelana nezingane ezimemeza ngendiza, zithanda ukulala nabanye abagibeli, zithola ukuthandwa okukhulu ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi. Emehlweni omphakathi, umama akaphelele , Ubaba ungaphansi kwemibuzo emasikweni ethu. Noma yini umama ayenzayo, noma yini, engxenyeni ethile yomphakathi, kuzobe akulungile futhi asolwe ngokukhethwa kwezindlela zokunakekela zengane nokukhuliswa kwawo. Futhi yini esele omama abanjalo? Ngaphansi - Obaba, okusele?
Ingane ithanda abazali bayo ngaphandle kwemibandela, kepha akudingekile ukuyisebenzisa
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Ababukeli kuphela abangazi ukuthi kufanele kube kanjani lokho empeleni yizingane zabo. Banqotshwa yinoma iyiphi intando yabazali. Okudabukisa ngokwedlulele, bathanda abazali babo, futhi kaningi akuvumeli ukuthi babone umzali wangempela noma onesihluku. Isikhathi eside sihlala silungele izingane. Futhi ngalokhu, ngeshwa, kulula ukuqala ukusebenzisa, ngaleyo ndlela kukhuthaze ukungabi nabulungisa kokuqala kwezwe elizungezile. Noma ngabe umama azi ukuthi unomdaka ogcwele ebudlelwaneni bakhe, ukuvuma umbuso kanye namanga, khona-ke emehlweni engane, yena ukuphelela okwenzayo ukwenza konke ukuze kugcinwe umndeni. Futhi lapho owesilisa eyeka ukwenza imali enakekela imali, ingane, uma ethulake kahle, isikhathi esithile azozwelana nobaba, ngoba ulindele umphefumulo wephupho, futhi akamkhapheli umphefumulo wephupho, futhi akakukhapheli umphefumulo emsebenzini ongathandwa.
Bahlele abazali bengane - lokhu kuyinto evamile. Kuyena, bayizingelosi ezihlanga, bazenza amandla namandla, ukugcwaliseka kwazo zonke izifiso nezidingo zakhe, ikakhulukazi lapho esemncane. Inkinga ivela lapho abazali beqala ukunwebeka ngokunamathela kothando lwengane kubaphathi bawo.
Okwengane, inemiphumela eqinile. Ukucabanga ebuntwaneni wentsha kufakwe umugqa ukuze kubucayi futhi kuvuselele izisekelo zazo, ezitholwe emndenini wabazali ngokuzalwa, ukunqoba igunya labo kanye nokuzimela komuntu ngamunye. Kepha yiliphi i-bunte esikhuluma ngalo? Ungavukela kanjani ofanelekayo? Ngemuva kwakho konke, ulungile. Yini okungenzeka ingahleli?
Kepha Ushintsho kudingeka ukwakheka kobuntu obugcwele . Akunakuba khona umuntu ozimele ongazi ukuthi angazivikela kanjani, athembele ezahlulelweni zakhe alandele iqiniso lakhe. Imvamisa, la makhono ayakhiwa ebusheni, kepha awakhiwa nhlobo uma kukhona umzali ophelele. Kulesi sikhathi sengqondo, umuntu onamathele namashumi eminyaka kamuva uqala ukuvukela ezinye iziphathimandla: abalingani bakhe, abaphathi, abayeni noma amakhosikazi, hhayi nhlobo ekhelini futhi abhubhise amaphrojekthi adalwe nguYe. Konke ngoba uma umzali ophelele asebenzise ithuba lothando lwengane yakhe, wakuthatha ukuze aqashile ukuze anciphise ingcindezi yecala lakhe. Futhi izingane zakhe ezikhulayo ezivele zadala imindeni yazo ziziphatha njengamantombazane aneminyaka engu-13 ubudala kanye nabafana, zilwele amandla, zikuhlehlise ukuzithemba lapho kulungile.
Abazali abafanele abanalutho abangasogxeka. Kepha umbango uyadingeka ekwakhekeni kobuntu bengane
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Futhi-ke, umshini ophelele uyaphindwa esizukulwaneni esilandelayo. Uma nje umuntu engaqali ukuthumela icala lakhe icala lakhe, zizinze lapho ebhekene nezinhlamvu zomphakathi, ezingaphezu kwamanani wangempela. Lapho abazali abaningi befunda ukukhulisa izingane, bancike kumanani, izingane ezincane kuzofanela zithwale izimpahla zecala labazali, ngakho-ke zikhululeke ngokwengeziwe empilweni yazo nangokoqobo. Iqiniso likude kakhulu, nokuthi kuyathakazelisa.
Kepha Kuthiwani uma unabazali "abahle"? Fair? Qala ukujwayelana nawe. Nabo loveal. Ngawe ngamanga, ubugwala, nje, unamahloni, unamaqabunga, angathembekile, anokungabekezeleli, anomoya ophansi, anganakwa ... futhi ubone lokhu kufana nabazali bakho. Ngisho nokuthi ukwenza kube lula futhi kuzoqala ukuthi "i-apula kusuka esihlahleni se-apula iyawa." Kwesinye isikhathi iminyaka ishiye, kepha akudingekile. Uzwela alujabulisi, kepha ukuphela kwenjabulo kungukujwayela okungokoqobo.