Abaningi bethu bawezwa ngokujwayelekile: "Indodakazi yami ingumngane wami omkhulu." Vele, ungahle ucabange: Yini engalungile ngeqiniso lokuthi umama ungumngane osondelene nendodakazi yakhe, njengoba ososayensi bezengqondo babheka, ubudlelwane bezengqondo buyakucabanga, ubudlelwane obunjalo bungabhubhisa i-psyche yentombazane. Sinqume ukuthola ukuthi kungani kufanele useshe izintombi ngaphandle komndeni futhi ugcine ubudlelwano phakathi kwendodakazi kamama.
Ukubuka komndeni kuhlanekezelwe
Okokuqala, lapho uba ngabangane bendodakazi yami, abaphathi bamapharisi badinga ukukhulisa ingane iyaphazamiseka. Indodakazi yakho kufanele ibone igunya ebusweni bakho. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ngeke ulinde ubuhlobo obunenhlonipho endodakazini yami manje, hhayi ukuguga.
Akukho kubaphathi phakathi kwabangane, kuyilapho kudingeka emndenini. Ukusuka lapha kunezinkinga lapho intombi ikhumbula ngokuzumayo ukuthi ungumama, futhi idinga ukugcwaliseka kwentando yakhe, kodwa indodakazi isivele iyibona njengomuntu ngokulinganayo, ngakho-ke ayiboni iphuzu lokulalela. Lapho-ke umama uzama ukufeza kwakhe, ukucindezela indodakazi, kwesinye isikhathi okuholela ezingxabanweni ezingalungiswa. Ingane kumele iqonde ukuthi ekhanda lomndeni kunamabili kuphela - umama nobaba.
Ungaphuli imingcele
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Umncintiswano ongadingekile
Ukuncintisana kuyavela ngokungafanele ngesimo sabantu ngokungenakugwemeka, bayakufuna noma cha. Khumbula izintombi zabangane bakho abalinganisa ikhabethe kanye nezinga lempumelelo kubantu. Ezintombini, lokhu kuyinto ejwayelekile, kepha hhayi ngomama nendodakazi.
Umsebenzi womama - ukwakha ukuzithemba okufanele kwendodakazi, uzovuma ukuthi lapho ubhekene nomncintiswano onzima akunakwenzeka. Umama uzama ukugqoka njengontanga yendodakazi yakhe, uthi, njengabo afunda nabo, futhi ngokuvamile bezama ukubonakala okuncane, yize kunomehluko omkhulu ubudala.
Kukhona futhi amanani lapho umama ezama ukuletha indodakazi yakhe, ethatha intombazane emihlanganweni nabangane bayo, ehola ezindaweni ezinesifiso sabesifazane, ixoxa ngezinkinga zabesifazane beminyaka yabo. Konke lokhu kungabukela phansi i-psyche engashesha.
Ukunakekelwa kukamama
Ngokomunye wezengqondo waseJalimane, izingane kufanele zithole amandla avela kubazali, kepha hhayi okuphambene. Okungukuthi, ukugeleza kufanele kuqondiswe kusuka phezulu kuya phansi. Lapho owesifazane okhulile ezama ukusungula ukushintshana kwamandla enu nokwenzeka, akazange ancishiswe anciphise ubuntwana bakhe. Lokhu kwenzeka kaningi ezimweni lapho owesifazane ebhekene nesehlukaniso, kulokhu, kuqala ukukhononda indodakazi yakhe, funa ukusekelwa enganeni. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ngokuxoxa ngezinkinga zempilo yami nengane, wehlela ezingeni lawo futhi uphoqe indodakazi ukuba ibe nomdala kunesidingo. Nikeza ingane ithuba lokuphila ebuntwaneni kwikhoyili ephelele, yeka ukuthunyelwa.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, indodakazi izoyeka ukuvuma igunya lakho
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Phakathi kwakho, kwalasha
Umama nendodakazi bahlanganyela eyodwa, noma izizukulwane ezimbili. Vele, kwenzeka ukuthi umama ubuke izitayela kanye neyesimanje uqobo uqobo, kepha isipiliyoni sesikhathi esedlule asikho ndawo. Owesifazane uyazi ezinye izindlela zokuxazulula izinkinga zendodakazi ebhekene nendodakazi ebhekene nayo, ingane ayikanikezeli ukuqonda lokhu eneminyaka yobudala, ngakho-ke ngezikhathi ezithile uzobhekana nokungaqondi ngokuphelele emehlweni engane.
Umvimba ukuba akhule
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ingane "ingezelele esidlekeni", futhi nalokhu kuvamile. Intombazane encane idinga ukuqala ukuzifunda, ukwakha umndeni wayo noma okungenani zama ukukwenza. Lapho lokhu kwenzeka, akubona bonke omama abakulungele ukubona futhi bamukele iqiniso lokuthi indodakazi isivele iyena umfazi oyedwa oyedwa. Ezingeni lokuqonda, umama uzama ukuyogcina indodakazi yakhe, eba yintombi enhle kunazo zonke, ngaleyo ndlela elawula.
Nikeza indodakazi yami ithuba lokwakha impilo yakho
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Ngaphansi kwesifiso sokuba ngumngane wendodakazi yakhe, inhloso uvame ukucashelwa ukugcina noma ukuba nomuntu ongaphansi kohlangothi, noma ngabe ingane kufanele yazi ngayo. Ngakho-ke, gcina imingcele, uyisekele indodakazi yakho, kepha ungaphazamisi impilo yakhe, futhi kuphela kulokhu uzoletha ubuntu obuzinzile ngokomoya